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7 Types of Feminists That Make Me Cringe

5 Feb

 

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There are several definitions of feminism out here:

  1. The advocacy of women’s rights based on the equality of the sexes (Google.com)
  2. A range of political movements, ideologies, and social movements that share a common goal: to define, establish, and achieve political, economic, personal, and social rights for women. (Wikipedia.org)
  3. The belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities. (Merriam-Webster Dictionary)
  4. Refers to any ideology that seeks total equality in rights for women and people who self-identify as women, usually through improving the status of females. (RationalWiki.org)
  5. The doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men. (Dictionary.com)

With the above definitions in clear view, we can conclude that overall the feminist movement is calling for equal rights for women, for anyone who identifies as women to be seen as equals to men, and for women’s “roles” in society to be respected. Some feminists even define feminism as something that helps both sexes achieve equal rights.

I feel that all women can and have benefited from feminism in their own ways. We can’t deny that. Feminism has been a movement that has existed since the 1800s (when the first suffragists rounded up and organized their movement to push for the right to vote). And these movements have shaped the “feminine” identity to this very day.

All women who work, go to school, have sexual relations freely, chose their partners, wear short skirts, pants, and shorts, speak their minds on the internet, and vote should thank the efforts of both peaceful and radical feminists. Women today can’t help but be feminists. As Oprah Winfrey put it, “I don’t think you can really be a woman in this world and not be.” I completely agree with this statement.

I myself, as an African American woman, continue to benefit from the movement. I work, I’ve graduated from college, I have assumed a leadership role, I write this blog to speak my mind publicly, I’m single and love it, I adore androgynous clothing, and I have interests not assumed by most women (such as loving to play video games).

However, I believe it is possible to benefit from feminism, to support equal rights, without agreeing with what every feminist says or thinks. Not all feminists have the same intentions regarding feminism, and it is safe to say that “Third-wave” feminism (modern feminism), the feminism that exists today, has taken a completely different turn.

Julienne Davis, a feminist writer, spoke out about the “third-wave” of feminists in her article “How Did Feminism Get Hijacked By Man-Haters”. Her article inspired me to write this one.

Many feminists are very effective when it comes to pushing women towards a more “inclusive” future. This article is not for those women who really and truly want to help all women.

I want to assume that most feminists have good intentions, but based on some articles and comments I’ve read on the internet, in books, and in essays written by those who were associated or identified as feminists, I can definitely see why some people are no longer taking the feminist movement as seriously and why some women don’t even want to be associated with the movement.

After searching around, I’ve discovered 7 Types of feminists that not only irritate me, and others, but make us all literally sick. In no particular order, I will discuss what is so irritating about them.

The Slut Shamers

The Body Shamers

Ms. Double Standards

Lady Feminine and Lady Masculine

The User and Abuser

Feminazi

Transfeminist Dictators

1. The “Slut-Shamers” (SWERFS)

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I felt this was important to talk about first because it has increasingly been affecting movies, music, music videos, video games, and even TOYS.

There are two reasons why the “slut-shamers” make me sick:

  1. They fail to understand the historical sexual restriction placed on women and how that continues to impact women.
  2. Their nit-picking to producers has been effective in limiting female artistic expression and creative female representation in media and other entertainment avenues.

Many feminists are against the exploitation, objectification, and over-sexualization of women, particularly when done by men. I can understand this well. Obviously, women don’t want to be looked at as “objects”, as tools of men, and want to be respected beyond their appearances. Mutual consent is an important topic as well as how sexuality in media influences young girls, who normally aren’t ready to handle the consequences that come with a sexual identity and sexual experience. Of course, mothers don’t want to encourage their daughters to sexually exploit themselves and they want to get a hold of teen pregnancies (which is said to claim over 700,000 teen girls a year). Teen pregnancy affects a female’s body and socioeconomic conditions severely. I get this.

But I can see why the “Feminist Sex Wars” ensued. There has to be some sort of balance, where women are both in control of their sexuality as well as free to express it.

These Feminists Set Us Back to the 19th Century

For centuries before the 1920s, sexuality was considered strictly for men. In fact, doctors in the 19th century believed that women felt “little or no sexual desire, and that only abnormal or ‘pathological’ women felt strong sexual desire” (“Women in Literature”, Kimberly M. Radek-Hall, 2001).

However, once women began to openly speak about their own sexualities, their right to choose their own sexual partners, and their right to express their sexuality “creatively” or in entertainment, men apparently seemed too “on-board” with this transition, to the point women became looked at as sexual objects by some men. That’s when the new wave of feminists began to debate whether women should be “sex-positive” or “anti-pornographic”.

I personally feel that the feminist movement should support all women. With that being said, I believe that women should have the right to express themselves in any way they like IF they are at a responsible age to handle the consequences. Each woman should be in charge of her “image” towards men or anyone else. If she wants to be looked at as an “object” by men or admired for her body, who are we to tell her she can’t? Or if she just wants to wear less clothing because she lives in a warm climate or because she wants to show off the latest fashion artistically, who are we to tell her she’s wrong? If we are at a point where we believe women should be on the same social plane as men, we should extend those rights we give to men that we give to women.

In fact, I feel we slut-shame women more than we do men, when statistics show that there are more teen dads out here than teen moms, and with more than one child! So much more so, in fact, that they can’t even keep a consistent count! And men are not shamed or protected by their families. I feel it would be more useful to try to get control of these young men because apparently they have the issue here! But if we are not going to say or do anything about our sons, why even try with our daughters? We can’t limit one side of the spectrum without limiting the other.

I especially find it to be super judgmental and contradictory to try to control what a female wears by shaming her into fitting another woman’s standards of beauty and decency. For many slut-shaming feminists, acting sexually isn’t the worst part. Dressing “sexually” is condemned by these feminists as well.

I can understand if someone wants to restrict a child from wearing revealing, see-through clothing and walking around as if she wants male attention. Obviously, a child is not mature enough to advertise herself in that manner. But a grown woman, with her own job, house, and car is old enough to do what she wants with herself. She’s fully prepared to handle the consequences, and no one should stop her from doing what she wants.

And some of these feminists define “sexualized fashion” as a tank top and shorts. These are the feminists that won’t let up on females even if it was 100 degrees outside!

They fail to understand that what one person finds “modest” and “beautiful” is not going to be the same for another person. They fail to understand that climate and weather impacts the way a woman dresses. And they fail to understand that styles always change. Before the 1920s, a one-piece bathing suit was considered indecent. Now, these slut-shaming feminists have suddenly become accepting of it. Why? Women show more skin in a bathing suit than they do in shorts and a tank top! But a mini skirt is worse than a one-piece bathing suit?

There are women in warm climates around the world who live and work in villages and move about their day-to-day life topless. And only western feminists will garble about how these women are “objectifying us all”.

Then, there’s the issue with their “attack” on makeup. I can understand that in our culture, women have too many expectations on them to look beautiful. I understand that feminists should push for women to be more natural. And for those women who want to be all-natural, I think it’s a great stand.

However, we shouldn’t condemn a woman who likes to wear makeup, and we especially shouldn’t assume they want male attention and that they are “sluts”.

Makeup has been worn by people (not just women) for centuries, even in the Egyptian empire. Men and women in Korea wear makeup. It is an art form. Makeup can express many different feelings at one time. People who enjoy art enjoy makeup. But slut-shaming feminists often lack an appreciation for art. Makeup is just associated with “sexualization” and “the search for male attention”.

It’s worse when these women are guilty of the same things they condemn other women for.

Instead of focusing on how women are dressing or how much makeup they’re wearing, maybe we should be focusing on the men who only see these women as sex objects and work on getting them some mental help instead.

Next, I want to talk about pole dancing, prostitution, and erotic dancing.. I do understand that coerced or forced prostitution (prostitution for money as a result of poverty, rape, pimp rings, etc) and sex trafficking are both dangerous and horrible ways for women to live. These issues should be addressed. But if a woman decides she wants to become a prostitute, and use her tricks to create a business, why shouldn’t she? I don’t think this should be illegal and I don’t think we should judge these women or men. They aren’t harming anyone, they’re just trying to make money using the only resource they can at the moment (even if that “resource” is their body). I mean, it’s their body and no one else’s.

The SWERFS believe that prostitution came from an “oppressive patriarchal” society. They believe it emerged at a time when women couldn’t make enough money to feed themselves and so resulted to giving up their bodies and being sex objects to get paid. But if we really think about it, just about everything a modern woman does and wants to do came out of a “patriarchal” society. Jobs like being a secretary, homemaker (stay-at-home moms), and maids came out of an oppressive patriarchal society, and yet we don’t suddenly condemn them or exclude them, even though those jobs put women in submissive roles. So why condemn porn stars or prostitutes just because they have jobs that came out of an oppressive patriarchal society? And if the women enjoy doing it, why comment at all?

Slut-Shaming Feminists Have Destroyed Artistic Expression

Though both sides are in the war, the “anti-pornographic” feminists have mostly dominated in the 21st century, influencing movies, tv shows (like the Powerpuff Girls), music videos (like Ariana Grande, Nicki Minaj), video games (like Tomb Raider), and even toys (like Bratz, Barbie, Betty Spaghetty, and even Monster High).

In most cases, too, these kinds of feminists take their criticisms too far. As a major toy and animation fan, I have personally witnessed how slut-shaming feminists have destroyed amazing, creative, and empowering doll lines, fun video games with iconic characters, and lovable cartoons with their nit-picking.

While I admit that Tomb Raider‘s Lara Croft gives an above-average body portrayal (more on this later), she’s also pretty daring and edgy, really showing that women are capable of anything. It’s no different from the body portrayals of Captain America, Superman, or Thor (which women ironically support and “eat” up). Yet, the feminists picked at Tomb Raider video game so long and so hard, the producers had to alter this iconic character. Many people claim that it had nothing to do with feminists, but we all know feminists have been complaining about that game (and many others) for years now. I don’t understand. What’s wrong with a woman who has a big chest? Some women have it, some don’t. So what? She’s not meant to look real, just like Superman and Thor.

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While the Bratz dolls have been known to wear some of the most outrageous fashions and makeup, they have broken many fashion molds for a doll line. While most girls are expected to look “cute” and “modest”, the Bratz dolls have proven that a passion for fashion and breaking molds can be just as empowering. They were targeted for a tween to teen audience, and didn’t mind dressing like rock stars, jungle queens, Tokyo tourists, you name it. Makeup was used as an art form on the dolls. The Bratz never cared about the social rules. They never let these restrictive “standards” define them. Until the slut-shaming feminists got a hold of them.

Ironically, Bratz dolls have been one of few that have been respected by a male audience. While most of the males did focus on the “fashion” that the Bratz wore, most never looked at them as “sex icons”. They had big heads and big feet; they looked too much like cartoon characters to have been taken as the same sexual models we see in Playboy or Sports Illustrated magazines. Many males have stated that they liked the Bratz dolls because “they [were] unique and appealing”, “unique, cute, adorable, and wonderful”, “the look, the fashion, and the movies and episodes”, and the “high-quality clothes”. To most males, the Bratz are “unique”, well-dressed, with good movies and shows, not overtly “feminine” and “girl-centered” like other doll lines. None of the guys think these dolls are “hot” or “sexy”, but rather bold and original. So, the only ones seeing the “sexualization” of these dolls are feminists. The rest of us are seeing the sass, the boldness, and their girl power.

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From what angle do these feminists draw their conclusion? I grew up with Bratz. Am I a prostitute? No. Was I a teen mom? No. And my vision of the Bratz as a tween was that they were strong, bold, and passionate young teens, ready to take the world by storm (similar to how I saw the Spice Girls). It would’ve been different if they were designed as sexy, attractive girlfriends for a line of male dolls. But the Bratz never portrayed themselves nor never have been portrayed as sex icons, not by males, not by fans, not by anybody. I see more sexual innuendos out there for My Little Pony than I do the Bratz. And what is wrong with having a passion for fashion? Didn’t anyone get the memo that the fashion industry is dominated by male designers? We need to encourage our ladies to think outside of the box, to be the inventors, the designers, the inspiration behind everything. We should be encouraging girls to push the envelope, to explore their passions.

Even young ladies today (the ladies who haven’t been brainwashed by these feminists’ propaganda) can clearly understand that the Bratz are an example of “self-expression” through fashion, and these dolls boldly announce that women can show skin (artistically) without necessarily trying to be attractive to a MAN. I have yet to speak with any tweens or teens that referred to the Bratz as “sexy”. You can see this from some of the comments on Youtube and other SNS websites dedicated to the Bratz. The only people who don’t seem to understand that are the slut-shaming feminists. They want to believe there’s some deep-seated misogynistic feelings these young ladies are “inheriting”… I hardly call the Bratz a form of “male hate” or “male supremacy”, but imagine whatever unicorns you want, my dear.

Moving along…

I want to talk about the new re-vamped Powerpuff Girls cartoon and the controversy regarding Ms. Bellum. I understand that Ms. Bellum’s design was just a body in a sexy suit without a face. But she actually had more of a role than these feminists think. She was the power behind the mayor’s incompetence, she was a confidante for the kindergarten superheroes and a female figure in these girls’ lives, and she was a single, hard-working lady, strong, sexy, and beautiful. Her role had many other messages and undertones. Without her in the series, something is missing.

But apparently, slut-shaming feminists don’t want to leave room for a diverse range of female representations. They would rather all women be the same dry, covered up, stiff women they’ve been since the 1800’s.

I don’t hear these feminists attacking Twilight for having an above-average, full-figured teen male in the story (Jacob Black). I don’t hear the feminists come with the pitchforks against Shoujo anime with these “cardboard box”, super tall, crazy athletic males. Whenever a woman objectifies a male in a written story or movie production, I don’t hear a peep from the slut-shamers.

This extends beyond the realm of toys and cartoons, and even affects famous movie stars and music artists. While many artists want to be respected as artists regardless of what they wear or how sexual they are, many have found a way to balance both an appealing look with a powerful message (like Beyonce).

But the slut-shaming feminists have fired at artists like Ariana Grande, Nicki Minaj, Beyonce, Rihanna, Britney Spears, Salt N’ Pepa, you name it. If they aren’t covered up like old grannies, like Adele, they are a “bad influence”.

Ironically, these same feminists don’t go after male artists like Nick Jonas, Jason Derulo, and others who actually DO the objectifying and talk more about sex than any other artists.

I seldom find young women who get interested in sex because their favorite female artists are into it, and I’ve been working with kids and teens for five years now. Honestly, how many teens can say they did it because Nicki Minaj said it was okay? But when teen girls’ favorite MALE artists are into it, teen girls seem more influenced to explore sex and sexuality. Or better yet, when some guy at their high school tells them how special they are, they are more than likely to do it no matter who is on a movie or music video screen.

I doubt Nicki Minaj got girls more interested in sex than One Direction did or Justin Bieber or Nick Jonas. So, should we shut down all the “heartthrobs” that come onto the music scene just because they express their sexuality and turn teen girls on? We are so quick to attack a female, we hardly think to look at the male stars that influence young girls way more than female stars, who have actually done the opposite!

If you don’t want your kids to be exposed to certain things, fine. As a parent, you have that right. But I don’t agree with taking someone else’s right to expression as the solution to raising individual children. Censor what you expose your kids to in your own homes, and give the rest of us a choice to enjoy what we enjoy.

This is not to say that I feel women should always be about their bodies and their appearances. I’m not that into mine. I do feel that it’s best for me to be natural and I would like my kind to be seen as beautiful, too. But to me, it’s perfectly fine if other women feel that their expression and confidence comes from a different avenue than mine. I feel that is what makes us all amazing; our diversity is what make us great.

Therefore, I can’t hang with the slut-shaming feminists. They make me sick.

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2. The Body-shamers

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These types of feminists make me feel sicker than the first one I mentioned.

Feminists all around have been advocating the #loveyourself campaign. Feminists have been speaking out about the media and how it pressures women into thinking they have to fit a “mold” to be beautiful, to feel feminine, or to be looked at as a “real” woman. This goes hand-in-hand with the women’s “strike” against makeup and plastic surgery.

Even music artists like Alessia Cara have been singing out about the entertainment industry and how women have been trying to fit this ideal to feel worth.

Of course, the world-wide standard has always been “the skinnier, the better”, which has caused millions of girls to basically starve themselves or get plastic surgery in order to reach this ideal. So, feminists have mostly been encouraging women to enjoy having a little “weight”. And there is nothing wrong with that.

I’m on-board with this. My whole life I was sized up by people based on my physical appearance. In the African American community I grew up in, looks mattered a lot as regards to femininity and womanhood, so I understand this campaign as a whole.

However, I feel that some feminists have transferred the shame from those who are thicker to those who are thin, and that isn’t right either.

Again, feminists should support all women, thick or thin, and it isn’t right to go against a thin female just because she is thin. As a thin female myself, this always triggered me.

Growing up, being skinny hasn’t been a good experience for me. In the black community, being thicker is prized. A woman like Nicki Minaj is more than likely to be considered “sexy” than a woman with a tiny butt, tiny waist, and small breasts. Constantly, I was told I looked sick and that I was ugly. Aside from the fact that I enjoyed baggy t-shirts and jeans, which probably made me look “ugly” to certain people, I never really cared about my weight that much either. I stayed as active as I always have been. Still, the comments hurt at times, especially when I was a teenager.

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As a young woman, I once looked to the feminist movement for support. I wanted to love my body and the way I am, just like all the other ladies. But I often ran into feminists like “Ms. Body-Shame”.

I have spoken out on my blog about being skinny and how other people considered me unattractive. And what did I get as a comment? “Backhanded compliments are not attractive, dear.” Like my experience, my life, isn’t worth fighting for or worth acknowledging because I fit a perceived “standard”. This was the beginning of my disconnection with the modern woman and the feminists that shame bodies like mine.

I read the comments (from men and women) on Ariana Grande’s and Miley Cyrus’s videos about their bodies being skinny and ugly, about how they look like 10 year olds, and how only thick women can look sexy twerking. While some “anti-porno” feminists may feel that is an insult to thicker women, because it may sound as if men are objectifying thicker women, it’s an insult to the skinny girls as well, the girls who aren’t truly considered sexy without some “Hollywood” magic.

I had one person tell me that my physique was considered attractive in the 1920s, but is no longer what men are looking for. I was fine with the comment, because I am not looking for a mate. Still, this just proves my point. Feminists need to understand that body-shaming takes a broader form in today’s society. You can’t support one group of women but ignore other women, and then call yourself a feminist.

If most body-shaming feminists actually stopped and researched what men actually wanted from women, they would come to find that the ideal is NOT skinny or thick. Men want that “girl in the middle” with fat in “all the right places”. And the media ideal is dependent on the male’s opinion (if sex does indeed sell). Check these out:

Men Prefer Curves, Not Skinny

Perceptions Of Perfection: What The ‘Ideal’ Female Body Looks Like Across 18 Countries

What the Ideal Woman’s Body Looks Like in 18 Countries

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Maybe I fit the women’s ideal, but men most definitely wouldn’t find me to be the ideal. So why hate on me for being skinny?

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“Feminist” comedian Julie Klausner is one of the “feminists” that make me doubly sick. If I wasn’t skinny before, she’s gonna make my skinnier because reading her comments make me vomit. That’s how I know her acts towards “feminism” are not helping and she is definitely harmful to my very nature. Her biggest attack was on Disney Channel star Zendaya. She made some nasty comments, those same bullying comments that made me want to literally hurt somebody at one time, and then she gets called a “feminist”?

Comments like, “And thinspo model for your impressionable tweens”, “Zendaya’s ultimate retort to Giuliana Rancic is starving herself down to the size of one of her elbowz”, “You don’t have to have an eating disorder to attend the Kids’ Choice Awards….but it helps!”, did more than just irk me.

Ironically, where was her behind when Adele was winning Grammy’s? An unhealthy body weight can exist in both extremes, and if you don’t think a skinny girl can be a good “role model”, I don’t understand how staying silent about obese musicians/actors and discouraging exercising does the job any better.

It’s as if she feels all skinny girls are skinny because they starved themselves…She doesn’t realize that some of us eat only three meals a day, have a fast metabolism, and EXERCISE.

If we’re trying to get women to be seen differently in an “image-conscious” world, shouldn’t the woman’s merits matter more than her appearance, thick or thin, to women? If “body-shaming” feminists are so concerned with a woman’s image, they aren’t any better than society as a whole. In fact, they are a part of the problem and will produce an opposite extreme.

Pharrell Williams is a skinny man. But nobody makes a peep about him when he wins awards. That just shows the double standards (which I will discuss more about later). These feminists make it more and more difficult for women to be seen as equal to men. You might as well not call them feminists.

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I also want to talk about Lynn Cloud and her petition to remove Eugenia Cooney from Youtube. Clearly, the body-shaming feminists have gotten to this young lady, too. I understand that Eugenia looks sick (she’s skinnier than normal), but I have seen several men on Youtube that look just as sick. So why are we so focused on Eugenia’s image? Because she’s a girl? This never happens with men.

If you are sick, or have a sickness like Cancer or Sickle-cell Anemia, and you happen to be skinny, are you not allowed to make Youtube videos? Last I heard, anybody is allowed to post videos, no matter their appearance. She could be a spokesperson for all the other people who are sick and can’t gain weight. Is that a crime? We don’t know her personal circumstances or why she’s skinny. But who are we to silence her? Is she supposed to stay miserable her whole life and never try to adorn her body? She might have a disease that eats away at her flesh. So, she can’t post a video about herself? You people must think teen girls are so stupidly impressionable that they can’t obviously recognize that she’s sick. If anything, I’m sure her fans feel sorry for her.

Instead of trying to get this girl removed from Youtube, maybe she should be helped by people. The petition should say, “Petition to Help Eugenia Cooney”. Women should be trying to get to the root of her body weight issues and should try to get this girl some help. But banning her from Youtube will just result in her starving herself more and making her feel unwanted. The outcome could be even worse. It also limits this individual’s right to free speech. This petition will definitely create adverse effects.

And why hasn’t Ms.Cloud attacked the number of obese people on Youtube? They may not influence girls to starve themselves to look like them, but they do discourage girls who are already obese from getting active, exercising, and staying fit. Both images are damaging, but these body-shaming feminists are obviously walking contradictions.

And what about the skinny girls who have to watch a curvy woman with big boobs get all the attention from the males in the comments’ section on Youtube or everywhere else on the internet?

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I don’t see a petition to ban these women. You don’t think curvy women are influencing these girls to eat more and more fatty foods and get plastic surgery? No one gets plastic surgery on their breasts and butt to be skinny, do they?  As a teenager, watching other teens with curves get all the attention made me want to stuff my face with all kinds of foods, get plastic surgery, and wear pads to make myself look thicker. I can imagine it has the same effect on other skinny girls. But if no one is out there to make them feel beautiful, if we have body-shaming feminists influencing the average feminist, who is supporting them?

And I’m not hating on a curvy, bodacious woman. That’s her body. The point is we should love all body types and stop the concealed jealousy.

That’s why I don’t have time; there is no room in my life for the body-shaming feminists. Good thing I learned to love myself without the help of these feminists.

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3. Ms. Double Standards

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If you thought the first two were bad, just wait until you hear about Ms. Double Standards.

There is nothing that irks me more than a woman who calls herself a feminist or benefits from feminism but places “masculine” standards on men. Nothing irks me more than a woman who believes she’s free to do whatever she wants but a man is not allowed those same freedoms. I don’t like when men have double standards either, but feminists with double standards irk me more because they put on the “face” of equality when really their own self-interests are a priority.

I could go so far as to call these women “misandrists”, but not all of them hate men. Some of them just want the perks of living and working in a “man’s” world while maintaining certain traditional boundaries. I’m here to tell you ladies, that’s almost impossible in this world.

There are several double standards that have come up and out of women’s mouths, from both feminists and those benefitting from feminism, that irk me:

His Role is Provider?

There are many women who consider a father without a job a “bum”. In my personal life, most women never consider a stay-at-home father as a hard-working man or the one “taking care of his family”. He is simply referred to as the “bum” by most women, including some so-called feminists.

Did it ever occur to some of these women that he may be the one cooking and cleaning for his family while his wife works? But oh no, that makes him a moocher. That means he’s not fulfilling his role as a “man”.

But who are women to decide what a man’s role is? You are not a man! And women would be up in arms if a man decided her role in life!

Why do these feminists believe that a man should be the one to work, but they have the option to work and/or stay-at-home? If a man is a bum for being a stay-at-home dad, guess what that makes a stay-at-home mom? A BUM. And don’t come and tell me that all stay-at-home moms always have a 24 hour job cooking and cleaning. Some of these “homemakers” are reading a book and watching daytime television all day…And dinner is from a fast-food restaurant.

I can’t stand a woman who gets upset when someone attacks her contribution to society, but has all of these expectations of men. If you’re going to question a man’s role in life, you’d best be contributing something too, instead of waiting on someone else to take care of you. Especially if you call yourself a feminist, the one who is supposed to be fighting for the same “social rights” as men.

And don’t come to me with the “men are supposed to take the lead” crap. If you’re the boss of your own company, ladies, you aren’t letting the man take the lead, now are you? If you are running for president, ladies, you aren’t letting the man take the lead, are you? If you are the superintendent of your schools, manager of your store, General in your army, you aren’t letting the man take the lead, are you? If women feel they can do all that, without a man’s leadership, women shouldn’t be whining and complaining about who takes the lead in their own households.

How about this…You and your spouse both be the adults and WORK TOGETHER. There’s no sense in preaching that women should have equal rights if you aren’t a practicer of what you preach.

Who Proposes to Who?

I can’t stand a woman who calls herself a feminist, but waits around for a man to make the first move in her relationship.

Readers, I listen to a lot of early morning radio shows before I go to work. Most of the people calling in are women. One particular woman called herself a strong, empowering feminist who intimidated men. She claimed her biggest dilemma was getting her boyfriend, who she had been dating for 10 years, to marry her. She believed he felt intimidated by her because she made a lot of money and had a leadership position in life.

And all of the radio djs were just like, “Ugh, what’s taking him so long? Tell him how you feel and get him to propose!” No, woman. You propose! Maybe he’s not proposing because you can’t make up your mind as to whether you’re a strong, empowering woman or a wannabe timid mouse.

Yes, I believe that if YOU, the female, are the one who is ready to get married, YOU, the female, should be the one doing the proposing. You’re a grown woman, right? You call yourself a feminist, right? Well, if you want the same equal rights, to speak your mind, to choose your own partners, speak up! YOU go out and buy a ring. You plan the date and pay for the dinner. Why have we settled with the submissive role when it comes to relationships, when we women feel we can march on Washington for equal rights, become the bosses of our own companies, and fight hard to be president of the USA? But you’re not “equal” enough to actually do the proposing? Why not? That would be the perfect way to get the answer out of him; you’d finally figure out whether he’s ready or not, instead of twiddling your thumbs while you wait for him to make a move. Passively-aggressively whining and complaining isn’t going to get the results you want. It never works.

Some of these women cry “equal rights” when it benefits them. But when they actually have to take on a “leadership role”, they suddenly succumb to the submissive role. I’ll talk more about this later.

I also have heard on the radio about some so-called feminists who have asked a man out to dinner, but then expected him to pay the bill. That tradition has phased out. It worked back in the past, when women didn’t ask men out and didn’t really have decent jobs. In this modern world, women are making a pretty penny. In this modern world, women are taking more of the initiative. And if YOU are the one asking him out, don’t choose the most expensive place and expect HIM to pay. YOU asked HIM! You should be trying to impress him in that instance. He didn’t even have to say “yes” to you. That’s like asking your parents out to dinner, but then leaving them to pay the bill. That’s like asking your colleagues out to dinner, but then leaving them to pay the bill. It’s shady.

A woman who is like that is showing she is self-entitled. And when the feminist title is placed behind her, it just makes her seem more about “herself”.

A Boy’s Not Allowed to Like…

It sickens me how some women, who claim to be feminists, attack a man for liking something directed to “girls”. I ran into such a feminist on Youtube. She attacked a teen male for liking My Little Pony the tv series.

And yet, she praised a teen woman for being interested in Spiderman, Power Rangers, Clarence, and Naruto… So, again, why is it okay for a woman to like Power Rangers, but not for a man to like My Little Pony? In this “patriarchal” world, it’s alright for a woman to be interested in male-directed tv shows/cartoons/anime, but men are not allowed to enjoy or respect female-directed tv shows/cartoons/anime? He will be called a pedo, but she…is empowering? He has “Peter Pan syndrome” and is a “loser”, but she’s…empowering?…. He’s gay, but she’s…empowering?

It sickens me when women, who claim to be feminists or benefit from feminism, allow their daughters to buy video games, trucks, and footballs, but won’t buy their sons a doll…

I Like My Men Masculine/I Believe A Man Should Be a Man (or Masculine)

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As I said before, I listen to public radio early in the morning before work, and I hear a lot of crap from these wannabe feminists. There is one popular segment of most radio shows that allows someone to try to reach another person after a date that supposedly went “well”, but fell off. The radio dj will try to reach out to the partner that went “silent” and try to reunite the two, hopefully paying for a second date.

What normally happens is that we, the djs and the listeners, discover that the date was awful from the other person’s perspective.

Keeping that in mind, one guy was trying to reach a woman he’d been on a date with. He said he had a blast with her. When the djs reach her, she says she cut him off because his side job was “embarrassing”. His side job was to be an elf for Christmas and hand out presents to little children. I thought this was the sweetest thing.

But so many women called in, women who said they were lawyers, mechanics, CEOs, saying they would be embarrassed by him and said it just wasn’t a “masculine” job. Fine, you are welcome to expect all of this masculinity from him, because women should have the right to their standards, right? But don’t get angry when a man becomes “intimidated” by you and doesn’t want to marry you because you’re in a “not-so-feminine” role.

What made this segment so sickening was that the female radio dj host was the MAIN ONE saying his job wasn’t masculine enough. Honey, you’re in a male-dominated field! And this dj has preached, and preached, and preached about how she is the only one in her field and how males don’t respect her in the industry. She is often the main one saying that a woman can be a radio dj and still be feminine. She is often THE MAIN ONE saying that a man can’t define her femininity. But suddenly, he’s not man enough because he defies the gender stereotype?

So I ask you, ladies, who are you to define a man’s masculinity? Who are you to judge a man who is trying to spread happiness and cheer during the holidays? Women preach that they want a nice, sensitive man who cares about the family and children. But then reject that man. I can’t stand it.

I can’t stand when a woman goes around saying, “I believe a man should be a man”, but she works a 9-to-5 job, is speaking her mind on the internet or radio, and votes. Don’t these ignorant women realize that at one time, these things were considered masculine? If you aren’t willing to fit your feminine role in society, why can’t we start to see masculinity and manhood differently? It’s as if these women want the best of both worlds, and see men as a threat in BOTH roles. It’s only fair to let men define their own masculinity just as you expect to define yours.

And if you’re going to have these double standards, don’t go around calling yourself a “strong empowering” feminist. Really, you’re not one.

Want to Read a Really Ridiculous article written by a “wannabe” feminist? 10 Things Women (Still) Expect Men to Know How to Do

I can’t wait to see how triggered she’ll be when the “female” equivalent of this article comes out…

Men Shouldn’t Care About A Woman’s Appearance or Occupation

This is the subject feminists preach high and low. I understand why feminists believe we should be beyond appearances, especially when it comes to the workforce. Not everyone was born beautiful, but good people can always do good things. I do believe people should let their merits shine.

Still, in relationships, people have the right to decide what they like, both man and woman.

Feminists are not so lenient when it comes to men in this regard. As soon as a man expresses his desire for a bombshell woman who is a stay-at-home mom, these feminists are on the prowl. I can understand…unless this feminist gives the pass to a woman who expects a bombshell man with a well-paying job.

So often, I’ve heard women complaining about the kind of “job” their boyfriends/spouses have, or what their man wears or what they don’t like men wearing (the man bun, socks with sandals, etc). And that’s fine if you have standards. But he’s entitled to standards as well. If you don’t want him judging the way you look or your occupation, why are you doing it?

This is made worse when it’s coming out of the mouth of a so-called feminist or a “perceived” feminist.

These feminists get angry when men are talking about how hot a female celebrity is, but have no qualms with talking about how hot a male celebrity is. Really?

This is especially common in the Kpop industry. There are many articles about the objectification of women in the industry, which is noticeably true, but the industry’s fans are dominated by females…making the male idols ten times more popular. And it’s not because these guys are the most talented guys in the world. It’s mostly because they look good. Thus, the male “idols” are ten times more objectified than their female counterparts. They are literally just pretty “ideals” to most of these teen girls and young women (2030 crowd). It’s gotten to the point the Kpop male stars wear makeup and get plastic surgery just to appeal to these fans!

And yet, all anyone wants to talk about are the females wearing makeup and getting plastic surgery…

If we’re going to stop objectification, we need to stop it everywhere. But if you still want some hot guys to look at in the entertainment industry, why not let men have the same pleasure?

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Men Can’t Hit a Girl, But a Woman Can hit a boy

I’ve run across many feminists who abhor physical abuse, and I don’t blame them.

However, it’s oddly silent when women are doing the abusing. Most feminists assume that women have good “reasons” for being physically aggressive to their spouses/boyfriends.

In my honest opinion, physical aggression and violence is physical aggression and violence, and it’s never right.

Consider the Chris Brown and Rihanna issue. We don’t know who started that fight, but we know Rihanna was left with bruises and had to be hospitalized. Chris Brown went down for that, and rightfully so.

Solange attacks Jay-Z in an elevator, got caught on camera, with Jay-Z not hitting back, but she gets cheers from feminists…not criticism.

Anna from Frozen punched Hans in the face, when he never touched her once throughout the film, and yet this movie is for feminists? Let’s reverse those roles and see how fast the feminists come marching in front of the cinemas…

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So many times while I’m working with my children, the girls will hit, push, and shove the boys, and get away with it, causing the young men to get angry and cry about the injustice. And remember, when boys and girls are children and adolescents, the girls are usually taller and stronger than the boys. Why do we condone physical abuse from women, but pull out the pitchforks exclusively for men?

We need to stop physical aggression across the board. It’s never right.

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4. Lady Feminine and Lady Masculine

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Next, I want to talk about Lady Feminine and Lady Masculine. I will start with Lady Feminine.

This is the kind of feminist that believes a “real” feminist is a woman who honors femininity and doesn’t “act like a boy”. She never truly knows how to define what she means by “boy”, she just knows a girl shouldn’t act like one. Yes, I know, surprising, right? There are self-proclaimed “feminists” out in the world who use these kinds of derogatory statements, statements often used by male chauvinists.

But she calls herself a feminist…

This is the feminist that took on the title because it gives her status in the female community. She never really researched the term, it just makes her look good to call herself that.

I ran into such a feminist once. We were on the subject of Frozen Versus Mulan. I spoke about how Mulan was just as empowering as Anna and Elsa, if not more so, how Mulan saved all of China basically by herself, how she saved her own love interest, how her dreams consisted of bringing her family honor, and how she took initiative in her relationship. I felt that Anna and Elsa did nothing by themselves, I spoke about how Elsa ran away from her responsibilities, how Elsa acted like a victim, how Anna received help to get up a mountain (but Hans and his men found it only having been in the land a short while), how Anna’s dream consisted of dancing at a ball and meeting a prince, and how neither saved the day in any way (without destroying it in the first place). You know, similar to a topic I’ve written on this blog. And you know what she said? “Well, at least they didn’t have to dress like a man to prove how strong they were.”

Dress like a man? I asked her, “What do you define as dressing like a man? Last time I watched, Mulan was wearing armor and her hair up in a bun. Who said that a woman can’t dress like that and still be considered ‘dressing like a woman’?” No reply. Maybe she felt I was trying to strawman her, but the statement still stands. Clearly, she felt that to be a truly empowering, strong, “feminist”, you had to look like a “woman” (i.e. wear a dress) and represent everything girly.

This poster had several supporters, those who felt that womanhood should be honored and that women should stop trying to be more and more like men, and should try convincing men to be more like “women”. And I’m assuming their definition of woman was “wearing skirts and dresses and dreaming of romance”.

I understand their point, but again, how do we define this “womanhood”? Because my “female” experience never consists of dresses, hardly consists of makeup, and is hardly domestic. I truly enjoy being able to speak my mind on the internet, hold leadership positions, and I enjoy being single, without man or children.

And if these women wanted to step away from being more and more like men, maybe we should revert this society and take it all the way back to the 19th century. Perhaps these women should leave the internet and stop speaking their minds. That was once a male role. Maybe they should quit their well-paying jobs and stay at home, waiting for their fathers to take care of them or a good (or bad) husband. Maybe these women should stop wearing pants, shorts, t-shirts, and sneakers…

Oh, but they won’t. Somehow, now these things have become a part of being feminine.

If feminine qualities have evolved and changed over the last century, there is no way femininity is that limited.

Feminism is advocating that women receive the same “social and political rights” as men. I’m sorry, but these women are doing the opposite by claiming that a “woman” can’t wear armor without being labeled as “looking like a man”.

Despite that some cases like the one above exist, however, there are actually far more feminists against the traditional “feminine” values. I don’t think it’s any more progressive to be Ms. Masculine and assume that a woman that upholds traditional feminine values can’t equally want other social and political rights equal to men. These women tend to just want a balance for everybody, and there’s nothing wrong with that. There are things she likes about the patriarchy and things she doesn’t.

If feminism is supposed to allow women to have more choices in the world, why are we trying to limit any woman’s self-expression? And if we want a woman to wear armor and still be labeled as “looking like a woman”, we equally shouldn’t consider “dresses” a “woman” thing, but a human thing, right? We should just look at these things as clothing styles, tastes, and interests. The sooner we start accepting that clothing varies by culture and taste, the sooner we realize that clothing doesn’t define gender or sex, the sooner we all can move along happier in our lives.

The sad part is, though, men aren’t lucky enough to have the same “social rights” as women regarding femininity in today’s society. So I guess that would give women more rights than the ones men have. And thanks to Ms. Double Standards, it enables men to continue to see these roles as separate (since they are stigmatized by these women from entering into the feminine world). Since all they have is what is deemed “masculine”, men will hold onto it, even barring women from it, just as they have been “barred” from what is deemed “femininity”. This means we really need to get pass the gender stereotyping.

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5. The User and Abuser

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The title refers to women who use the feminist title just for gain, perks, to get back at people, or to get out of sticky situations, but have no real interest in issues that affect women. Thus, she ends up abusing the title of “feminist”. This title could also refer to a woman who uses feminism as a title when convenient, but drops it when she has to do physical or laborious work, work actually considered “for men”.

She’s different from Ms. Double Standards in the fact that she may not actually have double standards. However, she recognizes that feminism gives her a certain power that it doesn’t give men, and she’s willing to fall back on it when she makes a “mistake”. She also knows when to play the “feminism” card and when to play the “traditional” card, making her a walking contradiction.

If you’re not following me, let me start giving examples. I knew of one young lady in college who liked the attention and company of many men. She slept around with most of the guys on her campus. In high school, her parents allowed her to get plastic surgery on her chest and butt. She definitely took advantage of the male attention.

Of course, she ended up pregnant. The moment she ended up pregnant, she claimed the man who impregnated her actually “raped” her and she filed a claim to get him kicked out of college. When the school refused to do this, she gathered some feminists from her school, rallied against the board, claiming they ignored serious issues that affect women.

Now, sure, she may have been raped. We don’t know what happened behind closed doors. But there was no real way of knowing whether she was lying or telling the truth, either. There was no physical evidence that she was raped. And the feminists that supported her only supported her because she was a woman who used the magic words.

The real problem is the fact that the young woman may have felt she had to lie. Our society has made it so a woman feels like a slut when she makes a “consensual” mistake. It is easier to catch a woman who made a mistake than a man (women get pregnant), so she often gets called the “stupid” one. And the physical consequences are more severe for a woman than a man (though a man may experience social/financial consequences), so women often try to find any support they can.

But lying and tearing someone down because of a mistake you made? That’s not only irresponsible, that is anti-feminist. It makes women seem like manipulative and fickle creatures who aren’t capable of making their own responsible decisions. It should not be supported by other feminists. I think more investigations should go into these “rape” outcries.

Anyway…

There are other incidents of the “users and abusers” I’ve encountered when working with children. Yes, it starts as early as five years old. I think I’ve mentioned how girls will often hit and shove the boys without consequence, right? Well, often times, I run across girls who are vicious bullies, but as soon as their parents are called, they turn on the tears and blame the male for “provoking them”. The manipulation works, with the male often being blamed as the bully, even when facts prove otherwise. I don’t blame the girls, who are just children. However, I blame society for enabling this manipulation, the feminists who support this destructive behavior or choose to ignore it, and the parents who just don’t have a clue.

Another example of this kind of feminist is one who has failed at a sport, job, debate, or anything else, provided that the “rules” were just and fair, but complains that she was discriminated against because she “is a woman”. Feminism does promote women receiving the same equal opportunities as men to go for the same jobs, play the same sports, and enter the same mental competitions. However, there is a difference between opportunity and success. Sometimes, some women just can’t do the job. Sometimes, a woman may lose a debate or a chess match. It’s not always the system setting up the women to fail (though it can happen and has happened at times). Many times, some women just can’t do the job as well as another person, and that is okay. We can’t blame the system when it is convenient and march our way into all the colleges we don’t get accepted to or into all the sports teams we’ve been rejected from. Sometimes, we have to be objective and analyze whether we were denied based on gender/sex or based on our actual skills (or lack thereof).

There is another type under this User and Abuser label. She’s the woman who is always strong, powerful, and in control until she really has to do a “man’s” job. What do I mean by that? I mean the one that has to serve in the military.

Luckily, in the USA, many women don’t have to experience being drafted into military service. But in many other countries, the draft is a very real part of life. Often times, women are exempt from military service because they are deemed too “weak” to do the rigorous training the men do.

Most feminists have been offended by this, but I recently ran across a self-proclaimed feminist who said she did feel women were “too weak” to be drafted in the military. In one conversation, she mentioned how women should be allowed in male-dominated fields, how women were strong, and how they were capable of having children and then going back to work. But when the topic of military service came up, she mentioned how her “menstrual” would hold her back and how she wouldn’t be able to take having to exert herself physically because of cramps.

Well, no one said military service was easy. Even men struggle through it. But there are many ways women could serve in the military, offering their intellect, their agility, hands or anything else. I presented this idea to the “feminist”, and her response was “That’s just not for women”. This was coming from a woman who claimed women were “strong” and capable of handling male-dominated fields. But as soon as the idea of mandatory military service came up, she was suddenly the docile mouse. This showed me that she was ready to use feminism when she wanted to use it, but not ready to assume the responsibilities that came with feminism. If we advocate that women be treated equally to men, we should expect the same things of women that we do men. They should have the same responsibilities. They should take responsibility for what they’re advocating.

Apparently, some women just aren’t ready for true feminism-the kind that doesn’t make their life more cushy, that is.

These kinds of feminists confuse the heck out of everybody, which sets the feminist movement back. What do you want? Do you want equal rights or not?

All of these gray/grey areas leave room for anti-feminists to poke holes.

Did I mention that some of these women get paid off of feminist propaganda? It’s more of a business for them, nothing personal.

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6. Feminazi

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Yes, I used it. I used one of the worst insults to describe a feminist. I don’t always like to throw this word around, but if you’re acting like one, you are. Many people throw this word around unjustly, but there are a group of “feminists” that this word applies to.

Before I lay it thick on them, I do want to admit that I respect the feminazis more than all of the above feminists. No great movement is good without radicals, right? A radical movement can be an effective movement. For starters, at least most of them know what they stand for and aren’t full of the major contradictions other feminists are known for (unless they also fall into the other above categories). These women have gone beyond just fighting for equal rights; they are ready to destroy any “male-dominated” society. These are the women that are strictly focusing on the “patriarchy” and nothing else.

While I applaud them for getting down to the gritty business, sometimes these women seem to be trying to create their own little strict feminist regime. They are “puritanical” in a way, insisting that everything caters to women, the female sex, and her issues and needs, whether it be in a movie, music video, song, or book (like Nazi Germany). In fact, she may insist that there not be a male present AT ALL when the story is directed to a female audience. Romance is misogynistic to most of these women.

This is the woman that gets angry if she goes into a movie and sees one or less lead female characters. This is the woman that can analyze and find all the misogynistic undertones of everything, intentional or not. She can see the misogyny of video game characters wearing pink, the misogyny of a female character crying, the misogyny of women talking about their relationships, the misogyny of reality show fights… I have to admit she does her homework.

Despite her “intelligence”, she can be very annoying. I can’t understand how these women can enjoy anything when they are constantly worrying about how men are perceiving them or representing them all the time. If these feminists were really so tired of the misogynistic undertones, wouldn’t they have made their own little collection of cult films, books, and music exclusively for women, by women, with female leads by now? That would work better than trying to boycott or protest every little bit of entertainment because of some “misogynistic undertones” they’ve discovered. And it’s easy for them to find, too. They can read misogyny in the different ways we perceive the color of the sky. That’s how obsessed they are.

These women are also very particular about who should benefit from the movement and who should be supporting the movement. Oh yeah, some of them want to control who supports the movement. I’m sure most of us are aware that men can be feminists, right? Not the feminazi.

These are the women that aren’t just looking at feminism as a movement for equal rights. They include all the issues women face in the world, no matter how crazy or petty, like fights with their families and friends and women-on-women crime, among others.

You will certainly find some man-haters among them somewhere, too. They aren’t too friendly with men. In relationships, they are very particular about the men they like, if they like men at all. But these women are often so sensitive, even lesbian women have a hard time dealing with them (since they like to point out how we are all so conditioned by the patriarchy every 5 minutes).

All cynicism and sarcasm aside, I understand their need to bring “light” on issues that truly affect women. I appreciate the points they bring out regarding the social restrictions, expectations, and labels that have been placed on women. However, the feminazis need to step back and look at the forest sometimes. They are too caught up in these ridiculous, petty, and really unimportant details. After reading their propaganda, it’s hard to enjoy anything anymore.

Most of the feminazis are so caught up in getting rid of the “patriarchy”, which is riddled with some things that limit women and which do encourage women to be more “like men”, they forget that there are also good things that have come out of patriarchy that we can and have benefitted from. GASP. I don’t think the feminazis can handle that sentence. But it’s true. We all enjoy male inventions, like Apple, internet, cars, and much more. Sure, they were created in eras where women were limited, and yes the efforts of women to bring those inventions out there have been ignored, but they are still good inventions. If you don’t want a patriarchal society, move out to a remotely isolated place and create your own town full of women. That’s what a few Kenyan women did. See? Women of action, not talk.

And there are privileges, especially in western societies, that women have enjoyed as a result of this “oppression”. Women have never had to be drafted, they’ve been able to mostly stay at home instead of slaving in the outside world, and men have been expected to show chivalry towards women (even if some didn’t) by opening doors, pulling out chairs, and giving jackets to women when they’re cold.

Some of the women from the good ole’ days would hardly agree that they were actually oppressed. Many agreed with their set “roles”. Of course, some women didn’t, because we’re all individual. But neither did some men. We have had very defined separate roles in society, and much of the “rules” were written by both men and women. These “roles” were always decided by the lifestyle lived by both the men and women. If a woman lived an agricultural life, she wasn’t expected to work in the home. If a woman lived in an urban area, she was expected to do housework. And some women took pride in being homemakers. I hardly call that oppression, considering the term refers to prolonged cruel or unjust treatment or control. There may have been more boundaries, but that was for both men and women. Some women in the west were not treated cruelly, unjustly, or controlled at all. Many women decided the roles they wanted and lived comfortable lives.

As long as men exist, patriarchal thinking will exist, and as long as women exist, matriarchal thinking will exist. Each gender thinks about their own self-interests, first and foremost. We can’t get rid of one to uphold another. The only way to live peacefully with one another is to work out our ideas together, to remove the ideas from both systems that just don’t work or don’t lead to a comfortable life, and keep the things that enhance the quality of all of our lives. As an African American, even though White Supremacy exists, it’s not realistic to try to remove white people from positions of power. It’s best to rise in that system and then implement our ideas, causing a blend. I feel the same way about Male Supremacy.

While most women want to be seen as strong and independent heroes, we are also very individual and don’t mind seeing romance here and there. There is nothing wrong with marriage or relationships. It’s how we continue our human race. There’s also nothing wrong with a man saving a woman, as long as we know that the feeling is mutual. Women can’t always do the saving. That’s just not realistic. While we do want to focus on shedding stereotypes, it’s not always bad to enjoy or even fall into some of them every once in a while.

There are women out here who really do need to fight their patriarchal systems. They are in countries that truly oppress women. We should observe how their patriarchy is destroying them, especially if there is nothing good coming out of it. But some of us are actually living in a society where it’s really not fair for either side, men or women.

The feminazis have to ease up a little. That’s all I’m saying.

The following videos are not by a feminist, however, I think she makes some interesting points:

Food for thought…

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7.  Transfeminist Dictators

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For those who are unaware, Trans people are people who are labeled a certain sex at birth, but identify as the opposite gender.  There are many transmen and transwomen who also identify as feminists, and often times stand with other kinds of women against rape, sexism, and misogyny.

Despite this, however, there are some trans feminists who criticize other feminists in an effort to protect their identity.  This is what makes some of them the most cringeworthy feminists of all.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with being a trans feminist, especially if you are a transwoman.  After all, feminism is for them as well, supposedly, right? However, I do have a problem with trans people trying to “censor” certain topics, and I do have a problem with trans people dictating the way other women in the movement address their own anatomy biologically.

I get that trans women want to feel included in the movement, and certainly there are certain aspects of the movement that apply to trans women.  However, not everything in the movement has to apply to trans women and women should not be forced to censor themselves when talking about issues that affect their everyday life. What they fail to understand is that many feminists experience oppression based on their biology and not just because of social gender representation. Trans women must respect this.

Examples of topics that trans people have tried to censor include:  pregnancy, abortion, menstruation, breast cancer, vaginal disrespect, and/or Uterine diseases or conditions, along with other biologically “female” issues.  Many trans women are sensitive about these topics because most of these topics do not concern them and their own biological make up.  As a result some trans women have even said that women should not talk about these issues at all in order to avoid “excluding” trans women.  One example of this involved the latest Women’s March On Washington, when women dressed as vaginas in order to make a political statement.  Transwomen criticized the movement, and it was not because the costumes were ridiculous, not because women were representing genitals in front of thousands of children, but because they felt the march was “transphobic” and “cissexist” and exclusive.  Yes.  They did not like the idea of women wearing what they referred to as “pussy” hats or vagina costumes, making the trans women feel somehow like they are less than women.

Apparently, the trans women did not get why the women were marching with vagina hats and costumes in the first place.  This was a political statement, a statement to a man they felt offended the vagina or “pussy”, a genital that the majority of women have in the world.  So why should they not wear vagina hats and costumes? I understand that some trans women have different genitalia, but that does not mean the feminists should not speak up when they feel vaginal disrespect.  Just because you’re the kind of woman that doesn’t go through this, doesn’t mean majority of other women don’t.  Feminists should be able to address all issues that affect all kinds of women without feeling guilt. A woman should be allowed to talk about her body and her own anatomy. After all, that was one major issue throughout history. The vaginal anatomy has been the root reason why women have always been considered sexually inferior, considered unclean, and receptive, not assertive. Their genitals affect them as women, so these women should be able to speak on it. Walking around with “vagina” hats wasn’t the best way to get the idea across, it was a little extreme, and it doesn’t actually define a woman totally, but regardless of my personal opinions about the costume, they should be allowed to try to get their points across without being labeled “cissexist” or “transphobic”. It is not “cissexist” or “transphobic” if they talk about their biological bodies, especially if it has something to do with the way they are treated in society.

Historical “science” used to distort all kinds of “facts” about women based on the “uterine” genitals. Therefore, it is not right to repress their voices just because it makes you, as a trans woman, feel “uncomfortable”.

There are issues trans women go through that other women do not experience, and that is okay. Would it be right for other women to try to censor a trans woman’s voice because other women do not experience the same things? No, it would not, because those issues are serious and need to be resolved for the mental, emotional, social, and physical health of society. It is the same thing when it comes down to women with vaginas.

These kinds of trans feminists also try to “censor” other feminist causes, too.  They even try to censor the feminists’ use of words.  They insist that feminists not refer to their own anatomy as “female”, despite the fact that scientifically the definition of female involves a certain kind of anatomy and function.

The hypocritical part about these trans feminists is that they will be the first to tell you that you cannot define them; they insist they can only define themselves. So why is it their job to dictate what another feminist defines as female?

Oh, and by the way, not all feminists like the word cis either, though most trans women insist that women who are not trans refer to themselves as such. A cis woman is a woman that identifies as the gender aligned with her sex. What about the feminists that don’t honestly believe in gender?  This is what I mean; trans women cannot tell other women how and in what manner they should identify themselves and their anatomy.  It would be best if these types of trans women stopped insisting that every issue in the movement be about them. I get the feeling that some of the feminist trans women are just too sensitive to be in any movement.  They are apparently sensitive to almost everything in every movement.

And this is not all transfeminist, mind you. I have run into some very supportive trans feminists, women who talk about their own issues as well as the issues others face. Those women are helping us all move forward. But those women that get whiny over every little thing in the movement? Just have several seats.

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At this point, I want to wrap this up by re-emphasising my appreciation for most feminists and their efforts to try and push us toward a more inclusive and progressive society. However, I just had to bring this issue out. There are certain feminists that have been evolving out of the movement and I think it’s time someone warned others about them. They are mostly holding women back.

Leave me a comment and let me know what you think about my list. Do you agree with my list, that these feminists are cringe-worthy? Are there any others

you would like to add? I’m open to discussion.

Who is HE and What Does He expect from YOUR Relationship? By the signs (Masculine Identity)

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If you don’t understand much about zodiac signs and you are new to planetary signs, aspects, and houses, read the introduction here.

Mars is the planet of war, aggression, drive, assertion, energy, force, the sex drive, and male sexuality. He represents how we express our passionate natures and how we obtain anything we desire. Mars also represents drive, energy, and freedom. Mars is instinctive about survival. It can also represent frustration and aggression. Mars wants us to compete, to fight, and to climb over obstacles in life. He wants to accomplish something and be independent. He thrives on the rush of the moment. Really, he just wants to release some tension.

The sign he enters shows HOW we express our passion and drive. The house he enters shows WHERE we express our passion and drive. The aspects show how difficult or easy it is to use his energies in our life and how much of it we use.

Ever heard of the saying “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus”?

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In a man’s chart, Mars is his ruler. This is more of a socialized condition than anything. We have all of these planets in our charts and are capable of using anything for survival. But in our society, men tend to connect more with Mars than women do. Even though women are more active today, women still shy from most of the principles of Mars and women still expect men to be more active and driven than they are. Thus, Mars tends to tell men a lot about their own status as “men” and their identities in relation to their peers. Mars is considered one of the social planets, though not quite as sociable as Venus.

Mars also reveals what men expect out of their relationships and his own sexuality, which is mostly what I’m going to discuss in this article.

Why are men so associated with Martian sexuality (and not women)? Mars is supposed to be the planet that represents sex directly. But since women are more encouraged to channel their yearnings into romance, the actual act is far less important for them. Men, on the other hand, are taught something different. The article 5 Lies that Distort Male Sexuality by Jamie Utt and Men’s Sexual Response by David Delvin expresses that men are often taught to see sex as something for their own pleasure “rather than their partner’s”. Men are often encouraged to see sex as a conquest and to have as many partners as they can. Thus, relationships are seen more as a game or a battlefield. Their role is to try to be the conqueror. This is very similar to the principles associated with Mars.

Men are taught they have to be “in control” sexually. Men feel pushed to be adequate sexually. As a result, men are likely to take sexual risks to build their experience and confidence, regardless of the consequences. They are not shamed for exploring their sexuality to the fullest. On the other hand, a man who can’t have sex for whatever reason will feel a heavy burden. He will feel more pressure to perform and others will make him feel like a loser. Men will more than likely feel “unhappy with their partners” and “disaffected with life” if their partners are not having sex with them. A man will also usually feel “desolate” if the object of his affections reject his sexual advances.

Mars can be a very powerful planet for men, blessing them with freedom, strength, energy, and leadership abilities. But Mars can curse them with rivals and enemies, competition, aggression, violence, tension, and loneliness.

Readers may remember my article regarding men and Venus.

Why Does He See in YOU? by the signs

Venus and Mars are two relationship planets in our charts. For most men, Venus is projected onto women. He may often expect women to express qualities he himself doesn’t feel “allowed” to express. Men with Mars in his ruling signs (Aries or Scorpio) or in his exalted placement (Capricorn) have a harder time living up to the principles of Venus and will project their energies more. Men with Mars in detriment (Taurus or Libra) and his falling placement (Cancer) have an easier time with Venus and don’t project as much.

In a man’s chart, Venus represents his feminine ideal, a woman he is drawn to and attracted to. This is the woman he thinks is sexy, good, and perfect.

So if men project Venus on women, how can Mars influence what they expect from women? This is a tricky question and yet simple at the same time. Though men are drawn to certain women because of feminine energies, they still feel they deserve to be catered to by even the most passive woman. Quite frankly, men aren’t so soft. A softer woman would have trouble keeping up with his sex drive, wouldn’t understand his activities, and wouldn’t have the energy to make themselves useful in his life. Venus is superficial. Sometimes, Mars helps us see beyond the superficial and understand what people do and how people really behave.

Women can benefit  from reading this article. This article is useful for women who have a hard time understanding the male mind and may feel confused when dating a man. They may notice that though a man may say he is attracted to her and would often talk about how special she is, he may expect her to treat him the total opposite! So, women may find men difficult to please in this way. Well, women, worry no more! If you look into his natal chart and observe his signs, aspects, and house placements, you will understand him better.

Because men project Venus, this can create some conflict with Mars, especially if there are harsh aspects between the two planets. A good example of this complicated love life would be shown through Michael Jackson’s music. He has Venus in Leo with his Mars in Taurus. Having Venus in Leo, it’s clear he was drawn to dynamic women in his lifetime. Many of the women he was drawn to (as well as those drawn to him) wanted to be a “star”, much like the sun-ruled Leo! In songs like “Dirty Diana” and “Billie Jean”, he mentions women wanting “fortune and fame”, seeking him out just to get media attention. Though he may later dislike these women, he’s initially drawn to them allowing them into his life in the first place. So why does he dislike her later? When thinking about this question, we first have to observe how he sees himself. In music videos like “The Way You Make Me Feel” and “Bad”, we can tell that he’s really a peaceful guy like his fixed earthy Mars in Taurus suggests. He’s actually really affectionate and artistic. He doesn’t seem himself as aggressive. He’s more easy-going and pleasant. MJ would rather use his music to impress a girl rather than any bold or assertive tactics. He’s really a loyal, stable man who hates drama! The problem is he keeps attracting drama to himself!

For MJ,  the “drama girl” is him projecting his own “dramatic nature”. He’s only perceiving these women as dramatic. But we can never truly know what’s going inside of a person. We aren’t them. Each person has their own natal charts that may reveal things we may not even expect from a person. The woman he perceives as dramatic and attention seeking may see herself as someone else entirely and may just be reacting to him!  Inside, he’s the one being drawn to the fame, attention, and drama. It’s his internal “Drama King” that has led him to people that bring drama to his life. This is probably why he’s the “King of Pop” in the first place!

In a gay man’s chart, he tends to balance both his masculine and feminine energies well in a relationship, considering he may not feel the need to be the dominant one or the submissive one. He may even use both energies interchangeably. Still, he may feel pressure to conform, like all the other men. Society will make him feel out-of-place if he’s not like other men. He may also feel he has to defend himself more, causing him to express more assertive and strong-willed tendencies. He may not project his Venus on a potential  partner, but he may end up projecting Venus on women in general or on close female friends.

In a woman’s chart, Mars tends to reflect the qualities she would rather project on men and reveals her idea of the “ideal” man.

What Does SHE See in YOU? By the signs

Venus in a woman’s chart will reflect her social identity, what she expects from a relationship, and her own sexuality.

Who is SHE and What Does She Expect from YOUR Relationship? By the Signs

So now that you know more about Mars in a man’s chart, we can learn how each man utilizes his own Martian gifts, how each man defines masculinity in his own terms, and his own sexuality through the signs.

Mars signs:

Mars in Aries

Mars in Taurus

Mars in Gemini

Mars in Cancer

Mars in Leo

Mars in Virgo

Mars in Libra

Mars in Scorpio

Mars in Sagittarius

Mars in Capricorn

Mars in Aquarius

Mars in Pisces

Mars in Aries

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Male Identity: Mars first enters his own domain when he enters the sign of Aries. Aries is a cardinal fire sign. Here he is at his best, free to be as forceful and assertive as he would like to be. He can get the most accomplished here.

The men with this position often express traditional masculine qualities quite easily without even trying. It’s so natural for these men to live up to the standard that men should be leaders, should be assertive, and should be active. These are their basic personality qualities! Even if these men don’t feel very masculine, they still feel it is important for a man to believe in himself and keep a sense of independence. They often can’t help but be the alpha man in any group they go into. They are the ones coming up with all the ideas. They are the ones putting plans into quick action. If they aren’t the ones in charge, they will bump heads with whoever is or leave that group. Of course, they often need a side-kick to handle the details and to keep things going long-term, otherwise they tend to get bored, looking for some excitement or starting some trouble.

These men are confident. They can do anything they put their minds to. They are usually full of energy and ready to take on the next big challenge in their lives.

They are so original in thought and action, they are usually found starting new businesses or being the first to get involved with a new business venture. They are unafraid of the unknown. They take risks, and it usually pays off for them. They may like jobs with some sort of risk factor involved, like firefighting, military, or criminal justice.

However, they should be careful when taking physical risks. These men like physical challenges, including sports. Though they may like any sports, they mostly like sports they can play independently. They don’t like watching sports as it bores them to sit still too long. Most of these men enjoy extreme sports (like skateboarding, snowboarding, and biking), Martial Arts, Olympic sports (like swimming or track and field), and/or other sports that allow them to use their energies to the fullest, independently, and in a competitive environment. These men may also like aggressive sports like wrestling, boxing, football, and/or hockey. The only problem these men might have with hockey, basketball, and football would be working on a team. These men tend to be ball hogs, impatient, and a little too cocky when playing with teams. When they lose, they tend to blame others for the loss, causing fights. They may even jump from team to team until they find the “perfect” team that actually WINS. They have no patience for losers. Some of them have a hard time seeing their own mistakes. With their love of speed, they may be interested in races of all kinds.

This website is good for understanding Mars in Aries in sports: Sports & Mars

These men tend to be athletic and physically fit, but they may have a few accidents because they push themselves too hard and they move head-first into things (with their feet tumbling under them).

Even if they are not athletic or physically active, they really need an outlet for their energy, otherwise they will be irritable or causing trouble just to release some tension and ease boredom.  Some of these men may get involved in creative activities if they don’t like sports too much. They may be in a band, touring around. They may get interested into carpentry or electrical work. Regardless, it has to keep them busy and motivated.

They can have bad tempers that flare up and disappear. They tend to make a scene when angry and be passionate about that anger. If someone is angry with them and confronts them, this just makes them angrier! They tend to be impulsive and jump to conclusions.

They need to be careful of getting involved in illegal activities just for the rush. These men see themselves as living a hectic, adventurous life. They may say they’re tired, but they wouldn’t have it any other way! Their drive for “rush” could easily be channeled into taking legal risks, like riding a roller-coaster that has just opened for the first time or traveling to an adventurous destination. These men like to take up dares and like to dare others. There’s nothing wrong with this, as long as they learn the art of moderation. Trying to tell a Mars in Aries man this is the biggest challenge.

These men are headstrong. They don’t like being told what to do or how to do it. They hate rules and obstacles. Even though they tend to fit the social standards of masculinity, they really don’t like conforming to social standards. These men want the freedom to do whatever it is they want. If they want to cook or garden, they want to do it and they won’t let anyone make them feel shame about it! They challenge any system that seeks to control them. Of course, we have to live in a world with other people. So, these men always feel like they have to fight to be respected and to do whatever they want to do. In fact, for them, life always seems like a fight. Some of this is because they’re always picking a fight! They just can’t be “normal” and end up shaking up the system without trying to.

Mars Signs-What’s Your Fighting Style? is a good article to read to learn about what angers Mars in Aries and how they fight and argue.

These men are generally brave. Even when they are afraid, they face their fears courageously. They don’t like to be intimidated.

Friends find them to be fun, exciting, and energetic, but also independent and aggressive. Partners may find them to be highly independent, too.

These guys only honor and respect another man’s independence. But when it comes to anything else, they will overstep another man’s boundaries to get what they want. They challenge other men.

These men always have a young boy inside of them. They love playing around, playing video games, and playing sports no matter how old they are. Their youthful natures rub off on their bodies. They never seem to get old!

Relationships: With such a headstrong, independent, and assertive nature, the biggest challenge in their lives is merging with others. Finding love is an even greater challenge. Regardless of their Venus sign, these men really need a partner that can keep up with their active lifestyle. They also need someone who can pick up and move around, try new things, and make things light and fun because they tend to be out-going and tend to be involved in new things, both in their career and in their personal lives. They can drain partners dry or leave partners in the dust. These men often want love, but they need to be able to do what they want, when they want to. Their headstrong nature makes them difficult to reason with. It’s hard for them to accommodate and sacrifice things they desire for others. People may think they are selfish, but they are actually just really ambitious and easily irritated when settled. They know themselves and know what they need. They need to keep moving. These men need a relationship without a whole lot of baggage tying them down. If a partner is the baggage, they will drop the relationship and not even bat an eye about it. They don’t have patience to really sit and talk about feelings. They have a playful streak and they need a partner that can have fun. They can’t deal with partners that are too mature or too fussy (even if their Venus sign suggests they attracted to mature individuals). They DO NOT like being told what to do. They won’t take it from anyone, not even their partners. If they are bossed around, it’s sure to set off a war. They hate being judged and they hate being controlled. If you want to avoid their aggressive side, it’s best not to provoke the Ram. Partners will end up “bumping heads” with them often.  No matter how much they may want a stable relationship, with a loyal partner, these men need some thrill in their lives. They often tend to like the rush of going after partners and trying to get that person to date them. But when the flames mellow out, they often itch for some excitement. They may suddenly seem to get bored. These men must be careful of cheating. They also need to be careful of constantly finding themselves in poor situations with people they hardly know, just for the rush of it all. These men need a lot of independence, even if they do end up with women who keep them busy. They need their own hobbies, friends, and career. They don’t like being with partners that have the same career. They feel a little threatened when they feel dependent on others, too. This makes them grouchy. They will often only look for partners that make less or an equal amount. They can be really competitive in this way. On the other hand, some may not care, as long as they get to enjoy what they like to do.  As independent as they are, they will do anything for someone they love. They tend to be self-motivated, so they work hard. They take care of their partners well.

This man constantly feels a spark between himself and Mars, the planet of action, desire, and aggression. Mars is exciting and thrilling to this man. Mars comes right at him and makes him feel invigorated. At the same time, Mars is always getting this man into trouble. Power struggles often occur in this relationship. Mars can irritate him, yet he keeps coming back for more excitement! Maybe this man just likes the rush of it all. Mars has a way of provoking the fire out of him, for better or worse.

These men approach love interests confidently or in a straight-forward way. They just tend to come right out with it. They will do anything it takes to get what they want. They will be persistent and they love the challenge. If they are rejected, they may be a little moody and resentful for a minute, but they quickly get over it. Or they may wait (impatiently) until you come around.

When going on dates, these men tend to prefer to do something fun. They can’t stand sitting down all night at a restaurant. They need to at least get up and dance. They often offer to take potential partners to amusement parks or clubs. They may invite them to ride in their car or on their motorcycle. They may also like an adventurous hike up the mountains or horse-back riding on the beach. Whatever it is, it will be exciting. They like to show off how brave they are. It’s hard for them to admit when they’re scared. They aren’t really the most chivalrous men. They often forget to use their manners and they can be honest to a fault. They have a “first come, first served” mentality. They love independence, to be able to open their own doors and pull out their own chairs. They often forget that others don’t really feel the same way.

They may feel that all men want to be able to do what they want to do without anyone criticizing them. They may feel that all men hate being bossed around. They may think most men hate talking about their feelings and most men hate having to open doors and pull out chairs just to please dates. They may think all men are active and that all men have a youthful streak about them. They would be shocked to discover that there are men out here who don’t feel the same.

Male Sexuality: These men see sex like they do their usual lives. They often see sex as something under their control and they have sex when they want to. Their need to act upon it depends on their desires. When they are turned on, it happens fast. They tend to have a need to satisfy that desire right then and there. Otherwise, they will feel really frustrated. Some of them see sex as a conquest or a game. Many may like the excitement of having as many sexual encounters as possible.

Despite their quick urges when the fire is ignited, they don’t need sex all the time. They are quite independent from the act. They usually don’t get addicted or obsessed with one partner. Once they have sex, they move on. They don’t form emotional attachments; they just see it as an outlet for their burning desires and unsettled energy. Other energies in the chart have to keep them attached to their partners.

They are quick in the bedroom. Once they are turned on, they get it out quickly, passionately, skipping the foreplay. They do not take their time and they can be a little aggressive about it. They often forget to take the time to please their partners. If they do remember, they are active participants in the act. They still may be the dominant one without even trying. They are super sure of their actions and confident that they can please. Still, they love the rush of being around a partner who is equally as passionate. If you want them to respect your sexuality, you have to dominate them and show some sexual confidence.

If you like a man who is assertive, independent, active, and fun, you will love these men. If you need close intimacy, some time to relax, need stability, and want a mature relationship, this isn’t the man for you. If you have a lot of aspects to Mars or Mars in the 1st house, you may relate to this description. Mars rules over Aries. Any planets or house cusp placements in Aries or Scorpio will be affected by this position.

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Mars in Taurus

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Male Identity: Mars enters the domain of Venus, his opposite planet, when he moves into Taurus. Taurus is a fixed earth sign. Mars doesn’t feel very comfortable here. Mars is in detriment. Taurus is an easy-going energy. Mars is active and assertive. Taurus takes its time and finishes things on its own time. Mars wants everything done now. Venus is the planet of beauty and charm. Taurus lends the men with this placement attractive qualities. Mars would rather impress others with its actions.

Just because Mars isn’t comfortable here doesn’t mean these men aren’t masculine. In fact, the men with this placement see masculinity in the context of the traditional. These men believe a real man is physically strong, makes money, has lovers, and has a steady life. They feel that men should always have something to own. Their fathers and/or other men they admire have a strong influence on them. They tend to model themselves after the people they admire. They tend to have a fixed way of viewing masculinity, too. They can be possessive of even their ideas, not wanting these ideas to be changed by anyone. This is a threat to their masculinity.

The issue is that Mars in Taurus men have a fragile masculinity because they are often too concerned about coming off “feminine”. They have such a strict code regarding masculinity, they often have a hard time breaking the “masculine” rules. The funny part is they often break these standards without trying. It’s hard to live up to social standards in every way and these men have an inner soft side. This could make them uncomfortable in their own skin. They want to be seen as tough and strong, like they perceive men are supposed to be, yet they also want to appreciate the beauty around them. The problem is they care too much about how they will be seen by others. In this way, they won’t take up any dare or chart their own destinies for fear of losing their masculine security. This makes them seem like they have a fragile masculinity that is threatened by anything. They have a strong sense of ownership. They define masculinity on their own terms and don’t want anyone taking that away from them.

The men with this placement are usually charming, attractive, and down-to-earth. They are best described as laid-back. They are usually slow to anger and reasonable. They tend to have a way with women. Even if they aren’t interested in women, they know how to attract the right people to them. They may have quite a few female friends.

These men are about the material things. Even if they don’t have a lot of money, they tend to judge others’ worth by how much money or material things they have. They can be very superficial and physical. Many of them have a passion and desire for material things. They feel threatened around people who make more money or anyone who looks better. Some may equally reject money for a more natural life, loving farming and the outdoors. Some of these men could be the rugged types.

These men love to indulge in pleasures. They are often caught up in food, drink, and other finer things (they must be careful of getting involved with alcohol and drugs). They tend to be artistic in some way. They could be interested in music, painting, sketching, sculpting, or any other creative outlets. They appreciate beauty and they like to fully experience and enjoy it. They tend to care a little more about their appearance in comparison to other men. Even if they don’t, they have a specific style. They may enjoy one brand or style over other brands or styles.

These men are practical. They work hard for what they want. They like stability and understand how important security is. Unfortunately, they do have a lazy streak. They prefer jobs where they can be creative and have plenty of time to relax and take it easy. They like to take their time and they patiently go after whatever it is they want. Results may not be immediate, but they know they will get what they want in time. They are rooted in their jobs, too. They prefer jobs that can last a long time and help them pay the bills. They also need to be able to get the material things they want. They really hate working under others. They hate to be pushed around and working according to other people’s schedules. If anyone approaches them, a soft, charming approach is better than an aggressive approach. Fortunately, they don’t get angry easily. Don’t think this means they are easy to push around. Keep pushing him, and the raging Bull will emerge. And that side is hard to calm down! These men can hold a lasting grudge if angered. Still, they are more than likely to give the cold shoulder before they get into a physical fight. The problem is that these men let their anger build up inside. When it finally does spill over, it’s uncontrollable!

When it comes to sports, they tend to enjoy sports that help them show off their physical strength. They may like wrestling and boxing. They can be good at any sports, really, because they have a lot of staying power. If they love a sport enough, they can do it for a living. However, they are likely to choose sports that are considered “normal” like basketball, baseball, or football. No matter what sport they choose, they aren’t necessarily the competitive types. They play for the fun of it. They hate to play sports with people who get too caught up in the game. They certainly don’t want anyone blaming them for anything going wrong in the game. They tend to only like sports they are really good at, so they are not likely to face that problem often. They are good at any physical training. However, they do need time to relax, even from sports. They may enjoy watching sports more than playing them.

This website is good for understanding Mars in Taurus in sports: Sports & Mars

These men, again, are slow to anger. They are only likely to get angry when anyone challenges their sense of ownership. This sense of ownership could be taking their money away, their home, or even their lover. It could be making them feel like less of a man. It could be embarrassing them in front of friends or family members. It can be insulting their race, culture, or country. Whatever the case, they want the ultimate respect. They have a “tribe” sort of mentality. They can be fiercely protective of the things and people they love. If people are angry with them, however, they will avoid confrontation at all cost.

Mars Signs-What’s Your Fighting Style? is a good article to read to learn about what angers Mars in Taurus and how they fight and argue.

It can be challenging to respect them at times. They are very opinionated. They are also stubborn and have a hard time admitting when they are wrong. They tend to be really shallow in their thinking. They do have a lot of common sense, though. It’s just their thinking on matters never float beyond the surface.

These men are strong, sometimes even physically. They can endure a lot. When they channel their energies, they are determined to get whatever it is they want accomplished. Because of their charm and strength, they are capable of conquering empires. They make some of the world’s most notorious leaders. They are good at making others feel at ease in a crisis and good at building up those who are weak. They are rock solid.

Around their fellow male peers, they are generally the strong, silent types. They tend to be the leaders, being the glue that holds their friends together. They can be a little conceited and stuck in their ways. Other men may find them to be oily or too focused on their possessions and/or talents. At the same time, many of their fellow peers find them to be real and authentic. They seem to understand what it takes to be a “real” man and they seem to get all the ladies, so men respect and admire them. Partners may find them to be charming and laid-back, but difficult to move or shake.

If they really want something or someone, they will try their hardest to get what they want. However, they try to avoid open competition. So they will attempt to get what they want in a smoother way. Mostly, they like to have their own things rather than receiving left-overs.

Relationships: Due to their steady nature, these men tend to like steady relationships. They usually want something that lasts. They don’t jump into things too quickly, but once they do, they expect their partners to stay with them forever. This doesn’t mean they don’t cheat. They have an appreciation for beauty. If they feel their partners aren’t pleasing them physically, they may search for this pleasure in others. It’s also hard for them to resist others’ charms. However, these men are less likely to want to put up with the drama and the consequences. They may try to keep both partners away from one another, trying to avoid the changes that could occur. They should be careful of this. Drama is sure to follow.

These men generally want a relationship that is relaxing and chilled. They need their partners to be patient with them. They don’t like to be bossed around. They are stubborn. They hate to be moved when they don’t want to. They tend to get comfortable in relationships easily and may take lovers for granted after awhile. This isn’t intentional. They just want to indulge in the pleasure of the moment and they often forget to give as much as they receive. They aren’t fans of change. They like a steady routine and they want to come home to a warm meal and clean, comfortable sheets. They also need pleasure in their relationships. They want partners who will cater to them. They like everything to go their way. If they do something nice for their partners, it will be when they want to do it, not when their partners want them to do it.

This man always seems to feel a spark between himself and Venus, the planet of love, beauty, and art. Venus is so charming and attractive, this man can’t help but feel the heat. Her feminine wiles drive him mad with lust! Venus is not only beautiful, but loving and peaceful. She shows an appreciation for everything, and this excites him. Of course, to be around such a soft creature, this man has to soften his approach to matters and refine his own nature. She doesn’t share the same depth or sense of excitement he has after all.

When approaching potential lovers, these men tend to take their time. Sometimes, they wait until the person comes up to them. They may like someone for a long time before they ask them out. When they finally do, they use their charms, good looks, and money to woo others. They may like to show off their talents or their possessions. These men may like to sing a song or recite poetry. They may be down-right romantic when pursuing someone. They are smooth. They are also persistent and use the same method over and over until the person breaks. They don’t take rejection well. It tends to make them fall hard. Once someone rejects them, that person will not get another chance.

When taking someone on a date, they tend to like a place that is both romantic, peaceful, and pleasing. They may like to take their dates to a jazz club or to a restaurant that plays tasteful music. They may like to go to or have outdoor barbecues or have a picnic. They may cook at home or order a lavish dinner and invite someone over to their place. They will allow their partners to choose whatever they want on the menu. If they don’t have a lot of money, they will more than likely make lunch or dinner.  They may find a place that’s less expensive but still really tasty. These men may like to go to museums (on a quiet day), art galleries, or to large parks. Whatever place they choose, it will be chilled and romantic. They certainly know how to make their partners feel comfortable. They use their good old-fashioned manners. They are usually soft-spoken when around someone they like. They tend to treat partners gently and they are always calm. They never cause a scene when trying to impress someone, so partners can count on them to behave.

Again, these men have a traditional view of masculinity. They believe it’s the man’s job to pay for everything. They believe men are supposed to be strong, both physically and inside. They believe all men are the same and all men want the same things. They believe all men hate to be pushed around and like to chill and do relaxing activities, like watching the game on T.V. It would make them uncomfortable to meet men who think differently from them. In fact, they would find those men strange.

Male Sexuality: These men see sex as a pleasurable activity. They can only do it when relaxed. At the same time, if they are too relaxed, they may not want to do it at all. They are slow to build their passion and energy. They need a lot of physical stimulation. They take their time, enjoying every moment with their partners. They prefer sexual partners that take their time pleasing them in every way. They are patient lovers.

They need to have sex with a partner they are attracted to. It’s hard enough for them to build their passions. It’s even more challenging when their partners are unappealing. They need someone who puts some effort into turning them on. They tend to be very physical.

Once they get started sexually, they can go all night. They tend to have a strong sex drive once it is ignited. They can try many positions, but they never do anything too taboo.

If you want a man who is strong, stable, practical, easy-going, this is the man for you. If you are bossy, not really a physical person, prefer to move at a faster pace, and/or you like to change up things often, this man is not the one for you. If you have Venus aspecting Mars or Mars in the 2nd house, you may relate to this description. Taurus is ruled by Venus, so your Venus sign will alter your expression.  You can read the description of your Venus sign within this page. For example, if you have Mars in Taurus, Venus in Gemini, you can read Mars in Gemini to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Aries or Scorpio will be affected by this planet.

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Mars in Gemini

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Male Identity: When Mars enters Gemini, he’s entering the domain owned by Mercury. There are many things Mars has in common with Gemini, and some things he’s not so comfortable with. Gemini is a mutable air sign. Gemini is a busy, busy energy. Mars likes to keep busy. But Gemini is so scattered it lacks focus. Mars likes to accomplish things and likes to focus on one thing at a time. Mars is very direct.

The men with this placement carry a certain boyishness forever with them. They are talkative, playful, sporty, and love to play pranks. They are quite mischievous. They are clever and witty. They notice everything. These guys are social creatures. They don’t like spending time at home alone. They would rather be out, getting into something.

The men with this placement can be of two types (being a Gemini and all). They can be super smart, loving to read and express their opinions and thoughts or they can have a hard time sitting still long enough to read and engage in a decent conversation. These types are easily distracted by everything going on around them. When bored, they get tired. They must be careful of nervousness and headaches due to absorbing too much around them. These guys can be very superficial. They live such a scattered lifestyle they often don’t have time to develop themselves and reflect on the deeper things within. They are thinkers, but they mostly focus on trivia or little tidbits.

Men with this placement can work at many different jobs. They can work two jobs at once. They have a lot of skills and they learn quickly. They mostly like jobs that keep them busy. They only care about money in the way they can use money to explore all there is to explore in life. But they aren’t really materialistic.

They might be interested in all kinds of games. They may love chess, board games, or video games. They are interested in PC games and apps, too. They often have the latest technology, if they can afford it. If they can’t, they will find a way to try something new. They have plenty of connections. They aren’t shy and easily talk to people.

If they are interested in sports, they usually like to play sports that help them make use of both their physical and mental energies. They tend to like soccer/football, baseball, hockey, basketball, and American football. They really love to play. But they never take sports seriously. These men are capable of coming up with their own sports games if they wanted to. They are so resourceful and versatile. They can take a football and make it into something else entirely. These guys are so active, they can make a game out of anything. They tend to be physically thin and athletic-looking as a result of their changeable energy. They may also be interested in sports sponsored by the community. They will side with their local teams before any international teams. They don’t often have the patience to sit and watch sports unless they are watching it with others.

This website is good for understanding Mars in Gemini in sports: Sports & Mars

These men have an open-minded view of masculinity. It really depends on their social group (and it depends on who you’re asking). If they are around macho guys, they will develop a macho attitude. They tend to want to fit in and maintain a certain neutral social status. If they are around more open-minded guys, they will be, too. No matter what side they take, they are really curious about everything. If they could have it their way (and not have to worry about losing their social groups), they would try everything. And I mean everything. They are not against trying make-up, cooking, and/or hair-styling. They still may love women. Still, these men want the freedom to experience everything at least once. They can be very impressionable as a result. It’s easy to convince them to try anything. They must be careful of peer pressure to get involved in drugs and alcohol. Those things don’t always make a person cool and it can have lasting damaging effects on the body. These men love to party and club. But deep down, they’re kind of geeky or nerdy. They could own a motorcycle and love rock music, then turn around and love comic books and Disney movies.

These men don’t get angry easily. They would rather laugh things off than get too serious. Still, you’ll know when you’ve rubbed them the wrong way. They have a sharp tongue and can find some unheard of curse words, too. The only thing that makes them angry is when someone constantly picks with them and constantly talks about them to others. They can tolerate a lot, but they will blow up eventually. If someone is angry with them, they will try to talk their way out of the confrontation or manipulate the situation in their favor.

Mars Signs-What’s Your Fighting Style? is a good article to read to learn about what angers Mars in Gemini and how they fight and argue.

Around their fellow male peers, they are fun, wiry, talkative, and hilariously funny. They can equally be annoying, mischievous, and immature. Peers may also find them to be two-faced. It’s not that they are, but they can easily adapt into any crowd. They like being around all kinds of people. Partners may find them to be fun and humorous, but a little fickle and unpredictable.

As far as respecting another man’s boundaries, this also depends on who you’re asking. Again, they want to maintain their social connections, but they want to try everything. They are likely to overstep someone else’s boundaries and lie about it or never tell anyone about it. They’re good at telling lies. They know how to keep a straight face and use the right body language. They always have shifty eyes, so it would be hard to tell just by looking at their eyes. The funny part is, as much as they lie, they really hate liars.

Relationships: These versatile men tend to want to experience everything they can in a relationship. This often makes it difficult to tie them down to one relationship. They are always curious and itching to try something new. Often these men think it’s impossible not to cheat, but really it’s all in their minds. They are a mental sign after all. They are so influenced by others, they let society influence their thinking. These men often watch or hear about men cheating. Since it’s so glamorized, these men itch to try it. With the right mental readjustment, they can begin to see the versatility within one partner. Of course, it would be easier if they could find a partner who equally likes to change things up all the time. If they can find several people in ONE person, they will be happy in a steady relationship.

This man constantly feels a spark between himself and Mercury, the planet of communication, intellect, and reason. Mercury is constantly talking, learning, and moving, so this man’s relationship with him is never boring! Of course, things move so fast for them, they can hardly take the time to fully enjoy their relationship. In fact, at the end of it all, they feel a complete hang-over, both mental and physical exhaustion. But hey, if you’re going to live, why not live fully?

These men approach love interests in a “now you see me, now you don’t” kind of way. They come around their love interests at social gatherings, use their mental game (i.e. flirting), and try to get into that person’s mind. They can be a little coarse in what they say. But they are adaptable. If one method doesn’t work, they will try a new approach. They must be careful of lying just to impress someone. They are better off showing off their clever wit and intelligence. People love men who make them laugh. Mars in Geminis are experts at lightening the mood! They are charming and friendly. They must remember these qualities work better than lying. They don’t take rejection as hard as other men, especially if they have someone else they’re interested in. Even if they’re not interested in someone else, they leave and then come back again! They may even suggest that they at least be friends with the person they’re interested in. Still, they hate to be embarrassed in front of their friends. If it’s easier for their friends to get dates, and they constantly get rejected, they will be moody and depressed. Sometimes, these men joke around to hide their pain. They really must handle these feelings. Otherwise, their feelings will turn from sadness to resentment, then anger, then outright aggression.

When going on dates, they tend to like to try a combination of things all at once. Partners should be prepared to use all of their energy. They like to go to places that are both fun and interesting. They may like going to cultural festivals, clubs, amusement parks, or even museums. Sometimes, they may try to do all of this at once! Fortunately, they are adaptable. If they see that their partners aren’t having fun or maybe having too much fun, they will drop any plans they had and go with whatever their partners want. Still, if they were to ask you out, their partners had better wear some sensible shoes just in case. The Mars in Gemini guys floats between the perfect gentleman and the mischievous rude boy. They may open doors and pull out chairs. Then, somewhere throughout the date, they may play pranks and tease their dates. This, of course, depends on how comfortable they are with their dates. If they are just getting to know their dates, they will be more polite. They are socially-aware. If they know their dates well, expect the unexpected.

These men tend to think all men cheat. They tend to feel that all men want freedom and want to try new things all the time. They probably think all men have the same interests and are all more curious than women. They may even think men are more open-minded than women. They may be surprised that other men have different views regarding masculinity.

Male Sexuality: These men see sex as a fun activity. Again, they like to try new things. Sex is on their bucket lists and they want to try everything regarding the subject. They really need a partner that’s just as open and experimental as they are. If they can’t explore everything to the fullest with one partner, they will find ways to get what they want somewhere else. It’s a sure reason for them to cheat. They may find other ways to experience various sexual activities through porn or through various partners.

Of course, sex is mostly a mental thing for these guys. They don’t really need a physical person to experience sex. They would do well with virtual sex or even “sexting”. They can also easily divert their attention from sex by focusing on something else until a later date. Once turned on, though, they may want it quickly.

These men are easily influenced by other men’s ideas of sex. They are even more influenced by the men around them, like their friends or family members. If their friends are exploring sex, they will want to as well. They will feel more rejection if they can’t explore what they think other men are exploring. They will feel like they are missing out on life.

If you love a man who is fun, smart, flirty, and adaptable, you will love these guys. If you dislike talking and need stability, he may not be the one for you. If you have Mercury aspecting Mars or Mars in the 3rd house, you may relate to this description. Gemini is ruled by Mercury, so your Mercury sign will alter your expression.  You can read the description of your Mercury sign within this page. For example, if you have Mars in Gemini, Mercury in Cancer, you can read Mars in Cancer to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Aries or Scorpio will be affected by this planet.

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Mars in Cancer

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Male Identity: When Mars enters Cancer, he enters the sign ruled by the Moon. Mars falls in this sign. Cancer is a cardinal water sign. The Moon is the planet of emotions, most associated with women in general, the mother, the “motherland”, and our early home environment or our roots. Mars is a masculine planet, associated with independence, which separates him from his roots. These men often feel a pull. They want to be close to their families, to keep traditions strong, but they also want to be independent and be seen as their own man.

These men have two conflicting views regarding masculinity. They both have a traditional and non-traditional view of masculinity. They often have traditional views when comparing themselves to women and children. Like their fathers and grandfathers, they believe it is the man’s job to protect their families, provide security for their families, and make their fathers proud of them. They often feel like their masculinity is decided by these factors. On the other hand, as individuals, they have interests that the world may not be ready to consider “masculine”. For instance, these men may be interested in domestic activities such as cooking and gardening. These men may prefer creative jobs (like music, designing cartoons, or painting) instead of an office job (though they may settle to maintain security). They may be extremely close to their mothers. In fact, they may even deeply admire their mothers! These men are also more in touch with their emotions. Society isn’t ready for men to enter into this kind of world. Thus, these men often feel weaker than other men or bullied by other men for being “different”. These men have to learn to accept themselves and trust their instincts. They really are ahead of the world. They have to learn to be comfortable with that. These men still have people who admire them, even if they don’t realize it. They seem genuine and they express themselves well. They tend to relate to the “average guy”. They understand men on an intuitive level, a level rarely reached by other men. They have the ability to get in touch with the masses, which can help them in any career they get into.

These men may have insecurities with feeling weaker than other men. In order to feel stronger, some of these men may abuse those they feel are weaker just so they can feel stronger. They may try to place strict codes between men and women, fearing female domination. They are also really sensitive. They do have to be careful of women controlling or abusing them, but they should be careful they aren’t getting too paranoid.

They tend to be really protective of their families and friends. If anyone messes with the ones they love, they will get angry. They are uncontrollable when angered. Their emotions get so involved, they take it out on anyone around them. Since showing emotions are shunned by men, these men channel it into physical aggression. They are instinctive in a fight. On the other hand, some will let others bully them only to later get back at that person in a round-about fashion.

As much as they love their families, sometimes they can’t get along with them either. Their fathers tend to be hard on them or causing commotion within the home. They often fight and argue with female relatives due to differences. Domestic violence may be common in their households. Their mothers may be the dominant figures in the home and may try to make them feel “less than”.

Just don’t hit them too personally. If you can avoid the things they are touchy about, you will avoid their tempers. They also absolutely HATE betrayal and disloyalty. Some will give you the cold shoulder, others will confront you. It all depends on their mood.

Mars Signs-What’s Your Fighting Style? is a good article to read to learn about what angers Mars in Cancers and how they fight and argue.

Generally, though, these men are quiet and sweet. Most of them keep to themselves and enjoy doing activities within the home. They tend to be “book smart” and often spend a lot of time reading. They tend to have educated opinions. They may enjoy carpentry, as they love building things. It makes them feel “manly”. They are good when it comes to fixing things around the house.

They instinctively think about the needs of others. They often do things for others without really thinking about it. When their friends or family members need them most, they are there.

When it comes to sports, they can be extremely athletic or uninterested. It all depends on how they were raised. If their families taught them to love sports, they tend to be interested in the sports of their homeland. They may feel a sense of “family” with sports teams. They may have a love of soccer/football, American football, baseball, basketball, rugby, or other sports that remind them of where they come from.

This website is good for understanding Mars in Cancer in sports: Sports & Mars

Again, they love creative jobs, but they also like the medical professions and psychology. They may also be interested in criminal justice because they like protecting others.They may love teaching because they do well with children.

Around male peers, they tend to be quiet loners. If they have close friends, they will be understanding, supportive, and like another brother. On the other hand, friends may find them to be too sensitive and easy to anger. Partners will find them protective and sweet, but a little complex and hard to read.

They tend to respect others’ boundaries. They do not steal what they feel is another man’s. If they really want what someone else has, they will try to persuade the other party to see things their way. If they are unsuccessful, they will leave the situation where it is. They may find a “backyard” method as well, avoiding conflict.

Relationships: They may not admit it, but they get super attached in relationships. Mars intensifies their emotions. These men need loyal partners. They need a partner that they can trust. They usually pour everything out for their partners. If they even sense disloyalty, they are not the nicest people to be around. Usually, they are protective, generous, and caring. If they feel their partners have changed towards them, they get threatened. When these men get threatened, they get angry. They want a relationship where they feel a connection with their partners. They like to have a lot in common with partners because they like to do things together. They may seem a little clingy and smothering. They are overprotective sometimes. They are just trying to do what they feel they are supposed to do. You can tell them to ease up, just say it nicely. They may attract strong partners because they like to feel secure with someone, but they equally hate being dominated. They don’t like being pushed around. It would be best to feel like an equal in their relationships to avoid arguing and fighting.

These men constantly feel a spark between themselves and the Moon, the luminary associated with emotions, instincts, and habits. They can’t quite define their relationship with her. It’s tumultuous and dramatic, at the same time, familiar and secure. Their feelings reach a stronger height than ever before, making them feel an indescribable rush and a passionate desire. Yet, they feel out of control and out of touch with reality when with her. They know this relationship is rocky, yet they feel a certain chemistry with the Moon. Perhaps they love the roller-coaster ride.

When approaching someone they like, they have a difficult time. They are shy and they have a boy-next-door appeal. They tend to try an indirect approach. They may send the person they like sweet little gifts, like flowers. It will be signed “anonymous”. It will be difficult for others to decipher their feelings at first. The more intuitive souls will know it’s them immediately. They try to keep it hidden as best they can until the person recognizes them. Of course, they can be moody when they like someone, especially if that person has yet to notice them. They may try to get the person alone so that they can talk with them. They must remember to always be themselves and have a little more confidence. They have a lot to offer, just like any other man.

When taking someone out on a date, they tend to like a nice, quiet, and intimate setting. They may invite the person over to come to their house for dinner. They may take their dates to a nice, cozy restaurant, perhaps the family restaurant. They may pack a picnic basket and have a picnic in the park. They may take their dates to a cultural festival, enjoying the sights and foods that represent their nation. They may just ask where their dates would like to go. They can be quite the romantics. They can be chivalrous when around their partners. They will be protective, too. They are the types to give their jackets to partners that are cold or spoon feed their partners at the table. They walk on the side of the street that is the muddiest. They will even carry their partners if they are tired!

They believe all men want respect. They tend to believe that all men should think and feel as they do. They tend to encourage men to support other men and build each other up. Of course, they also recognize that all men are different from one another. They recognize how unique they are and wouldn’t be surprised to find men who are different from them.

Male Sexuality: These men see sex as a way to unleash their passions, desires, feelings, or to build their self-esteem. Regardless, they get super involved with their partners sexually. When they are in love with someone, sex usually follows. They may be attached to their partners after a sexual encounter. They feel they have given of themselves during the act. If they have many sexual partners, they may feel this way with all of them! However, it would be difficult for them to accept any of these partners cheating on them. They should be careful giving their hearts away to too many partners. They can’t have them all.

On the other hand, some of these men can be absolutely loyal sexually. They are even more loyal when children are in the picture. Some tend to like the idea of getting a woman pregnant and starting a family. They must be careful of spreading their seed too far and wide. It will break them eventually.

They tend to have sex when they feel the “emotions of the moment”. They don’t often stop and think. They are passionate lovers when they want someone. They can’t control themselves once turned on. It’s best for lovers not to be alone with them if they aren’t interested in sex. On the other hand, they want to please their partners and won’t be pushy too often. They may enjoy foreplay with their partners, but they are serious when they have sex. They can be both gentle and rough sexually, but they aren’t likely to be too taboo. They like all positions, but their favorite involves chest-to-chest contact.

If you love a man who is protective, caring, and security-oriented, you will love these men. If you can’t take too many emotions, not really a family girl, or want someone extremely confident, they may not be the man for you. If you have Moon aspecting Mars or Mars in the 4th house, you may relate to this description. Cancer is ruled by Moon, so your Moon sign will alter your expression.  You can read the description of your Moon sign within this page. For example, if you have Mars in Cancer, Moon in Leo, you can read Mars in Leo to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Aries or Scorpio will be affected by this planet.

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Mars in Leo

Leo

Male Identity: When Mars enters Leo, he enters the Sun’s domain. Mars’s own sign, Aries, is exalted when the Sun enters it. This shows that Mars has a lot in common with Leo. Leo is a fixed fire sign. Mars is a masculine planet and the Sun is considered a masculine planet. The Sun represents the father and manhood. Mars is the masculine principle. Yet, when two dominate forces combine, they are bound to bump heads eventually. Leo is all about “attention” and putting on a “show”. It wants lovers and admirers. It wants to be important. Mars is only concerned with accomplishing goals, overcoming obstacles, and getting what it wants. It’s a planet of action, not “displays” of action.

These men tend to be proud of their masculinity. They tend to put on a big show, flaunting themselves around as the alpha man in any group. They really do like to show off. Actually, they don’t really have to try. They are natural leaders in any room they go into. They carry a sense of confidence that is enviable. They tend to have a lot of personality, too. They can be funny, almost clownish. It is hard to ignore them.

They believe confidence is the key to being masculine. They believe the alpha man in any group is the man who is the most popular, the one who wears the best clothes, has the most money, and is extremely attractive. Basically, the man who stands out the most. When they meet men who best them in this way, they feel threatened and they get competitive. However, they will never show their weaknesses in public.

These men are destined for fame and attention. When they want it, they know how to channel their energies towards accomplishing great things. Their goal is to earn honor and respect. They want to be proud of whatever they do. They are often considered good role models as a result.

They have an inner child inside of themselves. They are playful and light-hearted. They also make great fathers because they tend to keep their kids motivated. They really want young boys to look up to them. They want to guide children in the right direction. They must be careful not to invest their ego too much in other people’s lives. They don’t want to try and take the shine from someone else. They should avoid being bossy and commanding.

They do well in jobs that help them express their unique natures. They may do well in politics and management positions because they like being in charge and they tend to be good at organizing events and people. They may do well in the fashion industry as they tend to make sure they wear the latest styles. They could be great as a sports coach or athlete. They would be great in entertainment. They always have an entrepreneur deep inside at all times. They are always trying to strike it rich and they can see the business opportunity in anything. They have a creative mind.  Regardless, these men really strive to be the best in whatever field they get into. They are adventurous and enthusiastic when they get a business plan going.

They are really big kids at heart. They love sports of all kinds. Their problem is they may feel they have to be the star on every team. They have a hard time taking a backseat. The good part is they really strive to BE the best. When they are the captain or quarterback, they are good at motivating their team. They could outshine the cheerleaders! They enjoy watching sports, but they always have an idea of how they could’ve played better. They tend to support the “best” team rather than a team that has had consistent losses.

This website is good for understanding Mars in Leo in sports: Sports & Mars

The less athletic guys may have many creative interests. They may be in a band in their spare time or they may enjoy planning house parties. They love to party. These guys are gregarious by nature. Their birthday parties tend to be a huge deal! They tend to have an adventurous life. They need to be careful of gambling and taking financial risks. They also should be careful of taking physical dares. This isn’t always bad. They should just make sure everything they try doesn’t bring physical damage to themselves.

These guys are generally positive and upbeat. But their tempers can be ferocious and dramatic (though their bark tends to be worse than their bite). A jab at their pride is sure to set them off. They don’t like to be humiliated. They hate to be told what to do in any way. They don’t even like when others get an authoritative tone. They have a hard time working under others as a result.

Mars Signs-What’s Your Fighting Style? is a good article to read to learn about what angers Mars in Leos and how they fight and argue.

Around male peers, they tend to be loud, flamboyant, and confident. They almost seem invincible. Of course, drama seems to follow these guys. They seem really popular and jovial. They are always center stage. Male peers may equally find them to be arrogant, to be braggarts, or to be all talk and no show. Some may even find them annoying. Partners find them exciting, funny, and romantic, but maybe a little dramatic and self-centered.

They don’t like taking another man’s possessions or lovers. They have too much pride to have someone else’s leftovers. At the same time, they could learn to let others shine every once in a while.

Relationships: The Mars in Leo man is just as passionate and dramatic in relationships as he is in life. He’s actually very romantic. He wants his relationships to be fun, passionate, and suited to all of his needs. In every instance, he has to be the center of attention in his relationships. He may feel he represents his relationships. He must make sure to remember that a relationship consists of TWO people instead of one person. When they remember this, they can be generous, playful, and attentive to their lovers. They really have a strong need to be attractive and they strive to the best lovers they can be (even if it’s just for show). The more pompous Mars in Leos want to be taken care of. They are often like the literal lion. They let their lionesses do the hunting, but they eat the meal first, otherwise there will be a fight! These men tend to want partners that are attentive, humble, submissive, and caring. They want to be treated like kings, with their partners feeding them and doing the hard work for them. If they are more like the humble lions, they tend to want to be the ones to take care of their partners and their families. Their pride won’t allow anyone to take over. They feel it’s the man’s responsibility to not only be the king, but run the kingdom. Most Mars in Leo men are loyal partners, but some take many partners to stroke their egos. They mostly need partners that make them look good in some way.

These men constantly feel a spark between themselves and the Sun, the luminary associated with the self, our main concerns, and vitality. When with the Sun, this man believes in himself. The Sun supports anything and everything he does, and this boosts his confidence. With the Sun around, these men feel invincible. His goals come first and take first priority. Maybe he seems a little self-centered, but he’s always full of life, thanks to the Sun’s warm support. The Sun is always on the same page. On the other hand, the Sun may take away all the shine in their attempt to support the man, which may cause some conflict and tension. As long as the Sun’s intentions are positive, this man will feel invigorated.

When approaching someone they like, they are usually either dramatic or romantic. They tend to pull out all of their game for the one they want. They are the types to announce their interest in public, in front of others. They will send dozens of roses, shed tons of money on gifts and expensive dinners, and will be there when the car breaks down or repairs need to be made. Some of them may expect to be appreciated for all that they do. If they are rejected, they will feel taken for granted. This is because they really do too much to win someone else’s heart. These gentlemen have to be reminded that it was their own choice to be elaborate, knowing they may not win in the end. They really don’t like losing, not even when trying to impress someone they like. They will really get bitter if they see that person with someone else. It really hurts their pride to be rejected. They are really sensitive deep down.

When going on a date, these men tend to like to have a lot of fun. Whatever they do and wherever they go will be amazing and unforgettable. They tend to take their partners to lavish, expensive restaurants. They may take their lovers to fancy operas or concerts of choice (with V.I.P passes). If they have less money, they will still try to make the night as special as they can. With their playful natures, they may enjoy the day at a fair or amusement park. They may play all the games just to win prizes for their dates. Whatever they do, they will add flair and drama to it. They want their partners to find them to be the most impressive suitor of all. They must remember not to splurge too much on their dates. They can be really chivalrous. They generally treat women with the ultimate respect when trying to impress them. Sometimes, they over-do it. Their problem is letting all discussions focus on themselves. They must try a little harder to pay attention to their partners and show some interest in them as people.

These men tend to feel all men should be the leader in a relationship. They may think all men want to be catered to and taken care of. They would be shocked to find men who think differently from them. They may still be stubborn about their ideas.

Male Sexuality: These men see sex as a part of making love and receiving pleasure in their relationships. They generally like to be the dominant partner. They love foreplay and creating an interesting scene in the bedroom. These men love the attention from their partners no matter what. Sex is just another way for them to shine. They tend to be playful and fun sexually.

They want their partners to think they are the best sex partners ever. They like to share information about their sexuality or their experiences with their friends. Some may care more about their own pleasure. Others may care what their partners want, making sure the overall experience is amazing for both parties. Whatever goes on in the bedroom, they want to make sure mostly positive things are said about the experience. They may be reluctant to jump in the bedroom with someone if they aren’t sure they can perform at their best.

If you love a man who has a lot of personality, someone fun and entertaining, playful and generous, you will love these men. If you need to be the dominant one, dislike drama, and don’t like a whole lot of attention, they may not be the men for you. If you have Sun aspecting Mars or Mars in the 5th house, you may relate to this description. Leo is ruled by Sun, so your Sun sign will alter your expression.  You can read the description of your Sun sign within this page. For example, if you have Mars in Leo, Sun in Virgo, you can read Mars in Virgo to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Aries or Scorpio will be affected by this planet.

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Mars in Virgo

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Male Identity: Mars enters the other area belonging to Mercury when it enters Virgo. Virgo is a mutable earth sign. Mars has some things in common with the mutable sign, and some things he doesn’t really feel comfortable with. Virgo is a busy, hard-working sign. Mars likes to keep busy and get things accomplished. But Virgo is earthy, practical, and a little more cautious. Virgo is also scattered. Mars doesn’t hesitate to jump into things, regardless of the consequences. He’s also direct and focused.

The men with this placement work hard. They speak well and they are usually polite. They are very intelligent. Their idea of being masculine is earning respect through hard work, sacrifices, and humility. They always try to maintain a mellow existence, no matter how famous they get, no matter how much money they make.

These gentlemen keep themselves busy, even if they aren’t working. They mostly work to improve themselves and the craft. They may have hobbies that they cater to. They may get involved with their families. They try to do something productive every day.

These men seem so humble that other men often think they are easy targets and that they can be pushed around. These guys do have an “innocent” way about them. They have a strong moral code, a strong sense of righteousness, and they are generally good men. They just need to be careful of letting other boss them around and they need to learn to stand up for themselves.

They are funny, witty, and pay attention to all the details. This makes them seem a little oily. They are perfectionists who cater to every part of their appearance. They make sure they stay healthy and fit. They can be critical of others as well. They have often stung others with their sharp criticisms. But they are good at giving advice and helping others, even if what they say is too sharp.

They have such a keen eye for detail, they can work in any field. They make excellent game designers and producers because they know how to put together complex games using sophisticated software. They are often seen in politics because they speak well, are humble, and understand the “average” person. They could do well in the medical fields because they are health-conscious. They make excellent authors and critics as well. They are good at acting because they completely capture every detail of a character. Whatever job they take on, they complete every task effortlessly or try their best to.

They may like any sports. Mostly, though, they’d rather watch sports than play them professionally. They aren’t the competitive types and they tend to be particular when getting down and “dirty”. Some of them have hidden health issues they are trying to overcome as well. But those that are really athletic enjoy solo sports that allow them to use their mental expertise. They may enjoy Olympic sports like racing. They may enjoy measuring distance and discovering clever ways of beating their opponents. They are interested in animals, so they may be interested in being a horse jockey. They may enjoy extreme sports tremendously because they are excellent at calculating the best moves to make on ramps and for tricks.

This website is good for understanding Mars in Virgo in sports: Sports & Mars

If they aren’t interested in sports, they tend to be interested in chilled activities like watching tv, surfing the internet, playing games on their phone, or video games. They usually have hobbies and projects they like to work on.

These gentlemen rarely lose their cool, but they do get frustrated, nervous, and fussy. They rarely like working with others, especially people who are unreliable or inefficient. They hold a lot in and aren’t confrontational, but their anger often boils over and turns into a tantrum if not handled. The main things that irritates them is when they are criticized or pushed around for too long. But very little bothers them or gets under their skin. They get a little irritated when they can’t finish something they’ve been working on or when someone interferes with their routine. They have a system for doing things. They are men who like order. If that order is out of wack, they will be out of wack. Other than that, they are generally easy-going and can endure a lot.

Mars Signs-What’s Your Fighting Style? is a good article to read to learn about what angers Mars in Virgos and how they fight and argue.

Around male peers, they are generally quiet and humble. They are funny and tend to get along with most guys they know. Some guys may find them to be a little critical and judgmental, but very few people have a bad word to say about these men. At least they are honest. Somewhat, they are loners, so they don’t really give people anything to talk about. Partners find them to be reliable, responsible, and dependable, but workaholics.

They tend to respect other men and their boundaries. They usually have no desire to overstep someone else’s grounds. They are too smart to walk into territory they don’t belong. If they do want what another man has, they use their brains and wait until that item (or person) is available.

Relationships: They tend to be family men. They make great boyfriends and husbands. They focus a lot on the details of their partners, making sure their partners are well-cared for. They are attentive and helpful. When a car needs to be fixed or their partners can’t find something important, they will be around to help. Of course, they can be a little critical of their partners. If their partners change up their routines, they can get really sharp. They also tend to point out little things that seem “out of place”, like a hair strand sticking up or untied shoelaces. It comes out as “too honest”. This may aggravate their partners. They also don’t spend a whole lot of time with their lovers. They are always so busy. It would be best for their partners to have “busy work” to do as well. First off, they respect others who work hard. Second, it will be the best way to ease loneliness. Working with them on a project might be a way to spend more time with them. Of course, they have to be in charge of the project because they are very specific about their ideas. It would be great to suggest that these men set aside some time to spend with loved ones. A lot of it could be shyness. They often want to be the perfect lovers and often don’t know the best way to show that without messing up. They really need a partner that is tolerant and easy-going to make them feel at ease. They don’t need demanding types.

This man constantly feels a spark between himself and Mercury, the planet of communication, intellect, and reason. The information this man receives from Mercury is useful and inspires practical action. This man may feel that life moves a little fast with Mercury, but Mercury has a lot to offer. This man can’t deny that a lot more gets done when he’s working together with Mercury, even if the projects don’t last very long. Being around someone so intelligent and reasonable really makes this man feel strong and motivated.

When approaching someone they like, they get a little nervous and shy. They usually try a simple approach. They start off with a pleasant greeting and then simply ask the person out somewhere. Some may give compliments. They usually make sure they are dressed well and they pull out their best manners. It’s best if they prepare ahead of time, though. When they get nervous, they may sweat a lot or stumble. Some are smoother than others. Others are attentive. These types observe the people they want long before approaching them. They often find the right words to say. They usually offer to help the person they like with something and move in from there. If they are rejected, they generally get really hard on themselves. They often have to know the reason for the rejection and will try to fix it for next time.

They usually like to take their dates wherever their dates want to go. Of course, if they could have it their way, the date would be simple and inexpensive. They generally want partners who aren’t extremely materialistic. They don’t necessarily feel that a man has to spend a lot of money to please someone. They would enjoy a nice walk in the park. Being an earth sign, they appreciate nature. A day at the Aquarium would be something they would suggest. It’s both interesting and soothing. They like to take their dates to quiet dinners in clean environments. They might even enjoy a day at a fair. Wherever they go, it will be perfect. It will be romantic, but not dramatic or cheesy. It will be nice but not super expensive. They are always well-mannered in public, so that shouldn’t be a problem.

These men may feel most men are laid-back but generally like their routines. They may feel most men dislike partners who are dramatic. They may be surprised to find that other men have their own ideas about masculinity.

Male Sexuality: These men view sex as something a man should understand. They see it as healthy and a good stress reliever. They take a lot of time and effort to perfect their skills. Of course, they may seem a little nervous or cautious about the act as a result. They always want to make sure they perform well, just like they do at work. They tend to be very good at making their partners feel comfortable. They are self-serving, getting more excited by their partners’ pleasure.

They are particular about who they have sex with. Again, they want it to be a healthy activity. They generally are more cautious with more experienced partners. They are careful with people who have had too many partners. The individual may be hot to him, but he has enough self-control to deny a partner sex if he feels the person is “unclean”.  But they have a curious side and they love to learn. They may be more experimental than most earth signs.

If you love a man who is chilled and helpful, you will love them. If you need a lot of romance and you require a lot of attention, he may not be the one for you. If you have Mercury aspecting Mars or Mars in the 6th house, you may relate to this description. Virgo is ruled by Mercury, so your Mercury sign will alter your expression.  You can read the description of your Mercury sign within this page. For example, if you have Mars in Virgo, Mercury in Libra, you can read Mars in Libra to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Aries or Scorpio will be affected by this planet.

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Mars in Libra

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Male Identity: Mars enters another one of Venus’s signs, Libra-the cardinal air sign. Mars feels uncomfortable in this position. Mars is in detriment here. There are a lot of things about Libra that rubs Mars the wrong way. Though Libra is one of the extroverted, masculine signs, Libra is like Venus in the fact that it is passive-aggressive, balanced, and superficial. Mars has not time for indecision, moderation, and superficiality. Mars wants to come to quick decisions, go after whatever it wants with fierce intensity so that is can get what it wants faster, and doesn’t really care what anyone looks like while doing it. Libra cares about others; Mars is an independent energy. Libra baffles the planet Mars. Still, Libra is an energetic and positive placement, so Mars can have some fun along the way at times.

The men with this placement often don’t feel as tough or aggressive as other men. They tend to have a lot of energy for pleasurable activities, but they never put their foot forward too hard or too fast. Their idea of manhood tends to be contrary to society’s view of manhood. They feel that what makes them masculine is their cool, easy-going, and creative nature. They believe that masculinity is mental and that a real man is smart and good at negotiating. They mostly feel masculinity is a social thing rather than an instinctive, physical, or biological thing. They are logical and reasonable in the way they see masculinity. They can understand how masculinity can be defined in many different ways.

These men don’t see the need to be as competitive or boastful like other men. At the same time, they feel uncomfortable when they don’t fit in. They tend to either make themselves feel more unique or they over-emphasize their masculinity to overcompensate for their weaknesses. What’s most important is being attractive. They really want lovers in their lives and they strive to be respected by their partners.

These men are super intelligent and love to read. They generally love open discussions. However, they tend to get heated in conversations, turning them into debates or arguments. They always feel like they need the last word. If they are proven wrong, it angers and disappoints them. They can even get resentful. Though they generally hate arguing and fighting, they often start them without intending to.

They are actually really good leaders. They are good at bringing opposing parties together for one common goal because they aren’t too dominant, they are persuasive, and they are team-oriented. They are good at motivating others. This is because they are motivated by others.

They are generally better-suited to jobs where they can be creative and easily work with others on a team. They may enjoy the music field. They could be excellent painters and sculptors. They do well in politics and office jobs. They would make excellent lawyers because they are fierce debaters and are often determined to win in a conversation. They don’t do well in jobs that are hard or laborious unless they work with someone else. Any job they take on, they have to really love. Otherwise, they will be unmotivated and lazy.

They love sports, watching it and playing. They try not to take it too seriously, though. On the other hand, if they were to work at something they love, and if they loved sports, they may choose it as a career. They still don’t want their favorite hobbies to feel too much like a hard job. They generally do well on teams. American football, basketball, hockey, and soccer/football are all sports they do well with. They may love sports that take grace and intelligence like fencing. They may enjoy extreme sports or even Olympic sports because of the balance required. Though they would rather do something they love, their drive isn’t as strong. They may be indecisive, switching from sport to sport. They usually seem dispassionate about sports, even if they play it for a living.

This website is good for understanding Mars in Libra in sports: Sports & Mars

If they aren’t interested in sports, they are definitely more creative. They also love to socialize and party. They love that life of luxury and ease. Their social life is very important to them. They get irritated and nervous when they are alone too long. They often have a hard time doing anything alone.

These guys are passive-aggressive. They get mad, but they never address it. They will wear a smile or keep a cool head even when angry. But they may find some under-handed way to get back at the person they are angry with. They may also manipulate other people to side with them. They are stronger in numbers. They can be superficial and judgmental, staying away from people who they deem as rude and inconsiderate. In fact, it makes them angry. It makes them angry when someone criticizes the way they look. It makes them irritated when people are loud and flamboyant. It frustrates them when others are unreasonable or difficult to talk to. They don’t often realize when they are guilty of being loud, unreasonable, and critical. They will physically fight if their strong sense of justice is attacked. They believe in fairness. They will fight for their loved ones as well. However, they hate fighting and being on another person’s bad side. They quickly “do the right thing” and apologize for their behavior (unless they strongly feel they were right). Some people may take this kindness as weak and fickle. They just don’t like holding a grudge. They really want to be well-liked. Sometimes, they often blame others for their own behavior rather than own up to their own anger. They hate to lose their cool.

Mars Signs-What’s Your Fighting Style? is a good article to read to learn about what angers Mars in Libras and how they fight and argue.

While these men fancy themselves as unique thinkers, they secretly have a desire to be seen and respected as other men are. They don’t necessarily want to compete and keep up with other guys, but they often feel like they have to so other men will leave them alone. They are generally really cool, fun, and laid-back around friends. They make excellent friends because they are supportive and friendly. They are down for doing anything as long as their friends want to do it. But some people may find them to be phony, fickle, and indecisive. It’s hard for them to make decisions and they always let others pressure them.

They are passive-aggressive about respecting another man’s boundaries as well. Most of them never overstep another man’s boundaries. They just don’t have the competitive drive to do it and they hate drama. Still, if they want something, they know how to manipulate the situation in their favor. They tend to be excellent strategists. They know how to get things in the palms of their hands without stealing what is someone else’s. With their powers of persuasion, most just hand it to them!

Relationships: Relationships were made for them. Libra is the sign of relations and they usually have a strong desire to be in a partnership. They hate shouldering the weight of the world alone. It’s difficult for them to do anything alone. They often feel more confident and courageous when with a partner. They often spend a lot of time with their partners, getting frustrated when their partners are too independent. On the other hand, they are quite indecisive and often feel that things would be better if they were with “someone else”. They always dissatisfied in relationships because their standards are so high. Their issue is that they haven’t discovered who they are and what it is they really desire. They should learn to decipher what it is they really want before they get into a relationship. Their social status is also important. They want partners that make them look good in some way. At the same time, they want partners that are better than they are (financially, physically, etc) or more dominant. They want balance in their lives.

These men always seem to feel a spark between themselves and Venus, the planet of love, beauty, and art. Nothing inspires them more than the lovely Venus! She’s graceful, charming, and a pleasure to be around. She’s so classy, refined, and cultured. These men can’t help but feel lust for her. Yet, if they want to keep her beauty and refined nature, they must show how much they appreciate her. This means they must calm their excitable nature and learn to relax-something really challenging when this man is around someone so alluring!

When approaching someone they like, they are generally awkward actually. They always try not to come on too strong, but they also want a partner badly. Trying to keep both sides balanced makes them seem a little uncomfortable when asking someone out. They generally try to look attractive and try to get love interests to meet them half-way. They may try to use their money, talents, or skills to impress a lover. Whatever it takes, they will try to use it. They may not always be direct, but they will be smoother than normal. They generally try to do something with someone they like, like work on a project together, so their interest can get to know them. They generally get depressed and resentful when rejected, especially if all of their friends are dating. If they let this resentment sit, it can turn to aggression. They may not take it out on the person, but others around them will hear about it.

They are true romantics when it comes to dates. They may do whatever it takes to please their partners. They may take their love interests to luxury dinners, on romantic boat rides, or to a play or opera. They will make sure the day is a classy and artistic event. They always come with gifts, too. They are always chivalrous, easy-going, and mild when on a date. They try to be on their best behavior. Everything has to be perfect.

They may feel that all men like women, even if they aren’t interested in them romantically. They may feel women influence a man’s decisions on everything. They would be uncomfortable to find men who think differently.

Male Sexuality: These men see sex as a pleasurable activity and suited to love-making. They need a sexy, attractive partner to be motivated. If they are arguing or angry at a partner, they will not be sexually attracted to their partners and may desire other partners. These men love to please their partners thoroughly when on good terms. But when things get sour, they often cheat. They have a hard time resisting others’ charms as well.

They are balanced sexually. They love the pleasure they can get from sex, but they aren’t particularly passionate lovers. They set the perfect scene and are charming in the bedroom. They are experts with foreplay and know how to make their lovers comfortable. They are never too experimental or taboo. They would rather try positions that are easy and comfortable.

If you love a man who is charming, romantic, cool, and attractive, you will love this men. If you’re looking for someone stronger-willed or decisive, they may not be the men for you. If you have Venus aspecting Mars or Mars in the 7th house, you may relate to this description. Libra is ruled by Venus, so your Venus sign will alter your expression.  You can read the description of your Venus sign within this page. For example, if you have Mars in Libra, Venus in Scorpio, you can read Mars in Scorpio to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Aries or Scorpio will be affected by this planet.

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Mars in Scorpio

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Male Identity: Mars traditionally rules over Scorpio. It’s not surprising. Both have intense and passionate energies. Scorpio is a fixed water sign. On the outside, Scorpio is a quiet energy. Within, Scorpio boils with watery feelings that are channeled in a powerful way. Mars can certainly find an outlet for all of his intensity.

These men are intense and powerful. Rather, they really want to be powerful. Their idea of masculinity is being powerful within. They tend to seem really scrawny and weak on the outside, but on the inside is a force that is hard to control. These men are charismatic and easily influence others. Everything they do, they put passion behind it. They tend to be ruthlessly ambitious. They often don’t pay attention to the toes they step on. They sometimes don’t care. When they want something, they will get it, no matter what it takes. As powerful as they are, they are generally quiet and secretive. No one hardly ever knows what’s going on in their lives. They may hold deep, almost scary feelings within.

Scorpio is a sign of transformation. They are fully in control of their actions. They can channel their energies to overcome any habits or obstacles. They tend to make powerful changes on the inside first. They always start with their attitude. The changes slowly start to affect their outer life. Before you know it, they will seem like different men entirely. They have a lot of insight and they reflect deeply on themselves.

They do amazing in jobs that give them some power and influence. They may really enjoy being involved in politics or in their criminal justice system. They must be careful of getting involved in criminal activities, thinking that it will give them power and influence (because it really doesn’t). They may also be interested in the entertainment industry, though they may prefer to be producers and song-writers, working away from the limelight. If the limelight gives them influence, they will go for it, but they may meet some roadblocks along the way, due to their strong-willed and ruthless natures. These men are so fierce about their privacy, it is likely they will give the paparazzi more juice with their rage. It’s best if they influence events from behind the celebrities. They may even do well with journalism. They are excellent at uncovering hidden secrets. They would be excellent entrepreneurs. They are good with businesses and handling resources. They tend to know underground trends and can almost predict success. They would be good at inventing things. They could be good at banking or treasury, but they should be careful not to dip their hands in the funds. They have the drive and focus to put their passions into anything they set their minds to.

These men may like sports, but most are independent and don’t care to play around with others. They may also get too worked up and serious about a game, causing it to be less fun. When they play sports, they will do anything to win (even underhanded things). They may enjoy powerful sports like boxing, wrestling, football, and hockey-sports where they can crush their opponents. They may even like daring sports, like extreme skating or skateboarding. They may enjoy martial arts of all kinds.

This website is good for understanding Mars in Scorpio in sports: Sports & Mars

Most, however, are not extremely athletic. They tend to focus all of their energies towards major projects or their goals. This can make them geniuses in their craft, highly creative, and super successful. They tend to be interested in deep, dark subjects, like monsters, aliens, and other supernatural subjects. They may get involved in conspiracy theories. They may be interested in science, particularly loving chemistry. They make passionate debaters and they tend to their research on everything.

Mars in Scorpios don’t get angry too often. But when they do, it is one of the scariest experiences for those who know them well. Of all the Scorpion placements, Mars in Scorpios are the scariest. The list of things that will set them off: Invasion of privacy, talking about their loved ones or hurting them in any way, insulting their intelligence, personal perceived injustice, and stripping them of their power and control. They may not seem angry once angered. They may say something sharp and cutting or nothing at all. But they will get revenge. They will exact their revenge. Whatever you did to them, they will do it back. They will not stop until they have you suffering. When someone hurts them, they see that person as having power over them for a moment. They won’t rest until they’ve taken back power from their enemies. They don’t pick fights with people. They usually don’t start drama. But they will never back down from a fight. At the end of the day, they are water signs. Emotions run deep and spill over.

Mars Signs-What’s Your Fighting Style? is a good article to read to learn about what angers Mars in Scorpios and how they fight and argue.

Around male peers, they are secretive and quiet. They mostly hang with other men like themselves, those who make them feel more powerful. Their friends may find them to be strong, intense, and mysterious. They may seem a little too serious as well. But they can be fun, as they are daredevils at heart. Partners may find them magnetic and sexy, but a bit controlled or controlling. They are mostly loners.

They have an interesting perception of “boundaries”. If they want something, they won’t let anyone stop them from getting it. They respect other men who fight for what’s there’s, but they have no qualms with trying to fight to take it from them. These men have to literally be defeated in their efforts. And then, they won’t be happy campers. They will be resentful and hard to reach until they get over it and transform themselves (which they do to make themselves stronger). Their emotions run so deep they can hardly control it.

Relationships: In relationships, they are fiercely attached to the ones they love. Unfortunately, they often try the field before realizing the one they really want. They have strong desires. They can seem a little possessive or controlling. They really want a deep and meaningful relationship. They want to feel “complete”. Somehow, they long for a partner that can really transform their lives. These partners give them the rush they crave. Many times, they jump from partner to partner, only to find shallow individuals. If they can find that individual who is so much more than a pretty face, they will feel completely submerged in that person’s existence. They are generally quiet guys without too much going on at home. They like quiet, secretive partners who respect their boundaries. They respect and admire passionate, ambitious partners. Sharing is caring for them. They love partners that give to them as much as they will give in return. They tend to give their all, body and soul, for someone they really want. Yet, they always keep their most personal feelings close until they can trust whoever they are with.

This man tends to feel a spark between himself, Mars, and Pluto. Mars is the planet of action, desire, and aggression. Pluto is the planet of transformation, obsession, and power. When this man is with Mars, he feels a lust for life! Mars makes him feel thrilled and excited. Pluto, on the other hand, makes him feel powerful and in control. When in charge, he can’t handle himself, making his relationship pretty tense. Pluto changes this man for life. His relationship with both of them lead him towards the edge. Even when things get a little crazy, he can’t escape. While he feels in control, Pluto really has control over him, making this man obsessed with the rush. This is a dangerous relationship-but he wouldn’t have it any other way.

When approaching someone they like, they tend to be persistent and honest. They are all about breaking defenses and finding weaknesses. “No” is not enough to stop them. If they really like someone, they will do whatever it takes to get that person. They will wait patiently, trying to find an opening. They will try to make you go out with them at least once. They see rejection as an obstacle that they have to overcome. They may constantly change their tactics. You almost have to make yourself unattractive in order for them to stop and they will leave like they’ve never even liked you. They are all or nothing.

When taking someone on a date, they are really down for anything. They aren’t particular about dates. They usually ask where their dates want to go. It helps them learn a little more about their dates and see where their dates’ minds are. Let them know the time, place, and day. They will take their dates there. They mostly want to take their lovers to their house or to a hotel somewhere so they can get “intimate”. They may want to chill out, watch movies, have a few drinks, and get to know their dates in a quiet, private setting. They don’t really think about manners and chivalry. They mostly try to be themselves. They don’t like fake charms.

They may feel all men are passionate creatures who want what they want. They may perceive all men to have the same strong desires they have. They may feel all men can’t be trusted entirely. They wouldn’t be shocked to discover other men who think differently, but they would think those men have a hard time understanding the true nature of men (as they see it) and may feel those men are more superficial.

Male Sexuality: When turned on, these men are passionate. They usually want to have sexual contact immediately. They see sex as a way to release their desires for someone. They generally an unrelenting in sexual pursuit. They may be a little ruthless and selfish sexually, trying to dominate and control their partners. They like to have a little control. On the other hand, they respect a sexual partner that is a challenge. They may be interested in dark or taboo sexual practices. Sex is usually not a light-hearted experience with them. It’s emotionally deep and involved. They become really attached to their partners and want their partners to become obsessed with them, too. Of course, when they desire anyone they will go after them. This could lead them into the world of cheating if left uncontrolled. They often have little control over their urges, but they are in total control of their actions. If they want someone, they go after them unrestricted but act as if they are cool about everything.

If you love a man who is passionate, driven, sexy, and magnetic, you will love them. If you don’t like to be controlled or dislike anything too deep, you may not like them so much. If you have Pluto aspecting Mars or Mars in the 8th house, you may relate to this description. Scorpio is also ruled by Pluto, so your Pluto sign will alter your expression.  You can read the description of your Pluto sign within this page. For example, if you have Mars in Scorpio, Pluto in Sagittarius, you can read Mars in Sagittarius to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Aries or Scorpio will be affected by this planet.

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Mars in Sagittarius

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Male Identity: Mars enters the placement ruled by Jupiter. Mars has a lot in common with Sagittarius. Mars likes freedom and independence. Sagittarius likes freedom and independence. But like most mutable signs, Sagittarius scatters its mutable fire in various directions. Sagittarius is too freedom-loving. Mars needs focus and drive, otherwise he gets into trouble. So, there are things Mars is comfortable with and some things he’s not comfortable with here.

Men with this placement see masculinity in the context of a man’s freedom, his beliefs, and his experiences. As men, they feel it is important to explore the world, study and develop helpful philosophies, and grow as a person and bring their knowledge to others. These men feel they have a lot to teach other men about being a “man”. These men scatter much of their energies everywhere, lacking any focus. They really hate to be fenced in.

They tend to have a love of cultures and language. They may be have strong beliefs regarding either their religions or philosophies. They always want to be their “own” man, keeping their thoughts independent from others. Though they want followers, they often fear losing their individuality and others’ high expectations. Though they always have high standards, expecting to gain “bigger and better” from the world, they don’t like when those standards are placed or forced on them.

These men tend to have a lot of personality and are good at making others laugh.

They need a job that offers them freedom and plenty of new experiences. They may enjoy archaeology because they get to explore cultures and history. They may also enjoy planning cultural events or cultural festivals as a Cultural Affairs Specialist. They may want to hit the open road to nowhere. They may enjoy teaching or missionary work because they get to share their ideas and beliefs. They may enjoy getting involved in the entertainment industry, since they both love luxury, traveling, and entertaining folks. Whatever job they take on, they don’t want to follow another person’s rules and they want to work their own hours.

They tend to be sporty by nature, loving adventure and the great outdoors. Their positive, out-going, and happy-go-lucky nature makes it easy for them to take chances. They may enjoy extreme sports tremendously. They may be interested in horse racing, as it makes them feel free and rugged. They may love motorcycles or race car driving. They may love basketball and football and any other team sport, but they have a difficult time being tied down to teams. They may switch teams just for the experience. They also lack discipline. They play sports for the fun of it and will only do it professionally for the glory and luxury it offers. They really do everything for the fun of it. They don’t want to take anything too seriously (except maybe their beliefs).

This website is good for understanding Mars in Sagittarius in sports: Sports & Mars

They are usually happy men, but they can be super attached to their beliefs and ideas. They get so wrapped up in them, they often spark controversial debates. They even get angry with people who disagree with them. They need to learn not to take their ideas and beliefs too seriously. They also must learn to reason with others and listen more. They can be too preachy. They need to be careful of angering others on purpose. They can be blunt and they tend to mock others’ ideas when they disagree. They definitely would get angry if these people start standing up to them! They don’t mean to bully others, though. They just don’t know when to get serious until it’s too late. They aren’t particularly aggressive, but they will fight when angered.

Mars Signs-What’s Your Fighting Style? is a good article to read to learn about what angers Mars in Sagittarius and how they fight and argue.

Around their fellow peers, they are fun, lively, and adventurous. They always have a story to share. Friends may also find them to be independent and absent often. They aren’t the most reliable and may often make promises they forget about or aren’t able to keep. Some of them may find them flaky as a result. They tend to boast and exaggerate as well, which can annoy some of their friends. Partners may find them exciting and intelligent but hard to pin down.

These men see boundaries as something that is literally “claimed”. But they don’t waste their time with items or people who are already “taken”. If they are coerced by someone, they will jump on the opportunity. But they won’t waste their time chasing down anyone or anything that is unavailable. They aren’t that focused and don’t take anything too seriously.

Relationships: They mostly don’t care for relationships. But if they were to have a committed relationship, they need to have their freedom within it. They like to do things independently from partners and they are often gone from home. They don’t want anyone tying them down. They want their relationships to be fun and light of drama and baggage. Arguments are sure to get them running. They need a partner that will either have their own lives, be willing to pick up and move with them often, or will not nag them if they don’t come home.

These men feel a spark between themselves and Jupiter, the planet of expansion, optimism, and abundance. His ship only runs on happy faces. When around Jupiter, nothing can bring him down. Jupiter encourages this man to test the waters, the lands, and the skies! Yet, everything he wants and desires, he gets from Jupiter-and more! Jupiter motivates him to get more out of life than the ordinary, and this man can’t help but feel inspired. Jupiter is definitely his good luck charm.

They generally approach someone they like with confidence. They often boast and exaggerated their abilities. They really try to shine in front of someone they like. When rejected, they may be a little disappointed, but they quickly move on.

When going on a date, they like to have fun. They generally know how to turn even the most boring events into a fun time. They are funny, lively, and positive. They may like taking their dates to luxurious restaurants. They tend to over spend and shower their interests with everything. They may enjoy an adventurous hike up the mountains or horseback riding on the beach. They may enjoy a day at an amusement park. They generally like new experiences. They would likely go to a newly opened amusement park. They may enjoy a place full of culture. They may enjoy restaurants designed like castles or restaurants that serve gourmet food from other nations around the world. They want their dates to experience something they’ve never experienced before. They aren’t generally the most well-mannered. They have a rugged appeal. On the other hand, some may boost up their manners to give their dates the ultimate dating experience.

They think all men need space to roam. They also feel men want to experience life. They may not feel men can be faithful. They may feel all men want their beliefs respected. They often can’t accept when others think differently from them, but there are men who do have different thoughts on masculinity.

Male Sexuality: These men see sex as a chance to display their experiences. They may feel it’s important for men to be sexually experience. They may have some great philosophy surrounding sex. They may see sex as an opportunity to the Divine’s will and “spread the seed”. Of course, they often don’t want to be tied down with all of their “seeds”. Though they may want many experiences with many lovers, they have a hard time attaching themselves to these lovers based on sex. They may never have the same sex partner twice! Other energies in the chart have to keep them attached. Their moral beliefs have to influence them a little more. If not, you won’t find a sexually faithful man out of him.

Sexually, they see it as a sport and want to try everything. They may not want to try everything at once, but they want to explore their partners fully. They are open-minded and down for anything, as long as they don’t wake up to a clingy, emotional partner in the morning.

If you like men who are fun and exciting, you will love them. If you need more intimacy and want a family man, they may not be the one for you. If you have Jupiter aspecting Mars or Mars in the 9th house, you may relate to this description. Sagittarius is ruled by Jupiter, so your Jupiter sign will alter your expression.  You can read the description of your Jupiter sign within this page. For example, if you have Mars in Sagittarius, Jupiter in Capricorn, you can read Mars in Capricorn to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Aries or Scorpio will be affected by this planet.

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Mars in Capricorn

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Male Identity: When Mars enters Capricorn, the sign ruled by Saturn, he enters his exalted position, his most effective state of being. This may shock people, considering Saturn is falling in Mars’s sign Aries and considering Capricorn is really not like Mars. It’s not that they have similar natures (that’s the role of Mars’s rulership signs). Mars is most EFFECTIVE in this sign, meaning he gets the most accomplished and finds the best channel for all of his energy. Usually, Mars is impulsive, passionate, and fast-paced in getting what he wants. In Capricorn, he can still be ambitious, but he’s able to channel his passionate energy towards goals and his career. He finds outlets for his anger instead of impulsively jumping into senseless fights he’s not prepared for. Capricorn allows Mars to be focused but slows down his pace a bit so that he can really accomplish MORE. But Capricorn doesn’t slow him down too much. Mars can still be a leader in this cardinal earth sign, but he’s more responsible with his actions. Capricorn disciplines Mars so that Mars can accomplish a great deal more. It may feel a little suffocating for Mars, but Mars won’t disappointed. Mars has to make some sacrifices in this sign, but it’s well worth it in the end.

These men have a “survival of the fittest” mentality when it comes to masculinity. They believe only the strong survive. They don’t have patience for weakness and excuses. They believe a good man is a man with goals and ambition. These men are willing to work hard and endure hardship. They are good at overcoming obstacles and pushing through barriers. These men are often focused on climbing the social, political, and professional ladder of whatever field they are interested in. They are not happy with a mediocre position in life and they want to be respected and recognized. But these men are generally cool about everything. They are sure-footed when approaching life, planning every step carefully. They are very capable of taking care of themselves.

They are not all serious. They tend to have a sarcastic wit and a sense of humor that easily relates to people.

They are suited to any career out in the world. They are good at focusing their energies and they work hard. They may not choose careers that seem reachable, but they are practical and tend to reach the impossible with their sensible minds. Really, anything is reasonably possible for these guys. They are “the man with a plan”. They may be drawn to professions that get them recognized and respected in the world. They may be drawn to politics, the entertainment industry, the medical or science fields, journalism, managerial positions, and CEO positions.

They may like sports and some see it as an excellent channel for their energies. They are also good at planning their moves. Some may choose a sport as a career. They may be interested in sports that are popular, where they see the chance for fame. They may enjoy football/soccer, basketball, baseball, and American football. They may also be interested in sports that require discipline, like fencing or martial arts.

This website is good for understanding Mars in Capricorn in sports: Sports & Mars

The men who aren’t interested in sports could be involved in anything that gives them an excellent challenge and a chance for respect.

These men don’t get angry easily. Not too much gets under their skin. Even when angry, they try to find a healthy outlet for their feelings. They must be careful of hiding anger or holding anger inside. Most times, they confront individuals once they’ve calmed down. They get more frustrated with people who are unreasonable and too emotional. They mostly hate when others attack their physical security. No one should interfere with their goals and do other petty vindictive things. It’s childish to these men. It’s sure to anger them. But they would rather cut you out of their lives than lose their cool over small issues. Just about every issue is a small matter to these men. They have other things to worry about than to hold grudges and focus on squabbles.

Mars Signs-What’s Your Fighting Style? is a good article to read to learn about what angers Mars in Capricorn and how they fight and argue.

Around their peers, they are generally cool, funny, and laid-back. Most of their friends find them easy to get along with. Others may seem a little hard-nosed and ruthlessly ambitious. Some won’t even help their friends if they feel it will stop them from achieving their goals or if they feel their friends would be better at the job than they are. Partners find them sensible and easy-going but a little too controlled.

As far as boundaries, these men will push as far as they can go. If they can get away with it, they will overstep another man’s boundaries until someone stops them.

Relationships: These men want stability in their lives. They want as few problems as possible. They don’t like drama. They want their relationships to be drama-free and they want partners that add or enhance their lives in some way. They don’t want a relationship to interfere with survival or their goals. The practical things come first for them.

These men feel a spark between themselves and Saturn, the planet of restriction, pessimism, and structure. This man thrives when faced with the limitations Saturn places. He feels a need to test Saturn’s boundaries, and yet Saturn proves to this man his limits. His relationship with Saturn is a challenging one, yet always solid. Saturn is trustworthy and never fails him. While he wants to rebel against Saturn, he will long for that security net when he does step out of those boundaries. It’s too exciting to feel like he’s not allowed to do something, more than it is to know he can! He’s the man who likes rules just so he can have the satisfaction of breaking them (and then setting those rules back up again).

When approaching love interests, they keep a calm, cool, well-calculated approach. They try not to seem too desperate. Still, they are ambitious. They like to impress love interests with their good manners, their businesses, or their status. They may show off their knowledge regarding the work they do. They want their lovers to think of them as capable and competent.

They like to plan their dates with their love interests. Once everything is planned, they will be open to doing anything. They don’t like a spontaneous rendezvous. And once they’ve planned where to go, they don’t want to randomly change things up. They like to stick to their plans. These men are naturally composed and responsible, so they tend to be well-behaved without trying. But they would never immediately consider themselves chivalrous or polite. They are more responsible and dependable.

They may feel all men want to be strong and want to feel successful in the world. They may feel men are less emotional than women. They may be shocked to find men who think differently from them.

Male Sexuality: Once turned on, they go after their love interests honestly. They may have strong desires, but they don’t always act on their desires. They have a lot of self-control and can set their desires aside while they focus on more important things. They don’t let themselves go too far. They don’t like baggage. They are practical about starting a family and don’t like doing things on a whim.

They have to be in control and on top of their sex lives. They don’t easily let themselves go. They like to be the dominant partner. They also like experienced partners who know how to dominate every once in a while, but they have to be prepared for whatever is going on. They need their partners to know what they’re doing. He needs to feel secure with his sexual partner.

If you want a man who is cool, slow to anger, and goal-oriented, you will love this man. If you need someone more sensitive or someone who is less controlled, they may not be the men for you. If you have Saturn aspecting Mars or Mars in the 10th house, you may relate to this description. Capricorn is ruled by Saturn, so your Saturn sign will alter your expression.  You can read the description of your Saturn sign within this page. For example, if you have Mars in Capricorn, Saturn in Aquarius, you can read Mars in Aquarius to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Aries or Scorpio will be affected by this planet.

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Mars in Aquarius

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Male Identity: Aquarius is a fixed air sign, ruled by Saturn and Uranus. Mars has a lot in common with Aquarius. Aquarius is an independent and free energy. Mars likes independence and freedom. But Aquarius is rooted and doesn’t have the passion or drive Mars is used to. Saturn cools Aquarius’s normally erratic nature.

Men with this placement see masculinity as motivated by society. And they don’t feel they should be defined by society’s social ideas. They are society’s truest rebels. They define masculinity in any way they want to, according to their own interests. They don’t like feeling controlled at all. They are very progressive men. They may be large supporters of the herbivore movement. Yet, they may be interested in what any other man is interested in, too.

They are open-minded and like to try new things. They are always interested in the latest technologies, theories, and ideas. They make engaging conversationalists because they are so involved with the world and so knowledgeable about what’s going on. They are intelligent and inventive. Many are geniuses. They are involved in some of the most interesting activities.

They are outgoing men, social, and friendly. They hardly ever spend time at home. They especially love to be surrounded by friends, clubs, or associations. They like working in a team for a common goal.

They could be good in jobs that can help the world in some way. They may be humanitarians, working for charities or programs that help others. They may like volunteer work. They may like being involved in politics as they are outspoken and like to have a say in their laws. They may enjoy the entertainment industry where they can be creative and innovative as well as outspoken. They work well with technology or the latest inventions. Their career choices may be various, but always unusual and interesting.

They like sports, especially if they get to work in a team. They are active people. As long as they have their team, they feel unbeatable. The only issue is they can’t be too stuck to a group. They don’t want to lose their individuality. They may be interested in unusual sports or progressive sports. They may like daring extreme sports. They may like bowling and golf. They may still love normal sports, too. They like to change things up all the time. One day they may like one sport and will change the next!

This website is good for understanding Mars in Aquarius in sports: Sports & Mars

Aquarius is too cool for anger. They don’t see the point in getting mad. They would rather avoid people who try to upset them. They never try to upset others, but they can be straight-forward, which can anger some folks. If they do get angry, it’s because they feel their freedom is being taken from them. In this way, they will fight fiercely! They often tend to use non-violent but intelligent ways to fight opponents. They will not be suppressed. They use their voices to speak out against anything they feel is unfair. They have the connections to make their enemies feel shame.

Mars Signs-What’s Your Fighting Style? is a good article to read to learn about what angers Mars in Aquarius and how they fight and argue.

Around male peers, they are friendly, easy-going, and fun. They are always down for anything which makes them great companions. Of course, they have a strong need for freedom. They may seem eccentric or quirky at times. Partners may find them open-minded and easy to work with but hard to tie down.

Aquarius men have no desire to take what is someone else’s. It’s not worth it.

Relationships: They don’t want anyone trying to tie them down or control them. Relationships will only work with these men if they have the freedom to do what they did before a relationship. They see relationships as just another friendship. They prefer to be friends with partners. They don’t like drama and they get irritated when things get too emotional. Anything that threatens their freedom angers them. They need to maintain some autonomy and at least have their own hobbies and friends. They are always involved in some activities and they tend to surround themselves with associates. Their partners need to be open-minded.

These men constantly feel a spark between two conflicting energies: Saturn and Uranus. Saturn is the planet of restriction, pessimism, and structure. Uranus is the planet of rebellion, eccentricity, and upheaval. These men feel free when in a relationship with Uranus. They feel wild, like nothing in the world matters. They like that Uranus breaks the rules and encourages them to counter life with their own way of doing things. At the same time, they need rules to break them. Saturn respects their boundaries and keeps them separated from the chains of emotion. Saturn is logical and cool-almost cold. With too much Uranus, life never settles down and can become a little dangerous. They can’t really achieve much with so much change. With Saturn, life is stable and allows the man to achieve his goals in a structured manner. Without it, every cause will be lost.

When approaching someone they like, they tend to be cool and relaxed. They mostly try to make friends first and then they try to move in on someone they like. They can be a little awkward when trying to ask someone out. They may “slip it in” in the middle of a conversation.

They generally like to try unusual and distinct activities. They will more than likely take their dates to interesting cultural festivals or conventions, like the KCon or the anime convention. They may take their dates somewhere meaningful like to a museum or in a park. They generally try to take their dates to places that can help them strike up a good conversation. They are generally open to anything and willing to change things up mid-date. They are actually really polite and easy-going. Of course, they are progressive men and prefer to treat their dates as equals. They don’t care to open doors and pull out chairs. They just treat people the way they want to be treated.

They may feel that all men want freedom and need their “own thing”. Of course, they feel each man is an individual. They certainly don’t like to be compared to other men. Still, other men may feel differently from them.

Male Sexuality: They have an open-minded view of sex. They are open to experimenting with anything. The quirkier the better! Still, they don’t need physical contact to enjoy sex. They see sex as a mental thing rather than a physical or spiritual thing. The thought of sex excites them more than the actual act. They actually have a hard time letting go in the actual act, especially with rowdy, passionate partners. Passionate people scare them a little.

They also don’t like the emotional baggage that comes with a sexual relationship. They fear their partners getting too attached or being weighed down with children. They prefer to keep “sex friends” who agree to keep their feelings out of it.

If you love a guy who is intelligent, involved in his community, and all about fairness and equality, you will love him. If you need emotional attachment and are easily jealous, they may not be the men for you. If you have Saturn or Uranus aspecting Mars or Mars in the 11th house, you may relate to this description. Aquarius is ruled by Saturn and Uranus, so your Saturn and Uranus signs will alter your expression.  You can read the description of your Saturn and Uranus signs within this page. For example, if you have Mars in Aquarius, Saturn or Uranus in Pisces, you can read Mars in Pisces to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Aries or Scorpio will be affected by this planet.

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Mars in Pisces

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Male Identity: Pisces is ruled by Jupiter and Neptune. Pisces is a mutable water sign. Mars likes Pisces’s freedom-loving energy (thanks to Jupiter), but he’s not too fond of Pisces’s passive nature. It has some things in common with the sign, but there are a lot of differences.

These men are much more passive than other men. They are quite, humble, and nice. Their idea of being a man is heavily influenced by the men in their environment. Being ruled by Neptune, they are easily influenced by others. They must be careful of being swept up in drugs and alcohol or any other addictions. They can easily get involved in “brotherhoods” that make them feel stronger or more powerful. They feel stronger in numbers.

They have a love of peace, solitude, and freedom. They are really loners who mostly stick to themselves. They often prefer pleasant company. They get stressed around demanding people. These men “go with the flow”. They may seem like easy targets to bullies. One of the reasons they are pushed around is because they aren’t as assertive as they should be. Instead they just “let” things happen.

These men spend a lot of time dreaming. They always want to escape from the hardships of life. They try to keep their spirits up and they tend to be unrealistic. On a positive note, these guys are truly compassionate. They are great listeners and will be there for their friends in a crisis.

They are creative types. They are well-suited to a career in music, drawing, or other forms of art. They may do well in farming or working off the ocean or sea (being a water sign and all). They may do well in religious fields, the medical fields, or teaching because they love bringing hope to others. They may work for charity organizations. They need a flexible routine because life really weighs on them. Sometimes, they feel a burst of energy; other times they are completely inert. They need a lot of time alone to recharge their energies. They absorb so much in their environments, it’s hard for them to relax. They need moments of isolation and meditation to keep them going. They also need positive people surrounding them at all times. With the right support, they can be involved in any career.

They athletic ones tend to learn sports easily. They absorb their surroundings and learn quickly. They don’t really like tense environments, but they love to have fun. They may be interested in playing any sports for a living as long as they can find a good team with a reasonable coach. They can be sensitive so they need to be around people they can get along with. They may be interested in sports that allow them freedom, like football/soccer or any sorts of racing. They often look to sports to inspire them and save them from a harsh environment. Sports can be an outlet for the aggression that they hold inside.

This website is good for understanding Mars in Pisces in sports: Sports & Mars

They tend to have many different interests. They can get interested in anything. They are open-minded. Still, they must set up boundaries.

They don’t get angry too often. But they hate to be backed in a corner by more aggressive souls. The usual passive fish can turn into a shark if pushed around too long. Their anger is almost psychotic because it has usually been burning deep within. They are not usually aggressive, but they can turn aggressive if pushed too far. They can also be manipulative and vindictive if they aren’t able to fight physically.

Mars Signs-What’s Your Fighting Style? is a good article to read to learn about what angers Mars in Pisces and how they fight and argue.

Around male peers, they are shy but caring and helpful. They often let their friends push them around. Some friends may find them manipulative and weak-willed. Partners will find them humble and sweet. However, they seem to lack drive and ambition.

They usually don’t overstep another person’s boundaries. They hate confrontation. Still, some can manipulate situations in their favor.

Relationships: They generally want their relationships to be calm and chilled. They are often looking for the ideal partner. They want a partner that is understanding, accepting, and easy-going. They also really need patience. They prefer partners that have the same interests. They don’t like bossy, demanding types. In fact, it makes them super nervous to be around those people. They are normally calm, but they may turn aggressive around other aggressive people. Mars in Pisces men have a tendency to reflect the people around them. They spend much of their time dreaming and they are artsy individuals rather than ambitious. They don’t want anyone shoving them, but they may appreciate a light push or some support when it comes to reaching their goals. They are more motivated when they have someone to back them up. They also need a lot of time alone. They have moments where they really want to be around their partners and moments where they don’t to be around anyone. This may not mean they don’t love their partners, they just need time alone to recharge and figure out their next plan of action in life.

This man always feels a spark between Jupiter, the planet of expansion, optimism, and abundance, and Neptune, the planet of imagination, dreams, and delusions. This man needs the optimism from Jupiter to keep going in life. Without it, he often feels defeated. Jupiter gives him everything, saving him from himself, and he never wants for anything. Jupiter offers him a chance to move out of an ordinary existence. Jupiter offers him many different experiences. At the same time, Neptune’s dreamy nature is super stimulating. When dreaming of all that he can do, it excites him in ways nothing else can. He doesn’t care what anyone says, he desires Neptune and longs to make his own dreams come true through him. Neptune brings out his creative potential. However, neither relationship is very realistic.

They don’t approach the ones they like easily. They always seem a little nervous and shy. They may be indirect. They may send secret gifts, may spend a lot of time the person they like, and may try to find common ground. Actually finding the words (and the courage) to ask someone out may take forever. They may end up getting a friend to help them out a bit. If the person they like is nice and quiet, they will find it easier to approach the individual. Usually, their approach is quiet and smooth. They are simple about asking someone out. They may buy flowers. They may promise the world for the people they are interested in.

When they take individuals on a date, they like to be comfortable and isolated. They don’t like too much commotion. They may still like to do fun things, just alone with their dates. Still, they may not prefer to take too many risks unless they are really comfortable with their dates. If their dates make them feel extremely comfortable, they will do anything for that person! They tend to like going to places they can “escape”. They may like the movies because it’s dark and usually quiet. They may enjoy isolated dinners or quiet picnics in the park. They may enjoy going to a museum on an empty day. They may enjoy a concert or music festival. They may pick their dates up for a motorcycle ride to nowhere. They really want to feel like the harsh world melts away when out with their dates. They are generally quiet guys, so they don’t have to try to hard to have good manners. But they get nervous when trying to remember to be chivalrous and may be clumsy as a result.

They may feel all men are awkward in relationships. They may feel most guys want to “escape” from the world (possibly through t.v. or video games). They may not feel men are as strong as they “act”. They would feel uncomfortable around men who think differently, though they wouldn’t be surprised to find differences in the world. They tend to see things in people others don’t often see.

Male Sexuality: These men have many different fantasies in their minds. They want sex to be like in their dreams, favorite movies, and/or in porn. They may be disappointed in the real world and may constantly be dissatisfied sexually as a result. These men may move from partner to partner trying to find the ideal sexual partner only to discover that it takes work to find a sex partner that is “ideal”. For one, communication is important. People can’t read another person’s mind. Second, in reality, everyone has needs and different body types (and functions). They may not see this scenario realistically (especially if they watch porn), which causes the disappointment.

Sexually, they are all about pleasing their partners and being pleased. They are open to all sorts of sexual experiences. They may even be interested in really eccentric sexual practices, like S&M. They may have secret desires that they would like to unleash. The best sex partner for them is someone who makes their dreams come true.

If you like a man who is sweet, compassionate, easy-going, and artistic, you will love these men. If you don’t like men who dream their lives away, looking for someone driven, prefer someone more assertive, or you consider yourself a more practical type, they may not be the man for you. If you have Neptune aspecting Mars or Mars in the 12th house, you may relate to this description. Pisces is ruled by Jupiter and Neptune, so your Jupiter and Neptune signs will alter your expression.  You can read the description of your Jupiter and Neptune signs within this page. For example, if you have Mars in Pisces, Jupiter or Neptune in Aries, you can read Mars in Aries to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Aries or Scorpio will be affected by this planet.

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Who is SHE and What Does She Expect From YOUR Relationship? By the signs (Feminine Identity)

14 Mar

If you don’t understand much about zodiac signs and you are new to planetary signs, aspects, and houses, read the introduction here.

Venus is the planet of love, beauty, pleasure, justice, sex (aphrodisiacs and arousal), and peace. It is an air planet. It’s associated with the Greek goddess Aphrodite. Venus wants us to live a pleasant life of ease. She represents all we appreciate and adore. The sign she enters shows HOW we express our love, adoration, and appreciation. The house she enters shows WHERE we express this love, adoration, and appreciation. The aspects show us how difficult or easy it is to use her energies in our lives and how much of it we use as a result.

Ever heard of the saying, “Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus”?

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In a woman’s chart, Venus is her ruler, while men are ruled by Mars. This is more socialized than anything. We have all the planets in our charts and are capable of using all of our energies.  But in our society, women tend to connect with Venus more than men do. Thus, the sign Venus is in tends to tell woman a lot about her own status as a “woman” and her identity in relation to her peers. Venus is a social planet, after all. Venus also reveals what women expect from relationships in general and her own sexuality, which is what I will be discussing in this article.

Why are women so associated with Venusian sexuality (and not men)? Mars has often been associated with sex as well. So why are women associated with Venus sexually? It has a lot to do with our society. More than men, women are often faced with situations that repress their sexual urges. Slut-shaming is very common. Women are also faced with other issues. I found a very interesting read on Psychology Today titled 5 Myths About Men’s Sexuality by Deborah Anapol. Even though the article mostly focuses on male sexuality, the author made some interesting points about women that relate to the idea that Venus is a woman’s sexual ruler. She discovered that “women are more socialized to channel their erotic yearnings into romantic fantasy”. Women are controlled and criticized when it comes to sexuality and their interest in a partner, especially one of the opposite sex. Because of “sex-negative conditioning and social judgments,” women are not able to explore their sexual potentials as widely or as easily as men. Until they are freed of these restrictions, subtlety will rule over directness. Love will rule over passion. Foreplay will be preferred over actual sexual intercourse.

The article 10 Things You Need to Know about Female Sexuality by Bella-Ellwood Clayton tells us that “[Women’s] desire to appear desirable exceeds desire itself…[Women] are too busy chasing beautiful to want to kiss beautifully.” Of course, she also recognizes that media and advertising does a lot to make women ashamed of their bodies and their “genitalia”. Therefore, women often focus more on “looking like they are having sex” rather than actually desiring to actually have it. They are so focused on being beautiful themselves that they feel uncomfortable seeing this beauty in their partners. This also relates to Venus having power over a woman’s sexuality rather than the sex planet Mars.

Venus has a real beautiful side to it, but she isn’t flawless. While Venus blesses women with charm, grace, beauty, and love, it curses them with a passive nature, vanity, and social conformity (stifling originality). Of course, there are some women who are exceptions to this rule.

Mars is another planet that rules sex, as I mentioned before, but it’s different for women than for men. Readers may remember my article regarding Women and Mars: What Does SHE see in YOU? By the signs

Venus and Mars are the two relationship planets in our charts. But for most women, Mars is projected onto men. She may often expect a man to live up to standards she herself doesn’t feel “allowed” to release. This will come in the form of the man she’s “attracted to”. From my experience, the stronger her Venus is, the more pressure she feels to conform. Therefore, women with Venus in her rulership signs (Taurus, Libra) or her exalted sign (Pisces) tend to project their Mars energy more in relationships and feel more uncomfortable expressing such “masculine” traits. Women with weaker Venus signs, such as Venus in detriment (Aries, Scorpio) or Venus in fall (Virgo), tend to be more comfortable with revealing sides to them that are deemed more “masculine”, though all women struggle with the need to conform. Aspects from Venus to Mars also make a woman more comfortable with her masculine energy.

Because women so often identify with Venus, any planets in your chart that are in Taurus or Libra will affect your feminine identity. If you have Sun in Taurus, for example, you may identify with the principles associated with the Sun.

So you may be wondering: If Mars rules the kind of man a woman is attracted to, why does Venus rule over what she expects out of love? This is the tricky question. It’s actually quite simple. Though women may be drawn to certain men because of their “masculine” energies, they often have certain codes for how even the “baddest” boy is supposed to treat a “lady”. In other words, even though women are attracted to the “bad, rough, and tough” Marsian energy, they still expect to be treated well by him, according to the “lady” she feels she is (which is ruled by her alter ego, Venus). So though she may naturally be drawn to a man’s approach (Mars sign), she may not feel he treats her well if he doesn’t respect or honor her the way she feels she deserves  (reflected by Venus).

Because women project Mars, often times this can create conflict with her Venus energy, especially if there are harsh aspects. A good example of this complicated love life would be singer-songwriter Taylor Swift’s love life (well, as she describes in her music). Taylor Swift has Venus in Aquarius and Mars in Scorpio. Having Mars in Scorpio, she’s naturally drawn to “Pluto and Mars” in a man, the edgy, bad boy types. It’s pretty evident when we listen to songs like “I Knew You Were Trouble” and “Style”. She describes a guy who “doesn’t care” and “she guessed she liked that”. In style, she describes the man as having a James Dean look in his eyes, long hair, slicked-back, white t-shirt…She seems to be drawn to men who sweep her in passionately, who give her a rush, men who have the ability to manipulate and control her psychologically. She likes this bad boy image.

So why would it hurt her for him to leave? Why would she be arguing with him? After all, you can’t expect a bad boy to be good, right? This is because of what she expects when she gets with him, which has a lot to do with the woman she is. It has something to do with her Venus in Aquarius. Unlike Scorpio, Aquarius is a mental air sign. Aquarius upholds humanitarian values, stays away from the depths and drama of messy emotions, abhors power and control, and tends to be social and friendly. When we hear the song, “You Belong With Me” or songs like “Style”, we see the woman SHE is: quirky, lovable, and a good girl. She likes her “tennis shoes” rather than “high heels”. Instead of being “cheer captain”, she’s on the bleachers. This good-girl-geek seems in total contrast to the bad boys she seems to be drawn to. She likes the bad boys, but expects to be treated like a “good girl” BY this bad boy.

What she may not know is the “bad boy” is her projection. It’s only how she PERCEIVES him. Honestly, we all can only “perceive” how others are. We can never know what’s truly going on inside a person. We aren’t them. And no matter how we see a person, they each have their own natal charts that may reveal things we may not totally expect from a person. She may see him as a “bad boy”, and his chart may reveal he’s nothing but a softy! So in all honesty, inside, SHE’S the one who’s drawn to the dark side! It’s her internal bad girl that is constantly drawn to the bad boy! She’s the one who desires to live life on the edge. But she has projected this energy onto the men in her life. That’s how Venus and Mars work in a woman’s chart.

There are other planets in signs that affect our relationships (as well as houses), but Venus is directly associated with our attraction to others, our love for things, and what we desire. Mars works with Venus, but Venus is especially important when it comes to women understanding their gender identity.

Moon is another planet that reveals a woman’s “feminine identity”. But Venus is the beauty and charm in women, Moon is the wife and mother in women. Venus is the girl, Moon is the woman. Venus is our identity when we’re among our peers and potential lovers. Moon is our mother’s identity or our identity as a “parent” or “wife” or long-term girlfriend. This is how we represent our family and how we see ourselves among our family and close friends. Mother’s influence often follows us wherever we go, so we carry her presence with us in public, too. We just don’t often realize it (or if our relationship with her is shaky, we don’t want to).

In a lesbian’s chart, she tends to balance both her masculine and feminine energies well in a relationship, considering she may not feel the need to be the submissive or assertive one in her relationship. It may vary according to her partner. Still, even lesbian women may feel the pressure to conform like all the other women. She may not project her Mars on a man she’s interested in, but she may end up projecting her Mars on men in general. She may even look for a partner who has more masculine qualities if she really is out of touch with Mars.

In a man’s chart, Venus tends to reflect the qualities he would rather “project” and reveals his idea of the “ideal” woman.

Read What Does HE see in YOU? By the signs

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Mars in a man’s chart will reflect his social identity and what he expects from a relationship, especially sexually.

Who is HE and What Does He Expect From YOUR Relationship? By the signs

This article can be the most enlightening for men who are looking for a lovely lady or for men who are particularly interested in a woman right now. This article can be very helpful. Many men have a hard time understand the female mind and often may feel confusion when trying to date women. They may notice that though some women claim to be attracted to certain qualities in a man, some women may wish for that man to treat her just the opposite of who he is! Therefore, he may feel women are difficult to please. Well, worry no more! If you look into her natal chart and observe her Venus and Mars signs, aspects, and house placements, you will understand her better.

For ladies, this article can help you understand yourself better in relation to society. This can help you exactly define what you are searching for in relationships. You may relate to the following explanations.

Now that you know a little bit more about Venus and her partner Mars, we can learn how each sign utilizes Venus’s gifts and how women define themselves differently according to her Venus sign!

Venus signs

Venus in Aries

Venus in Taurus

Venus in Gemini

Venus in Cancer

Venus in Leo

Venus in Virgo

Venus in Libra

Venus in Scorpio

Venus in Sagittarius

Venus in Capricorn

Venus in Aquarius

Venus in Pisces

Venus in Aries

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Feminine Identity: Venus first enters Mars’s domain, Aries, the sign of her detriment. Aries is a fire sign and cardinal. Venus and Mars are two of the relationship planets, but they are polar opposites. Mars has always been the planet associated with masculinity. Venus is the feminine principle. Mars is the planet of war; Venus is the planet of peace. Mars is active; Venus is passive. While being in the sign of Aries can be a little scary for her, it’s always exciting! Thus, when Venus is in Aries, these women don’t often mind doing things that are considered…well, unladylike! For them, men are not the only ones from Mars!

It’s not that these women can’t be “girly” (with some people’s interpretation of “girly” being someone who likes clothes, make-up, cooking, and romance). It’s just that their way of expressing themselves as a “girl” may come across a little too strong, dramatic, or too loose, which seems to actually be in far contrast to the social standards set for women in our society. One thing is for certain: these women often break social rules without even trying! In this way, they are leaders who are not as “controlled” by society as other women are. Still, they struggle to “fit in” with the world’s idea of feminine or with the world’s idea on how a woman should behave.

You may find some of them to be really tough and independent. They may be competitive, aggressive, and energetic. They may be athletic and maybe a little tomboyish. Some of these women may even seem much tougher and more active than men! Even if they are not athletic, they respect athleticism and strength in others. They may enjoy competitive video games as well. These ladies can easily be one of the guys and may have quite a few male buddies. This could make more insecure men uncomfortable. They are also quite brave and can be dare-devilish. They never want anyone to think of them as weak.

Unlike most women, they don’t feel as strong of a need to conform. This allows them to be original in their thoughts and actions. In this way, they are able to compete “in a man’s world”. On another note, they can be too girly. Mars gives them a passionate and forceful nature. Sometimes, this doesn’t come in the form of being rough, but they may have a passion for fashion, make-up, style, beauty, or anything else girly! Barbie the doll is said to have Venus in Aries and she has come to be an icon of intense girlishness, materialism, vanity, and female sexuality. Of course, for a woman to be too involved in these sorts of things is bad in most societies. It breaks the rule that “girls should be modest”. Somehow, Venus in Aries have learned to separate “feminine” interests from actually being delicate and soft. Venus in Aries women are hardly ever soft or delicate though they may be interested in the same things other women are. Everything Venus in Aries women do is done with flair. They tend to be avante-garde and bold in their tastes and attitude.

No matter if these women are extremely tomboyish or extremely girlish, most Venus in Aries women can’t help but be the “alpha personality” among their female peers. Sometimes these women challenge other women and produce a spirit of rivalry and competition. They could equally challenge women to do better and be better in a broader sense.

They can be daring flirts (i.e. boyfriend thieves), which can irritate some women. Venus in Aries women are generally more confident than most women and jump on opportunities other women lose out on due to being shyer. They are also quite brassy and boastful at times. They must be careful of creating a “civil war” among women. Some of them are mostly independent and have a hard time mingling with other women, feeling they hold them back. These women always have a few male buddies hanging around. Sometimes, they are too active for the kind of activities other women enjoy.

Still, these women are not afraid to make new friends. They usually initiate friendships with people, never afraid to give away their heart. They can be generous and usually jump to their friends’ rescue when needed. Their problem is maintaining their friendships. They tend to be better at making new friends than keeping the ones they already have. They will better stay with friends that keep up with their independent natures. They don’t want to be controlled and have no qualms with letting friends down if they don’t want to do something. If it’s not something they are comfortable with, they will choose being themselves over doing something just to support their friends. For instance, if they dislike wearing dresses, they may not wear one to their friends’ wedding–even if they are one of the bridesmaids! They have a hard time being told what to do and can be headstrong in this way. They won’t even let their friends control them. They would rather not be in a friend’s wedding. Some people may consider them selfish and defiant. They see it as being honest. They really want to be comfortable inside, but it’s difficult because it conflicts with their desire to keep their loved ones. They often get caught between doing something they want to do and pleasing others.

Despite some Venus in Aries women’s issues with other women, there are those Venus in Aries women who unite instead of divide! Venus in Aries women are heroic. They often start trends and pave the road for other women to follow. I wouldn’t be surprised if one of the first women to buy a pair of pants had Venus in Aries! Their archetype is the warrior, so they are the first to fight for the rights of all women. And they just aren’t all talk! They are ruled by the planet of action after all. Women can’t help but admire these ladies! Before any barrier is broken, someone has to break it. Just leave it to them to do it.

Their fellow female peers may find them to be the best cheerleaders. They are good at encouraging their friends and brightening up their friends’ days. Other females think they are fun to be around, though their friends may also think these women can be too much to handle at times. Any partner who ends up with a Venus in Aries may feel taken for a roller coaster ride. Every day may feel dramatic. Partners may feel that these ladies have fully taken charge, and they have no choice but to follow. Partners may willingly follow because Venus in Aries women are easily magnetic and exciting. These wild women will have you living la vida loca.

To learn more, The Magnetism, Charm, and Attractive Power of Venus is a good article.

The most beautiful things about these women are their bravery, confidence, sex appeal, and originality. Everyone thinks they’re fun and exciting. They redefine beauty on every level. With Aries leading the way, anyone can feel beautiful! They seek to challenge our usual perceptions of beauty and they seek to come out blooming like a rose.

Relationships: Because of their natures, you can only imagine what they expect from relationships. It’s definitely not what we would all consider “traditional”. These passionate women are looking for a relationship to be passionate, exciting, and fun. They demand to be noticed and doted upon. They often don’t have the patience to care if their partners are satisfied or not. But they want a partner who is eager to please! They can be a little selfish and may expect their partners to cooperate with them without any rejection or objection. They often don’t feel it’s their responsibility to cater to someone else’s needs, and in fact, dislike needy partners. No matter what, these women want to maintain their independence and freedom. So, they prefer a partner who is on the same page with them on anything they do. For them, a partner is a side-kick. Despite these selfish tendencies, however, the mission of finding a new partner is thrilling and exciting for them! So during the courting stages, if they’re the one interested, these women tend to be generous, giving their all to get who they want.  They don’t mind being the pursuant one because they are not afraid to make the first move (though this depends on their Mars sign). Still, they love the chase even more and may play hard to get. They can be tough to impress when they are being pursued and it may be better to let them do the pursuing. These women can be super affectionate in the first stages of a relationship, but may cool off later. And if they aren’t with a partner who can spice things up, they will be bored. It’s best for these women to be with a partner that has a lot in common with them because things definitely have to go their way for them to be happy. However, they are impulsive and often don’t take the time to get to know a person before jumping in a relationship. If they like you, you have their full attention. When they don’t, they almost don’t realize you exist.

They are constantly falling in love with Mars, the planet of action, desire, and aggression. There is always something exciting and thrilling about Mars. He’s masculine and challenging. He’s an excellent defender and protector. But woa, can it make for a tense relationship! The fighting and drama hardly ever stop. Things always get a little steamy.

When they like someone, they tend to dress really sexy or flamboyant, with bold colors.  They are not afraid to show off their goodies. Many have athletic bodies, and want to flaunt it! They are power dresses, expressing originality and luxury. After a while, however, they tend to dress more comfortably. For them, they are on-the-go types. They don’t have the patience for the kind of pampering that is usual of most women. They often don’t feel like they should have to dress to impress a partner and they think a partner should love them for who they are. If they do dress up, they normally don’t do this to be attractive to a partner. Most times, they do this to gain the admiration (and envy) of other females. These women pay extra attention to their head. They may be dressed casually for a date sometimes, but you know it’s serious if their hair is nice, they’re wearing make-up, and they have the perfect earrings on to highlight their skin.

The perfect date for them would be something fun or active. A little competition may be fun, like maybe bike racing in a park or playing laser tag. They don’t mind dinner if they are treated like the only person in the room. Whatever they do, it must be fresh and new or at least feel that way. The best compliment would be to acknowledge how fun she is or acknowledge her accomplishments. Don’t talk about your feelings on the date and don’t EVER bring up your ex. Again, she wants this to feel new and fresh. She wants to feel like the first girl in your life.  If you want to get them a gift, find out what they have been desiring for a long time and get it for them. They respond to the color red.

When these women aren’t interested in someone, they are straight-forward and honest, even rude about it. It’s hard to get their attention because they are super independent and always on-the-go. Their love interests have to keep up. It can be hard to catch them or tie them down. Their flirting style is daring and direct. You’ll know when they like you. They will probably just tell the object of their desire how attractive they are right from the beginning! They tend to do the pursuing anyhow. They love nothing more than the rush of a new relationship. That’s when their charms are activated. The excitement shows on their faces and all over their bodies! They may come on a little too strong, but you’ll never be wondering.

What Venus Means in Your Chart

These women feel that all women want to be in charge of their relationships. They may feel it’s normal for a man to do whatever a woman asks of him. They may feel this would make him a gentlemen. They may feel all women agree. They may believe women are strong enough to do things on their own and believe that women should be independent. They believe women should learn to love themselves first, and love a partner only after themselves. They may be surprised to find that this is not the way all women think. On the other hand, it may not be hard for them to understand that not every woman thinks like them as they value themselves as “original”.

Female sexuality: As far as their sexuality, they are always passionate and exciting! They are unrestricted, always feeling young and fresh. They even prefer sex to cuddling and long talks about their “feelings”. Slut-shame them all you want. Condemn them. They are fire-starters in the bed room and in any social scene. They don’t care if others get burned by their open displays of sexiness and they own up to any sexuality they stand for (whether heterosexual, homosexual, or bi-sexual). Because of this, it’s hard for others to warm up to these women. They are just too far ahead of the times. For awhile, most people may try to censor their sense of self-expression. They are just too bold sexually. The way they go about expressing themselves, which often seems a little confrontational with an “I-dare-you” attitude, makes it difficult for them to be well-received by others. They usually challenge social norms. They don’t wait for those people who are more comfortable with tradition to catch up. They are proud of their sexuality. In fact, these women ARE the sexiest women in the Zodiac! They tend to do whatever it takes to beat out the competition, too. They have the potential to explore sexual territory most women feel “dirty” exploring!

Yet, after awhile, things cool down for them. When this occurs, they often give up trying to go the extra mile to please a partner. Their partner would have to keep things exciting and fresh. If not, they often do move on to the next exciting adventure. And trust me, they are not afraid to start over. These women could also take the opposite extreme and be a challenge sexually. They may be hard to impress and difficult to bring to the bedroom. They may also reject someone sexually if they feel it comes with baggage and that their freedom will be taken from them. Sexually, they may prefer to make the first move. Regardless, it’s their choice and they feel they are fully in control. They are still never shy of the subject when presented with it.

The easiest way to arouse these women is to come on to them strong. Passion gets their blood rushing. These women get aroused much faster than other women. They can arouse themselves to action. They like it a little wild and rough. Observe their Mars signs to really understand their sex drive, as they fully explore “Martian” sexuality while still maintaining their femininity. They often like to take the lead. They put in a little more effort than other women. All you have to do is lay down. They can handle it all.

If you’re someone who loves to have fun, someone who finds leadership in a woman sexy, and are a little playful and youthful, this is the woman for you. If you have issues with women taking the lead, if you’re a traditional person, still hung up with your ex, or struggling with emotions, or unsure with your masculinity, look elsewhere. If you have Venus aspecting Mars, you may relate to this description. Venus in 1st house natives may relate to it a bit as well. Aries is ruled by Mars, so your Mars sign will alter your expression. You can read the description of your Mars sign within this page. For example, if you have Venus in Aries, Mars in Taurus, you can read Venus in Taurus to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Taurus or Libra will be affected by this planet.

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Venus in Taurus

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Feminine Identity: Venus enters one of her homes when she comes into the second sign of Taurus, a fixed earth sign. Here, it may not be as exciting as her last domain, but she sure feels safe and comfortable here. Any partner who gets with a Venus in Taurus woman would feel the same. These women may or may not have tomboyish streaks, but they still hold themselves to traditional feminine values. They can be fighters when pushed, but they would rather not reveal this side. They prefer peace to chaos. These women are always moderate in their tendencies. Thus, most women admire them. While they are strong, hard-working, and practical, they don’t always feel like they have to be one of the guys to earn respect. They know how to get attention without stealing someone else’s shine.

They tend to enjoy what is traditionally considered feminine like cooking, dressing up, and socializing, even if what they “cook” is pizza, what they wear are jerseys and jeans, and their social circle is small. They tend to act feminine too, especially if they’re around someone they like. They can be sweet and well-mannered. They are generally down-to-earth, laid-back, and simple. These women love to indulge in simple pleasures such as good food, comfortable but tasteful clothing, and be surrounded by all of their favorite things. They are cozy, comfortable women.

Still, they may care a little too much about their appearance. If they are attractive, they own it and feel it makes them feel valuable. They may come across conceited, but they are just really comfortable in their own skin. If they don’t feel as physically attractive, they may have low self-esteem, be easily jealous of others, and feel insecure in relationships. It’s hard for them to just focus on the beauty within. They feel more pressure in their lives to feel beautiful. They may believe that life is easier for the beautiful people. They also think life is easier for the rich. These women respect others who are rich, popular, have their own personal style, and physically attractive. In this way, these women can be superficial. It’s hard for them to understand femininity outside of the social idea of feminine. Still, they would like femininity to have a broader definition in the world if it will make others more comfortable in their skin. While they do admire someone who lives a life of ease, they admire others who are strong, natural, and enduring despite difficulties. They tend to be fond of natural beauty.

Taurus is a common sense, tried-and-true kind of sign. They tend to be solid citizens in society. If they don’t feel feminine enough, they feel awkward. These women believe that being feminine is something amazing, and they usually have no desire to change that. You won’t see them at the fore-front of any movements on purpose. If they do fight for any rights, it’s not their intention to change people. Mostly, they just want all women to feel good being the woman they are. Most women think they are icons for all women because they are pillars of both strength and grace. Despite how easy-going these women seem, however, they are quite stubborn. It is hard to get them to try new things. They like to do the same things over and over. They are possessive of both their style, values, and identity. Thus, they hate when people dress like them, talk like them, or steal their thunder in any way. This is also why they resist trying new styles and accepting new values.

They generally have casual hobbies and simple tastes. They can be quite predictable. But hey, why change? Regardless, these women stick to the standards women have always upheld for years, and usually this does wonders for their social and romantic life. Around fellow female peers, they are charming. Women love to be around them. It’s hard not to like them or respect them. They are easy to talk to and the calm in a storm. They can be a little expensive to be around though. They like hanging out at the most expensive and luxurious places. Friends may find them to be over-indulgent, ordering up everything on a menu or creating a long shopping list when friends ask what they want for their birthday. Friends may also find them to be possessive and easily jealous.

To learn more, The Magnetism, Charm, and Attractive Power of Venus is a good article.

They are the definition of beautiful. They are charming, easy-going, and down-to-earth. They have refined tastes and dress with luxury in mind. They are both strong and soft. They are career oriented and domestic. They can be serious and playful. There’s a lot coming from this woman.

Relationships: All of the above is important to consider if you want to date them. These women actually see themselves as “ladies” no matter how they act, and they expect to be treated as valuable as a shiny new car. They expect to be “bought”. This means they believe a partner should be willing to spend time, energy, and/or money for a woman they like. They like to spend a lot of time with someone they love. Though they don’t mind the little things a person does for them, they prefer something tangible. Any love you show must be shown in physical and/or material ways. They expect a relationship to be practical, affectionate, and stable. It’s not easy to get them to go out with you, but when they do, they aren’t out to play games. They put a lot of effort into dating (which they don’t often do for just anybody) and want someone they know is going to stick around. When dating, it takes a while for them to give to their partners. They usually get so comfortable with receiving. But when they do finally decide they like someone, and when they finally commit, they will do anything to please. They love to shower their lovers with physical things. Every bit of love they show is clearly visible. They are extremely affectionate and sensitive to touch. But don’t touch them inappropriately. They prefer hugs and kisses. They are quite cuddly. They love to chill with their partners. They are not afraid to tell their lovers “I Love You”.

These ladies are constantly falling in love with Venus, the planet of love, beauty, and art. Venus is  gorgeous, graceful, and peaceful. She’s soft and sensual to the eye and touch. Of course, this is only on the superficial level. She may be virtuous, but her inner qualities are hardly highlighted. Still, she is picture-perfect. These ladies can hardly resist her beauty, charms, and sense of aesthetic.

Usually, these ladies dress comfortably. They like luxury items, but they prefer something that they are comfortable wearing. They usually have their own unique style and want their partners to appreciate it. They want partners who appreciate the same things in them they appreciate in themselves. They don’t like their sense of style to be criticized. That is something that will hurt them deeply. Being attractive is that important to them. If a potential partner doesn’t like the way they dress, they feel the partner doesn’t like them for who they are. And they will not change their style for anyone. They may refine their look, but never change it. They have a classic and modest look about them. They tend to wear the same kinds of clothes for years, developing a personal and identifiable look. They don’t feel like they have to look up-to-date or overly sexualized in order to be attractive. They tend to be good at creating their own fashions and may show an interest in sewing or style designs. They hope to be sexy to someone without going overboard to prove it. Sexy for them is something that is natural and personal. When they like someone, they dress their best without losing their sense of comfort. They try to wear things that are comfortable, luxurious, and/or beautiful. When going on dates, they put a lot of time and effort into their appearance. Still, they like to be comfortable in their skin.

Their idea of a date is usually traditional: a nice dinner, in a nice, quiet, comfortable place. Make sure the food is good and the seats are comfortable. The scenery must be beautiful. They may also enjoy nature walks and a picnic. They expect their partners to pull out their best manners. No drunken outbursts apply. People with tempers rub them the wrong way. When you’re in her presence, you must act polite. For them, being polite is someone who is not only charming but very careful about their actions and speech. The perfect compliment is to compliment their appearance. But do it in a respectful way. Call them “lovely” or “beautiful” rather than “hot” and “sexy”. Compliment their grace and charms. If you want to give them a gift, make sure it’s something tasteful or pleasing to the eye. It must be both beautiful and useful. The more money you spend on an item, the better. But they would rather something beautiful and useful than something expensive and useless. It must be something they actually like. It’s best to ask them what they want before getting them something. They don’t care for surprises. They respond to warm colors like red and soft colors like pink, mint green, or pale blue. It really depends on the weather and where they live. If they live in colder climates, they are drawn to colors that make them feel warm. If they live in warmer climates, cooler colors appeal to them.

When these women are not interested, they will be honest but remain calm, composed, and polite when they reject someone. The challenge many suitors meet is trying to make them feel secure. These women require physical and material stability. They want their love lives to be stable. Partnering up is not just a fun activity for them. If you want them, you have to provide. When they do like someone, they flirt through physical touch and material things. They often hug and touch anyone they like. They are affectionate. They pay extra attention to their appearance. They are pretty simple and direct when they like someone. There are no guessing games with these ladies. They also like to buy little gifts or cook dinner for someone they like.

What Venus Means in Your Chart

These women may feel that all women want to be pampered and treated like “ladies”. They believe all women deserve respect, and their idea of respect is being doted upon and waited on hand-and-foot. They believe all women want to be whined and dined. They may believe all women want to feel attractive. They feel all women feel insecure when they don’t feel attractive. They believe all women are more affectionate than men and need to be hugged and kissed. For them, this is common sense knowledge for men to consider. However, though most women want respect, they may be surprised to find that not all women have the same ideas about what that respect really means. It’s hard for these stubborn ladies to fathom people thinking outside of the box in this matter. It just complicates things too much for them.

Female Sexuality: While these women don’t mind potential partners admiring their appearance, they do not want to be treated like “sex objects”. No matter how sexy they appear or passionate they seem, they are not overly sexual (no matter what Mars sign they have). They do everything in moderation and that includes sex. As a “lady”, they feel that sex is not something that should be given up easily. For them, it’s a pleasurable activity that should be shared between lovers. They are the women who conform to social standards and live by it. This usually protects them from players. They believe social rules were designed for a reason. And they are about their safety and security first and foremost. They are very good at controlling their sexual urges. In fact, it’s hard to turn them on in the first place. Anyone that wants to do something with them will have to be charming, considerate, attractive, patient, and comfortable to be around because it’s hard for them to feel sexual pleasure otherwise. They have very high standards. Once they do have sex, they like it to be normal (no out-of-the-box routines unless Venus aspects Uranus). They generally tend to like the same positions over and over. If it makes them feel good, why change it? They prefer foreplay to the actual act, but they really just love to feel good. These women really love sex, they just don’t love to do it with just anybody.

Even if they did get turned on easily, had random sex, and tried dirtier positions, they may feel used, washed up, and worthless, especially if they aren’t in a committed relationship. This will make them more insecure and jealous of other women. They will be more possessive of their partners and cause more arguments. They really want to be as valuable to their partners for as long as possible. They want to keep their sexuality as much to their chest before giving up their bodies. This is how much they value themselves. They really want to feel comfortable sexually. An insecure Venus in Taurus will sleep around more, looking for love in all the wrong places and trying to boost their self-esteem.

They may have their reservations about having an open sexuality, but with the right physical touches (literally), they can fully indulge in the pleasure of the moment. This will be most easiest for them in a committed, long-term, solid relationship. Some may even require marriage before having sex. If you want to arouse them, take your time, be soft, physical, and secure. They are extremely seductive. They can make any partner feel at ease. With their soft guidance, love-making feels just right. They like it rather hard, but they like to go slowly and fully experience the moment. They aren’t active participants in the sexual act. They prefer to play the passive or “dominated” role, depending on their Mars sign. They prefer to receive pleasure than give it, but they are capable of giving it as well. They work with care.

If you love a woman who is traditional, can cook, is comfortable to be around, and is uncomplicated, she is the one for you. If you want some excitement, want to experiment, not looking for long-term commitment, if you’re cheap or broke, or looking for passion and depth, look elsewhere. If you have a lot of aspects to Venus, you may relate to this description. If you have Venus in the 2nd house, you may also relate to this description. Venus is in domicile here; this is her home. Any planets or house cusps in Taurus or Libra will be affected by this position.

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Venus in Gemini

Gemini

Feminine Identity: Venus enters Gemini third, the sign ruled by Mercury. Here, it’s not too far away from who she is, but some things are different. I wouldn’t say she feels completely comfortable here, but there are some things that are familiar. Gemini is an air and mutable sign. Thus, these women are adaptable and changeable. They are social and love to have fun. Though many of them tend to see themselves a “girly girls”, you never know what you get with a Gemini! While these girls may love make-up and dresses, they may also be a basketball player who loves to talk about space travel! Venus in Gemini women are usually curious and can get interested in anything. They’ve tried everything. These women mostly love to socialize and talk. They also love admiration and attention. They can be superficial, only paying attention to what’s happening outside and around them rather than tending to anything underneath. Thus, they care more about the way they look than they do about how they feel. Sometimes, they are too concerned with others, which can make them gossipy. It can also make them self-conscious because they can be too concerned with their friends’ opinions of them.

But no matter what, everyone is a friend of the Gemini. They have a new friend for every occasion, though some long for a best friend they can do any crazy thing with. Even with a best friend, they like to be free to make new friends. They don’t form deep connections and often flit from one party, clique, or group to the next. Their social identities often change as a result. They may be Gothic one moment, a hip hop diva, or the peppy cheerleader the next! Venus in Gemini women always have stories about “that time they were…” Gemini has to be careful of being phony and fickle. Venus in Geminis can be independent, but they need people around them to keep their nervousness and boredom at bay. So, they may care about fitting in with the other girls a lot. Their fellow female peers may find them to be fun, charming, and popular. They always seem to wear the latest clothes, seem to have gone to the latest event, and have all the latest technology. They are always up-to-date. They should be careful that they don’t give the impression that they are busy-bodies and wannabes.

To learn more, The Magnetism, Charm, and Attractive Power of Venus is a good article.

The most beautiful qualities about these women are their stylish clothing, friendly nature, youth (both physical and personality), their flirtatiousness, their liveliness, and, best of all, their brains. They can be beautiful to anyone because they adapt so well to different circumstances. They are not beauty without brains, but they aren’t brains without beauty, either.

Relationships: Now that you know who they are as women, you should keep in mind that this will affect what they expect out of relationships. Really, they are kind of fickle. While they may say they want to let loose and have fun in a relationship, they may also like traditional romance. They really do want the dating experience, especially if their friends have partners. Whatever their partners do for them, they want to be able to tell their friends all about it! It would be best to keep romance interesting and engaging for them. Though they may not care to be treated delicately (and may be down-right juvenile in relationships), they do want a partner that is “socially aware”. So they care that their partner is chivalrous, considerate, attractive, and a pleasant conversationalist. It’s a turn-off when their partner talks about the same things all the time, when a partner is always angry at someone, or when their partner only talks about themselves. They like a partner to make things fun while still treating them like a lady. They don’t like to be embarrassed. Everyone knows them and their social life is very important to them. It’s good to be fun and unique, but in a normal sort of way. Treat them respectfully, but be honest. They really hate liars. Anything you tell them will be repeated, so they don’t like to find out they’ve been spreading a lie. They don’t like partners with bad tempers.

These girls appreciate a lover who is attentive. Pay attention to every little thing they say and do. Exchange with them in a conversation. These women tend to reward lovers with a fun time. They make great lovers, but they are also great friends. These women are quite attentive themselves. They are communicative and flexible, so they tend to know the right thing to do to please a partner.

They are gadget queens, so they love to text their partners. Social Media updates will include information about them and their lovers, so they want a partner who is social and not afraid of some attention. They usually want to share their happiness with the world. Being as social and popular as they are, they tend to have many suitors. Often times, they have a hard time deciding the right one for them. So make sure you bring your “A-game” when you ask them out. Venus in Gemini women must be careful of milking men and stringing them along just to get things for free, like a free meal or movie ticket. If you’re not sincerely interested, decline these offers, no matter how tempting they may be.

These women are always falling in love with Mercury, the planet of communication, intellect, and reason. The idea of hearing and chatting about new information really stimulates them. They are eager to learn new things. Things move fast when in a relationship with Mercury. It can be very logical and hardly physical or emotional.

These women are always stylish. They can be down-right shop-a-holics! When getting ready for a date, they HAVE to wear something new! They want attention, so they make sure they wear something no one else has worn yet or they wear something that will make them stand out. They are natural flirts, so they keep their hair in a style they can flip just right. They are mani and pedi freaks, so their nails and feet are usually always polished. They tend to like loose tops, so they may wear tanks or off-shoulder dresses with some smoking heels. Whatever they wear, they will look fabulous. They like to show off their outfits on social media, so they make sure to buy things people will like. They will even do this for a partner. If they know someone they like prefers a certain appearance, they’re not against dressing in a way that will please the potential partner. They tend to love bright colors, particularly yellow.

Their idea of a perfect date is going somewhere they’ve never been before. Wherever they go, there must be both food and entertainment. This keeps them interested and engaged. It also gives you two something to talk about later. Compliment little things you’ve noticed about them. This means you must pay attention. Let them know how amazing their nail designs are or how nice they look in their heels. They love to flirt, so be a smooth talker. Compliments work wonders with this lady. The perfect gift would be something thoughtful and special, something they can show their friends, something cool and up-to-date. Make sure the date is really great. If it’s not, they will let their friends and everyone else know how boring that date was. That would be embarrassing.

When they aren’t interested, it mostly shows on their faces. They will look bored and suddenly become the “quiet” Gemini. They may also try to avoid you. Some will outright tell someone they’re not interested. Others may just ask to remain friends instead. The biggest challenge for suitors is easing their boredom. They hate falling into routine. When they like someone, they have a sparkling liveliness and they are chatty. They tend to charm the individual with their witty and seductive flirting. They tend to focus on their appearance more. They will often find any reason to strike up a conversation and will cleverly plan to fall in step with the individual at events.

What Venus Means in Your Chart

They tend to think all girls want to experience dating. They may think all girls want someone who is sweet, thoughtful, considerate, and fun. They think girls want to have fun! They may think all girls like shopping, talking, and getting their nails done. They may be surprised to learn that not every girl is like this.

Female Sexuality: Sexually, these women are usually open and curious. Still, it depends on their friendship circle. Sometimes, these women don’t want to be seen as sluts. Their social image means a lot to them. At the same time, they are curious and want their partners to think of them as really sexy. They are also mischievous and tend to tease. They especially like to show off in front of exes or girls that have crushes on their crushes. They can be really competitive in that way. They tend to be experimental and open-minded.

The easiest way to get them aroused is through open communication and seductive flirting. In the bedroom, they are receptive to all styles. But they don’t really have much depth sexually and prefer not to put their emotions in it. They can be chatty and flirty even in the bedroom.

If you love a woman who is fun, someone open-minded, well-dressed, and popular, this is the woman for you. If you like quiet women, someone who is traditional, someone content and practical, look elsewhere. If you have Venus aspecting Mercury, you may relate to this description. Venus in 3rd house natives may relate to it a bit as well. Gemini is ruled by Mercury, so your Mercury sign will alter your expression. You can read the description of your Mercury sign within this page. For example, if you have Venus in Gemini, Mercury in Cancer, you can read Venus in Cancer to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Taurus or Libra will be affected by this planet.

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Venus in Cancer

Cancer

Feminine Identity: Venus enters the sign of Cancer, the area belonging to the greater feminine luminary, the Moon. Cancer is a cardinal sign and a water sign. There are some things Venus is comfortable with while being in Cancer, and some things she’s not. Like the Moon, Venus is a planet that represents femininity. But unlike the Moon, Venus is far more social and superficial. She’s more about pleasure, romantic love, and beauty. The Moon focuses on the emotions and commitment, which can be the good, bad, or ugly. Moon reflects overall womanhood and motherhood. Venus would rather think about life in love…rather than the responsibilities of a family and emotional commitments. She’s the young, beautiful, untouched woman. Still, at least here she can find lasting partnerships.

Venus in Cancer women are more than just “girls”. They carry the overall universal principle of womanhood with them, often passed down from their mothers. Their sense of femininity is instinctual and biologically motivated. They tend to be drawn to what has always been associated with womanhood: cooking, cleaning, and caring for the home and family. In this way, their idea of femininity is something that is very natural to their natural-born natures. Many of them love the idea of bearing or raising children. These women tend to look really good pregnant. In fact, they look at their best when they become mothers! It’s often hard for other women to maintain their “beauty” when they have children. These women make it look effortless! Part of the reason is because they don’t see children as a chore. They love caring for others.

Because of their strong association with the home, they have a girl-next-door appeal. They are like buried treasure. They are quite shy and tend to hide their charms and beauty behind a hard outer shell. But to those who look closer, they will see the hidden gem buried underneath. They aren’t flirtatious or flamboyant types, but they will care for you, pamper you, and understand you in ways no other woman would.

Some of them like shopping, getting their nails done, and socializing, but most like to pamper themselves in the comforts of their home and like to chill with close family and friends rather than party all night with random strangers. They are generally good girls. Their mother’s influence is strong in their lives and their relationship with her is usually a pleasant one. They may even resemble their mother. They look beautiful and so do all the women in their families! Even though some Cancer women cater to their appearance, they are never too concerned with their appearance. They are more concerned with developing inner beauty. Moon is the planet that helps us focus on the hidden. They believe beauty is truly skin-deep.

To add to their sweet, affectionate, and kind nature, they are also really down-to-earth, funny, and good with business when you get to know them. These women often spend a lot of time at home, so they end up doing a lot of reading, internet surfing, playing video games, watching movies or tv shows, and/or brushing up on art or home improvement projects. They become quite skilled, cultured, and intelligent as a result. Still, they are romantic and easily swept off their feet. They can be dreamers and can be unrealistic. But they are the best friends anyone can have.

Women tend to find them to be motherly figures. Most women easily relate to them because they never seem to be putting on airs or showing off and they introduce themselves as real girls with real strengths and real weaknesses. They are protective of their friends. Women respect that. They believe in sticking together and uniting with their fellow ladies rather than cat fighting and back-biting (though they have been guilty of these things). Around female peers they don’t know, they can be shy, moody, and defensive. They can be awkward socially. But once you get to know them, they are warm and friendly. Their partners often feel safe and secure with them.

To learn more, The Magnetism, Charm, and Attractive Power of Venus is a good article.

The most beautiful traits of this lady are her sweet and affectionate nature, her caring and domestic aura, and her romantic and dreamy side. She will really care for you and love you. Her beauty is quiet and modest, but authentic. She makes a good friend, girlfriend, wife, and mother. She was raised to be a beautiful person inside and out. She works hard to make everyone’s dreams come true.

Relationships: Because these girls are sweetie-pies, their relationship expectations are quite romantic. They can fall head over heels over someone and develop deep crushes that almost feel like love. When they are actually in love, they can be moody, especially if that person hasn’t noticed them yet. For this reason, it’s best they have a partner that is willing to commit to a long-term relationship. They are not casual daters. They pour their heart and soul into someone they love. They meditate on someone, observe, and form close attachments to people. They don’t often have elaborate expectations of relationships other than for someone to care about them, to love them, to be affectionate, to remember their birthdays and remember them on holidays. They want someone to care for them when they are hurt or sick. They like that “puppy” love. Love for them is something out of romantic literature or a movie. They want to be treated like they are special and they want a partner who is completely into them. They love to share and exchange their feelings with their partner. This means they need a partner who is in touch with their feelings. They don’t want anyone making them feel shame about their feelings and need someone who understands them. They are usually drawn to partners that have an understanding of women. They may also like partners that make them feel safe, secure, and protected. They can be a big moody mess sometimes, and they need a partner that will reassure them. Partners definitely can’t be afraid of emotions.

These women are constantly falling in love with the Moon, the luminary associated with emotions, instincts, and habits. When with Luna, everything seems to move in a fluctuating motion. Feelings pour over and our human desires take over.  This woman often can’t describe our attraction to the moon. That’s how instinctive it really is. This relationship with her can be full of passion and love or it can be a tumultuous affair. Regardless, she loves it because she is used to it. It makes this woman feel safe to know that no matter what happens, she can always return to the Moon.

These women can be caring and understanding themselves-unless you tell them about themselves or tell them something that hurts them personally.  These women are intuitive. Sometimes, they tend to read into things a little too much, but most times they are right on the mark. They can find a back-handed insult in a minute. And they are sensitive to criticism. But if you want to talk about someone else, they will be understanding and supportive.

They will do anything for someone they love. They aren’t necessarily material girls, but they are all about security and providing for their loved ones. They can be a little clingy. When they fall for someone, they want the love and attention of that partner all the time. It’s not that they can’t be independent, but they just love being around someone that loves them.

Some may have deep insecurities about their appearances or charms, often thinking that they aren’t as attractive as other girls. Many may have stories of being overlooked. This is because they are shyer than most. So, when they get with someone that finds them to be special, they hold on for dear life. Of course, if they sense any indifference in this partner, they can get highly upset.

They do NOT tolerate players. These women don’t even like being “second best” to exes. They don’t want a partner who has had sex with too many women, especially if he wasn’t married to any of them. That would make them insecure. They don’t even want to hear about your sexual adventures. Unfortunately, they can be so swept up in loving someone that they give their lovers the benefit of the doubt and try to assume the best before the worst until it’s too late. And when it’s too “late” (that moment they found out you were running game), look out! Their crabby pincers will come out! Venus in Cancer women can have ferocious tempers because when they feel something, they just let it all out until they are satisfied.

These women don’t care much about appearance as much as inner beauty, as was mentioned before. They also don’t want a partner that is super physical. But when they like someone, they will still dress nicely for a nice date. They are creative with their style, too. However, they are still modest in the way they look. They aren’t flashy girls. They have no desire to get attention from anyone else in the room but the one they like. They still want to be accepted for who they are. Some tend to accentuate their breasts well by wearing dresses or tops with a sweetheart neckline. They never wear anything too revealing or provocative though. Their beauty colors are white and silver, though they also like to wear pink and purple (sweet colors).

Their idea of a perfect date is pretty simple. They just really want to spend some alone time with someone they like. They want little surprises like flowers or a little poem. They do like chivalry. Though they may not say it is mandatory, it is sure to impress them. Opening doors, pulling out chairs, and even feeding them are ways that make them feel special, protected, and safe. When it’s raining, pull out your umbrella or take off your coat and give it to her. If it’s muddy outside, walk on the edge of the sidewalk to protect her from being splashed. These are just suggestions on how to make her feel loved. Still, whether you do these things or don’t do these things, they really just want someone who sincerely cares. These women feel that anyone who cares about them will naturally do sweet things for them, just like that person would for their own mother, sisters, or anyone they care about. They can tell when someone is being sincere and when someone is just being nice with impure intentions. They like sincere compliments. They prefer sweet little compliments to vulgar or embarrassing compliments. Simple phrases like, “You look pretty” or “You smell really nice” go over really well with these ladies. They tend to be shy at first, but once they get comfortable, they can be chatty on dates. They look for someone who is sincerely paying attention to their conversation. If you want to get them a gift, something thoughtful, sweet, and from the heart would work. Show that you really care about them. If you really don’t care about them, it will show. This means you must pay attention to their conversations and remember the things they value, whether it’s a favorite teddy bear or a pair of shoes. Show them how well you’ve been paying attention to them.

When they aren’t interested, they will find it difficult to be direct about it. They are hardly ever that hard-nosed. They may write a note or ask a friend to speak on their behalf. They may try to avoid someone they don’t like rather than hurt their feelings. The challenge for suitors is trying to get these women to trust and open up. When these women finally open up about their feelings, they still feel vulnerable and insecure. They easily get a little jealous or insecure and may constantly break up and get back together with their lovers. When they like someone, they are super shy and awkward around the person, but they will be around the individual often. In fact, they may spend too much time with someone they like. They will be super thoughtful, remembering all the most important things in the other individual’s life. They remember that person’s birthday, their sister’s, and their mother’s! They will try to get close to the family. They may also want to introduce the person to their own family. Their whole family may know of their crushes and love interests! Just ask their parents. They can be obvious to those who pay attention.

What Venus Means in Your Chart

These women believe most stereotypes about women have some truth to it. They believe women are more emotional, more caring, more romantic, and care more about commitment than men do. They believe most women are secondary copies of their mothers. They believe women are more family-oriented and friendship-oriented than men. They do feel that women are more sensitive and need reassurance from their partners. They would be hugely surprised to find that these ideas are not shared by all women.

Female sexuality: Venus in Cancer women will do anything for the ones they love, but they are generally modest. When it comes to sexuality, it’s not unusual to find them waiting until marriage before getting involved with someone sexually. Still, if they feel they have found the one for them, they will easily be swept up sexually. No matter what, though, their sexuality is a private matter. They are not openly sexual or avante-garde in their sexual tastes. This doesn’t mean they’re not sexy. They can dress sexy and be flirty, but this will never be over-the-top. They are generally good girls with good hearts. They don’t play around sexually because their emotions get too tied up with the people that enter their lives. Sex and romance are often linked, so it’s a part of their romantic adventure or romantic fantasies. Romance is a key part of the sexual experience for her. These women only get involved sexually with partners that appeal to their emotions and feelings. If they are the more accepting, romantic, and maybe naive Venus in Cancer women, they may often find themselves with many romantic and sexual partners, thinking each partner is sweet and romantic based on the little things the partner did (sometimes finding out that these partners were not being sincere). If they aren’t the naive Venus in Cancer type, they will be the most challenging women and may be very particular about who they have sex with. The opinions of their family members, especially their mothers, are very important to these women. They often don’t want to do anything their families won’t be proud of.

The easiest way to get these women aroused is to create a romantic scenario, share your loving feelings, and to hug and kiss them. They often get emotional in the act and cling close to their partners. They prefer chest to chest action and like to be the submissive one. They often like to hug and cuddle afterwards. They look amazing in lingerie, especially pastels and silks.

If you love a woman who is sweet, caring, traditional, family-oriented, supportive, and maybe a little sensitive, you will love them. If you are a player, like your freedom and space, not romantic, not family-oriented, don’t want baggage, or not a fan of emotions, they are not the one for you. If you have Venus aspecting Moon, you may relate to this description. Venus in 4th house natives may relate to it a bit as well. Cancer is ruled by the Moon, so your Moon sign will alter your expression. You can read the description of your Moon sign within this page. For example, if you have Venus in Cancer, Moon in Leo, you can read Venus in Leo to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Taurus or Libra will be affected by this planet.

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Venus in Leo

Leo

Feminine Identity: Venus enters the sign ruled by the Sun, Leo. Here, she meets fixed fire. Sun is naturally falling in one of Venus’s signs, Libra, so there are going to be some things Venus isn’t comfortable with in Leo. Still, there are things that Venus can handle here. For one, Leo is highly romantic. Venus is the planet of love. In Leo, Venus is able to enjoy love to the fullest. Our Venus in Leo ladies are very good at honoring Venus in their own special way.

Venus in Leo ladies want to be the best ladies they can be. They hold themselves (and others) to very high standards. They love glamour and luxury. They tend to be trend-setters when it comes to beauty and fashion. When they step into the room, they make sure all heartbeats stop for a moment. They eat up the fact that there are several potential haters in the room. Some Venus in Leos may think people are simply jealous of them if someone doesn’t acknowledge their greatness! This is because when they do things, they really do it to catch people’s attention. When it comes to fashion and beauty, they can be a little dramatic and flashy. They really like the admiration of their fellow peers. They make sure they are at the center of every gathering, with their best foot forward at all times. They love to plan parties and outings.

Of course, Venus in Leo women have two feminine sides to themselves. On a casual basis, they can be outright tomboyish. Being a fire sign, they are known to be independent in thought and commanding in nature. This is where they disconnect from Venus. Many of these women can be outgoing and on-the-go. They are youthful and love to have fun. They usually strive to have successful lives and be the kind of people they can be proud of. They carry themselves with dignity and have a sense of class about them. They strive to be popular and attractive, but not necessarily loved (though that would be a plus). Everyone may not love them, but they want everyone to respect them.

When around their fellow female peers, there are two types. The first type can be bossy. They tend to be possessive of their group and jealous of anyone who tries to take over-though it’s hard for them to acknowledge these feelings. They seem competitive and self-absorbed at times. They are extremely popular and often have many female admirers as well as rivals and enemies. Sometimes, people really ARE jealous of them because they are so successful and attractive. They can be so attractive, their best friends’ boyfriends often crush on them! Other times, people really dislike them because they seem to think too much of themselves and they seem to care more about their own feelings than the feelings of others.

The other type doesn’t have the bossy or commanding streak. This type often gets attention without trying too hard. They are still successful and attractive, but they aren’t competitive about it. They are sweet and demure, often being bossed around. These types often want to be liked by everyone!

The loyal lion loves hard. They are truly loyal.

Around female peers, they tend to be magnetic, magnanimous, and just a joy to be around. They love to make others laugh and they can really liven a party. Life with them can be full of drama, but always exciting. Friends may find them to be generous, at the same time controlling. It can be hard to live up to their standards and they don’t want their friends embarrassing them. For this reason, they tend to be drawn to people that carry themselves with a sense of authority. Partners find them to be attractive, charming, and generous, but also pushy, bossy, and difficult to reason with.

To learn more, The Magnetism, Charm, and Attractive Power of Venus is a good article.

Their most beautiful qualities are their warmth, charisma, and strength. They have all of the qualifications of a true leader. They really have some strong attractive powers. They are usually physically attractive as well. These women know how to bring attention to themselves and know how to take control of a room. They are fun, humorous, and smiley. They are generous and kind as well, but they still manage to keep their lives in order. They are superwomen.

Relationships: With such a strong personality, being ruled by the ego-centered Sun, Venus in Leo women have high expectations for relationships and romance. Of all the women in the zodiac, these women really expect to be treated like queens. They would like to be the center of attention in their partners’ eyes. In this sense, they even get jealous when they have to share attention with family members or friends! They don’t mind their lovers having family and friends, but in most cases, they feel their feelings, thoughts, and actions come first. But they may not give their lovers the same courtesy, as they feel their family and friends are equally as important as their partners! Venus in Leo women often believe in loving themselves before loving someone else. I’ve found this to be more true of those that are still single than the ones that are actually in relationships. Those who are in relationships strive hard to please their lovers and gain their lovers’ respect. Regardless, though, all Venus in Leo women refrain from being dependent in relationships. They love relationships for the attention and adoration they can receive from it, but they really don’t need a partner to complete them. Venus in Leo women really are go-getters. These women usually have successful careers and a zest for life. A partner would be an addition to what already is a wonderful life. Venus in Leo women do want to feel special in the eyes of their partners. Sometimes, they just want anyone to see them as special. Even in relationships, they often get flattered when random people compliment them or flirt with them. Often times, they don’t like it when someone flirts with their partners or when their partners are flirting with someone else, but they feel it’s innocent when it’s their turn! Venus in Leo women are quite flirty.

They want to experience romance fully. They want every day to feel like the first day. Their view of relationships can actually be a little imbalanced. They believe it’s the man’s job to take care of his girlfriend, just like he would his wife. But sometimes, Venus in Leo women don’t hold to the wife and mother standard they place on their partners. No matter what though, they always remain giving and loving partners.

These women are constantly falling in love with the Sun, the luminary responsible for the self, main concerns, and vitality. This may seem a little self-centered at times. Really, they just really love themselves first and foremost, then they give a “complete” person over to their lovers. The Sun focuses on them and they bask in the light. It makes them feel alive to be in his presence. She comes first in the Sun’s life and he seeks to adjust his life to fit her needs.

What Venus Means in Your Chart

On a usual basis, they actually dress pretty casual. They are go-getter girls, as mentioned before. But when out with friends or lovers on special dates, they don’t want to be the frumpiest in the room. They will jazz themselves up or focus on their personal style a little more to look more distinct and attractive. On dates with someone they’ve been crushing on, they will really dress the part. They could be pretty casual on a day-to-day basis, but when they go on a date, their partners will NOT be disappointed. They make sure they are looking not only their best, but THE best. They tend to dress for the occasion, so this really depends on the occasion. They have too much pride to embarrass themselves by wearing the wrong attire to a certain event. Still, their style is usually unique and they are proud of the clothes they put together. Don’t you dare tell them they don’t look good. They look best in bold colors. They tend to look and feel amazing in sunset colors like orange, red, and yellow, and they usually top it off with shimmery gold or silver accessories.

Their idea of a perfect date is to have an all-around good time. Dinner, amusements, alone time with a lover, and planned lavishly for the whole day would be the best. They tend to be big kids at heart. They can enjoy a lovely dinner as much as a day at an amusement park. As long as it’s a fun day, full of plenty of romantic attention, they will enjoy it. These women are tons of fun on dates. Of course, they still expect their partner to be well-mannered, chivalrous, and attentive. The perfect gift would be something expensive and glamorous like a diamond ring or necklace. They want quality gifts rather than cheap ones. They respond well to flattery, so any compliment is a good one.

When these women aren’t interested, it’s hard to tell. Some like to be flattered and these types generally like the attention someone gives them. The only thing is they may never actually reach out to a person they aren’t interested in. Other types are more honest, but they try not to be mean. Then again, there are some types that are straight-forward and loud-mouthed when rejecting suitors. How they reject a suitor depends on what their pride will allow and who’s around them at the time (friends, family, etc). It can be difficult for suitors to win them fully. Though they love attention, they are often super involved in developing their own lives. They have strong creative potential and want to express that in the world. They really don’t need a partner to complete them. When they like someone, they will do anything to get the person’s attention. They will be dressed their very best, be at their most flirty, and be super jealous of any girl who comes around the individual. They make themselves obvious. They love the attention.

These women believe most women expect to be treated like queens. They believe that most women want to be adored and cherished. Still, they believe it’s important for women to love themselves and develop themselves. They feel women are capable of doing anything they set their minds to.  They may be surprised to learn that some women don’t agree with these ideas.

Female Sexuality: As sexy as these women may appear, these women place a high value on themselves and hold themselves to a very high standard. While they want potential partners and lovers to see them as the sexiest women in the world, they will not cheapen themselves by having sexual relations with a bunch of random partners. When they have sex, it must be worth it! And best believe they will be getting something out of it. These women have their reputation, their pride, their dignity to uphold, and they will not feel like used, worthless scum. These women easily feel the “shame” from slut-shaming. They build themselves up so much, they hate for anyone to tear them down or make them feel valueless. So, most of the time, these women are not only hard to please, but hard to get into your bedroom. Their partners must be offering something, making them feel like giving up their sexuality is worth the price.

These women are classy. They know how to be sexy without being slutty. If you were to come across a slutty Venus in Leo woman, she may be having sexual relations to build her confidence. The more insecure Venus in Leo women often sleep around with partners to make themselves feel more attractive. Some have many partners to feed an inflated ego. But in the end, they don’t want anyone calling them a slut. They don’t like feeling beneath anyone. In this way, they tend to care too much about others’ opinions.

There are some Venus in Leo women who use their sex appeal to get people to do what they want them to do. This, of course, depends on the Sun sign. Venus in Leo ladies should be careful that they don’t use their amazing power for evil. Leos are charismatic and influential. Don’t let these powerful qualities go to waste by manipulating and controlling others.

The easiest way to get them aroused is to flatter them. Let them take the lead and guide you. They usually want to give their best in the bedroom. They can be spontaneous, but they usually aren’t unusual sex partners. There are just some things they find “beneath” them. However, they love pleasure of all kinds. If it feels amazing, they are down for it. They usually like positions that make them the center of their partner’s attention.

If you love a woman who is fun, attractive, popular, warm, and generous, you will love these women. If you like to be the dominant partner, don’t like drama, passive rather than active, and not extremely romantic, they may not be the one for you. If you have Venus aspecting Sun, you may relate to this description. Venus in 5th house natives may relate to it a bit as well. Leo is ruled by the Sun, so your Sun sign will alter your expression. You can read the description of your Sun sign within this page. For example, if you have Venus in Leo, Sun in Virgo, you can read Venus in Virgo to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Taurus or Libra will be affected by this planet.

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Venus in Virgo

virgo

Feminine Identity: Venus enters Mercury’s other sign here, only this time it’s the mutable earthy Virgo. Here, Venus is in a difficult falling position. Mercury and Venus aren’t really opposite planets, but the natural nature of this earth sign makes it difficult for Venus to really blossom the way she would like. This doesn’t mean the women with this position aren’t feminine. Quite the contrary! Some of these women are quite prim, demure, and docile. They have very soft qualities at times. The real issue Venus has in this position has to deal with Virgo’s modesty. Really, Venus and Virgo have some things in common, considering she has triplicity in Virgo. They are both subtle and easy-going (Venus being a planet of pleasure and Virgo being a physical earth sign). They both believe in being fair and have a strong sense of righteousness. But the vanity of Venus is humbled in this sign. Venus is usually a pleasure-seeking, easy-going, mostly lazy goddess. She cares about material comforts as well as her appearance. She is also quite involved with love. Virgo is the sign of hard work. Virgo is practical and rejects idealistic romance. Virgo makes the person less interested in superficial looks and charms and prefers the real girl. This means that the women with this position may look fabulous, but they work hard to get there.

There are some Venus in Virgos who really internalize this. Some Venus in Virgo women end up being critical and particular about themselves. There are some Venus in Virgo women that are so insecure about their bodies, appearance, and charms that they will do whatever it takes to make it perfect. They will often look to other people to boost their self-esteem physically. Some will get plastic surgery, others will eat healthy and work out daily. Whatever the case is, some of them feel compelled to appear just right at times. When they feel like they don’t look just right in the eyes of others or they feel they look offensive, they will try to change it. On the other hand, if others criticize their looks, they may try to get others to change their perspective of beauty to fit their own perspective rather than changing who they are.

Many of these women can do well working with music, fashion, beauty, and self-esteem. They make great fashion and music critics. They do wonderful make-overs because they tend to enhance a person’s natural beauty. They work really hard on their own appearances, developing an understated personal style. They love to be pampered and may love spa dates as it is both relaxing and healthy for their skin.

On the other hand, Venus in Virgo women often reject superficiality, seeing it as holding them back or seeing it as something that divides women. They may want to look attractive but feel tired with having to justify their intense concentration on every detail when it comes to their appearance (since people may find some of them vain when they actually do try to look nice because they put so much effort into it). They want to be respected for doing important things, so they have a hard time being around others who seem to take the “easy route” by using their looks and false charms. Some of it can be stemming from insecurities with trying to fit in with a “superficial world” only to find it is difficult for someone with their modest nature. The real problem is they can be superficial, which is why the opinions, thoughts, and actions of others bother them so much. They must learn to understand the superficial world a little more. It has its uses and its disadvantages.

Venus in Virgo women aren’t the types to get nice things without hard work. Sometimes, they work so hard, they often never get to enjoy what they work for. It’s hard for them to accept gifts as well, especially if they don’t feel they “earned” it. Even though it’s great to work hard, sometimes Venus in Virgo must learn not to make life harder for themselves than it has to be. If you can find an easier way to get the job done or to get what you want, don’t be afraid to try it. Don’t feel guilty about it. Learn to ease up a little. They must learn that we work to live, not live to work. There’s no sense in working hard if you can’t enjoy the fruits of your labor. Don’t think that people will respect you less and don’t think that you have to respect yourself less if you settle with something easier. Venus in Virgo women have a hard time respecting others who take the easy route. They admire strength and modesty in others. They don’t often feel sympathy for those who don’t put forth an effort to reach their goals.

Most of these women are usually strong, intelligent, and hard-working. They tend to be at the fore-front of any women’s rights movements. They often aim to strengthen themselves and other women. They feel stronger in numbers. Some can be really particular and critical when they are comfortable. They are so intelligent, they tend to notice everything. Sometimes, this makes their mind work quicker than those around them and they can’t help but express these ideas.

Still, Venus in Virgo women are always considering how they come across to people. They have self-serving personalities, so they aim to please others. They truly do not want to offend people with poor hygiene, ill manners, and a dramatic personality. They can be clean and/or neat freaks. They want to feel normal and they want others to think of them as normal or “everyday”. If they are famous or popular, this actually gives them a humble quality. If they aren’t so popular or extroverted, this will make them fade into the background even more. They are quite down-to-earth in this way, never trying to get more attention than they deserve. Unfortunately, they do sometimes deserve more attention then they actually receive. These women are helpful, considerate, caring, innocent, funny, and real. They are good friends to have around. They are the kind of friends you can truly depend on. Yet, they are not often appreciated for all that they do. They tend to do things in quiet ways rather than showy.

They don’t like being show-offs so they often get overlooked for those who are. This makes them form a little resentment eventually. It’s not always that they envy the drama queens, but drama queens annoy them because they feel that these girls don’t give the quieter girls a chance to shine and they even feel they give women a bad name. They just don’t think flamboyancy is decent and considerate. They are often quite particular about who they choose for company as a result. They are really loners.

If there are some Venus in Virgo girls who consider themselves “flashy”, it is always tempered with grace and style.

They generally like to keep their lives stress-free (since they are natural worrywarts). They get nervous when strange or unusual personalities attach themselves to them. They may have strange and eccentric hobbies themselves, but they don’t draw a whole lot of attention to themselves or make a big deal about it. They may see themselves as outcasts, but they really wish for their “eccentricities” to be seen as “normal”. They feel too uncomfortable with people that make them feel strange and may try to project their feelings of being odd on the other party to feel more secure. On the other hand, their idea of “strange” can just be someone who they feel is opposite their personality. For instance, if they are girly, they really may feel uncomfortable with someone who doesn’t enjoy dresses and lip gloss the way they do. If they like sports, they may find a girlish girl to be annoying to be around.

These girls can be quirky and they have a dry wit. They are often quite sarcastic and can point out things others miss. These women aren’t loud-mouths or whiners, but they tell it like it is. They will call a roach a roach. They believe in being honest with people. Sometimes, this honesty makes them seem less flattering, but there are many who appreciate this approach to life.

When around their female peers, they are generally quiet, awkward, and shy. They love to tease their friends and can take more sensitive souls off-guard. They can be loads of fun as a wiry mutable sign. Again, they can even be a little eccentric in choosing what to do for fun. Friends may also think they are bossy, critical, and fussy. They hold themselves to strong opinions and if their friends don’t agree, they tend to try to “fix” them. Usually, though, they are right. They are so studious and smart, it’s hard to refuse their advise. Partners may find them to be helpful and down-to-earth. They are quite natural. There is nothing phony about this woman. Partners may not find them to be super glamorous, and may find them to be a little pushy, but they always know that Venus in Virgo has their interests at heart and mostly want to see their loved ones live a happy and healthy lifestyle for as long as possible. Overall, they are simple girls.

To learn more, The Magnetism, Charm, and Attractive Power of Venus is a good article.

Their most beautiful qualities are their modesty, intelligence, taste in clothes and cosmetics, and willingness to serve. These women work hard and put more emphasis on their service to others than their own worth. They have an understated grace and charm. They are real. Their beauty is hardly ever fake. Many are naturally gorgeous and don’t have to do much but eat right and exercise. They know how to improve on their imperfections to make themselves even more attractive.

Relationships: Being the modest girls they are, they are really simple and realistic when it comes to relationships. They are not interested in “frilly” romance. They not only find it to be unrealistic, they find it to be uncomfortable. Usually, though, these women still enjoy simple luxuries, like being treated to dinner or a movie. They are not largely affectionate, but they appreciate gifts. They enjoy giving and receiving them, if they feel they are deserved. When they think of a relationship, they envision two people working together and helping one another. They want their partners to be dependable and responsible. They like to relax with their partners. Relationships aren’t really a major thing for them. When they really like someone, they are very shy. They often put duty before love. They might love their partners, but they don’t want it to interfere with the important aspects of life, like keeping a decent job instead of running off into the sunset or helping a sick family member even if they have to cancel a date. Even when the situation isn’t important, they are often so shy, they will create something important out of the relationship and focus on it to avoid having to show too much affection. They feel more comfortable just doing nice things for their partners. They even often find it hard to say “I love you” without feeling a little embarrassed. If they say it, they say it simply, in a private setting, without too much drama. They never do anything in a flashy way, not even when it comes to pleasing their partners. They love to tease their partners. Sometimes, it comes across a little critical. They can be fussy. They like things done a certain way and they want partners that are efficient. Because of their natures, finding love feels like a challenge. But it’s not impossible. When they do find the “one”, the person is usually someone they stay with for a long time.

They are constantly falling in love with Mercury, the planet of communication, intellect, and reason. They can’t resist someone so intelligent and interesting. Mercury is never short of information. He is skilled at whatever he does, which is pretty attractive as well as impressive. Every conversation is rational and reasonable. Unfortunately, Mercury is fast-moving. He has no time to develop a deep emotional bond.

They dress quite understated. They may be fashionable or simple and modest, but it will still be understated and tasteful, never extreme. Even when preparing for a date, they make sure they look nice without looking desperate. They don’t generally focus on their clothes. They tend to focus more on their skin and bodies. They like make-up because it hides imperfections, but they don’t like looking too fake. They prefer a natural glow. Their make-up is usually crisp and tidy. Their make-up usually matches their natural beauty well. Their products are usually organic and natural. They think it’s more important to keep the face clean rather than packed with blush, eye-shadow, and lipstick (though some really like those things, too). Their style may not be loud, but it is quite distinct. These ladies really do know how to dress themselves. They always smell good. And they usually have a nice, toned body, so they generally look good in everything. If they don’t, they will make themselves look good in whatever outfit they choose. Again, they are the queens of make-overs because they pay attention to every detail. When they dress for dates, they care that their make-up, hair, and skin are beautiful. They sometimes even enjoy the process of getting everything done. Shampooing and moisturizing their skin can be relaxing for these nervous ladies. They are very good at using the right products and eating the right foods to make themselves look and feel young and healthy. These women usually have toned stomachs, so they look great in cropped tops. They are drawn to earth tone, solid colors and no crazy patterns. They always look sophisticated. They tend to know how to match their outfits up perfectly. They always wear the right top with the right skirt or pants.

Their idea of a date is really simple, like their personality. They love a nice, quiet dinner. They like chilling at home, watching Netflix and eating pizza. They enjoy being cooked for especially. They even enjoy outings where the two of you are just running errands together. But if you invite them over, make sure your house is neat and clean. A junky, filthy place is a deal-breaker. If you’re driving them around, make sure the car is clean and well-cared for as well. The perfect gift would be something that is both beautiful, high quality, and useful. If it’s cold outside, a nice pair of leather gloves would be nice. Expensive perfume would also be perfect. In any case, they really want something that will last. The perfect compliment would only happen if someone notices the little details. Complimenting a certain twinkle in the eye or how a hair strip is set just right are ways a partner can show they are attentive. They also like their efforts acknowledged. They prefer a “thank you” to random compliments.

Venus in Virgo women are honest towards those they aren’t interested in. They may be critical, but they will try to present their disinterest in a constructive and precise way. They will also not accept phone numbers or give out their phone numbers. They may not even give out their names. The challenge many suitors often face with these women is living up to their strict standards. Their standards aren’t high, just particular. If they are interested, these women will be playful and teasing the one they like constantly, but they will do little odd favors, like being around to help someone clean up or helping a family member. They will be super shy around someone they like and you may not be able to really tell that these women like you. But they do tend to pay a little too much attention to someone they like.

What Venus Means in Your Chart

These women believe that all women are particular and have high standards. They feel that women are stronger than society portrays them. They generally have viewpoints about women that often contrast society’s views on women. They are aware that some women will not agree, but they may not realize that their ideas are not truly the “right” way of thinking and are just their own personal thinking.

Female Sexuality: Venus in Virgos have a madonna/whore syndrome really. Overall, they are very hard on themselves when it comes to sexuality. There are those Venus in Virgo women who see sexuality as a practice that should be controlled and monitored. They may even find the act indecent. They may feel that sexuality destroys society and these ladies prefer love to sex. These women may feel guilty when they feel any sexual desire, especially if that desire is toward the opposite sex. This type may be harder on potential lovers.

Then there are those Venus in Virgos who like sexual encounters and see it as healthy, but they may not necessarily flaunt their sexuality all over the place. In the privacy of their homes, they take great care of their partners sexually, trying to perfect their skills. This type is not likely to have many partners, as they care about sexual health, but they may do it frequently with one partner.

Finally, there are the Venus in Virgo women who are open with their sexuality, being the honest and real earth sign that doesn’t hold any punches, and may choose to use their bodies to get attention from the opposite sex. These women become experts at serving men. Some Venus in Virgo women have low self-esteem and may need the attention of others to make them feel beautiful. Venus in Virgos often feel overlooked in life, so some may pay extra attention that they are noticed and desired. These women could end up working in a job that is “sex-related” like prostitution. Some Venus in Virgos will only have sex with you if you pay them or provide another service (being a service-oriented sign and all).

Still, regardless, these women can be independent of sex. They are perfectly fine with being a virgin or celibate for many years. If they feel it is practical to do so, they will cut all ties with a partner, that includes sex.

It’s not easy to arouse these women. If you want to arouse them, the setting must be just right, their partner has to make them feel extremely comfortable, and they must feel safe. Once aroused, they tend to all the details of love-making. They can play any role their partners want them to play. They can be the one serving their partner or being served. It’s nice for them to get what they want. They hardly ever do, so they appreciate when a lover is attentive enough to try and please them.

If you love a woman that is modest, humble, down-to-earth, helpful, and practical, she’s the woman for you. If you need some excitement in your life, need to be in control, don’t like to be fussed or nagged at, and into a passionate romantic life, look somewhere else. If you have Venus aspecting Mercury, you may relate to this description. Venus in 6th house natives may relate to it a bit as well. Virgo is ruled by Mercury, so your Mercury sign will alter your expression. You can read the description of your Mercury sign within this page. For example, if you have Venus in Virgo, Mercury in Libra, you can read Venus in Libra to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Taurus or Libra will be affected by this planet.

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Venus in Libra

Libra

Feminine Identity: Venus enters her second home when she comes in contact with Libra, the air and cardinal sign. This means these women have a strong feminine identity, one that most women can’t help but admire and relate to. Libra is the sign of relationships. It’s easy for people to relate to them and therefore easy for them to form relationships with people. They are very charming. This is because they are polite, well-mannered, and considerate.

These ladies can be very feminine, loving all the usual things associated with girlhood like fashion, make-up, and socializing. They love anything that brings pleasure and ease in their lives. From my experience, they especially love shopping. They don’t always necessarily buy clothes, but they love to observe what’s being bought and sold in their local stores. They tend to like cute and cuddly items like stuffed teddy bears, puppy dog socks, and kitty cat purses. They are also really creative. They like to put arts and crafts together. Most importantly, they love any chance to socialize. They are generally the leader in getting their friends together for special outings or they manage all the party affairs. They are generally the person that connects all the people in the room with one another. They are extraordinarily popular, well-dressed, and intelligent. They make great conversationalists. This makes them magnetic. They are usually the diplomat, laughing friends out of their anger with one another. They believe in peace before violence, love before hate.

Though they are generally diplomatic, they can be a little stiff and judgmental. They are quite superficial in their personality, putting on a smile even when they are irritated with someone. Though they treat everyone respectfully and nicely, they tend to have high moral standards and super self-respect. They often strengthen these ideas when others agree with them. They are a mental sign after all, so they have ideas on how they feel life should be run and they care that they have support. If things were left up to them, they would direct people’s lives like they do their parties or gatherings. They believe in holding to social standards of decorum. This doesn’t mean they can’t let go and break the rules every once in a while, but they make sure they help others transition into the changes they make. They expect others to be as courteous about the disruptions they make, but others are not always so careful as they are.

Some Venus in Libras judge people on the clothes they wear. This doesn’t mean they believe everyone should dress as stylish as they do, but they tend to think people shouldn’t show too much skin and should be more modest or they may feel people should practice good hygiene. Some Venus in Libras judge behaviors as well and tend to stay away from people who seem crude, loud, or boisterous. Still, they will never admit this to anyone’s face. Though they like to see both sides of a situation when it comes to others, if they are the ones in an argument, they will debate until they win. They generally don’t like to argue, but they will try to have the last word.

As judgmental as Venus in Libras can be, they are always fair. Most people think they are reasonable. If they can’t tolerate something, more than likely others can’t tolerate those same things. They tend to side with popular ideas, which is why most people always agree with them. It’s difficult to argue with them because they have such a balanced view of the world.

Venus is the planet of refinement; Libra is balanced. These women know how to keep their life balanced. Even though they like girly activities, they make sure to balance their masculine energies with their feminine energies. Some may be both interested in shopping and sports, as well as reading. They never go overboard with anything. Unfortunately, they often seem to lack passion as a result. They generally approach things in a cool and easy-going manner.

Still, they are strong about justice and fairness, as mentioned before. They are strong supporters of feminism. They believe in equal rights. They want to be treated fairly among their friends, lovers, and society as a whole. Of course, their idea of “fairness” may not be the same as everyone else’s. Deep down, Libras can manipulate these ideas about “justice” to suit their own agendas. Libras can turn their charm into manipulation, and they are convincing when it comes to getting people to see only their pure intentions.

Among their fellow female peers, these women are cool, attractive, friendly, and a joy to be around. They are balanced around everyone. They are not too retiring, so they can keep up with lively souls, at the same time they like the easy life. They are not likely to take over, but they know how to be the leader when given the chance. They must learn to stand up for themselves a little more when it comes to their loved ones. They put up with things from their loved ones when they wouldn’t normally take certain things from strangers. Then, there are some women who find them to be too passive when dealing with others or plain out phony. Libras are known to play two against the middle. They don’t do this on purpose. They just don’t want anyone to hate them and try to see everyone’s point of view, even if the two views contrast greatly.

These ladies can be lazy. They have plenty of energy, but they would rather put this energy towards something pleasant. Generally, they hate dirty, difficult work. They would do better in jobs where they can be creative like fashion, art, and music. Otherwise, they would need to be working in a harmonious partnership to enjoy their job more.

Venus in Libras can be superficial in other ways. They tend to be attracted to the pretty, popular, and rich people. Though they like everybody, they take a special liking to these sorts of people as they see a significant social advantage they can gain from hanging with those who have a high social status. They’re not exactly users; they are genuinely drawn to these people and will think of them as best friends-even if these people really don’t treat them right. Sometimes, they care a little too much about their reputation and need to learn to let go of people that they have to put on a fake face for. As Dr. Seuss said, “Be who you are because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

Eventually, Venus in Libras learn to balance their love of others with their love for themselves. They really work hard to love themselves. They do this by highlighting the good in themselves and staying away from negative thoughts. They learn to love their “haters” with the help of their supporters. They often seek to be around people who like them and find them attractive instead of staying around people who make them feel unattractive in some way. Still, they must be careful of relying on others to boost their self-esteem and give them worth. They must learn to find this worth within themselves, regardless of others’ opinions. They also must be careful of comparing themselves to other people. They often forget to be thankful for the situation they are already in when they see someone doing things they wish to do. They must remember that things are never as they seem.

Venus in Libras can be independent, but they prefer company to loneliness. This is part of the reason they put up with people. They are socialites. You’ll never really find them alone unless absolutely necessary. They need the mental stimulation and they feel insecure when left alone.

To learn more, The Magnetism, Charm, and Attractive Power of Venus is a good article.

These women embody beauty both inside and out. They are charming, sweet, affectionate, well-dressed, easy-going, and super friendly. They have class and always relate to people from many walks of life. They know how to bring attention to themselves without coming across arrogant. They have a humble beauty that is hard to disguise, no matter what they’re wearing. They know how to bring out their most charming qualities in any situation and they understand what truly makes people beautiful. They are good to people and try to keep the peace. They know how to translate their own beauty to the world around them. It’s infectious.

Relationships: Because they feel so lonely so often, Venus in Libra women really feel they need a partner in their lives to complete them, more than any other planet in Libra. They truly believe that life isn’t worth living if you have no one to share it with. And if their friends are dating, they feel lonelier. They can’t stand to see other couples cuddling up when they are alone. Because of this, they may get in a relationship with anyone, even if they aren’t really in love with that person. They may be entirely superficial about their partnerships, only getting with a partner just to be in a partnership or just to keep up with their friends. In this way, they may use a partner for social status. Still, there are those who do want a partner that is at least compatible with them. They view relationships as something that should bring happiness and peace. They are drawn to sweet, peaceful, and thoughtful partners. They like when people get them gifts and shower them with affection. In a relationship, they like the special attention they can get from a partner. They are really into romance. But they believe in being equal partners. They like to give as much as they get. They keep score in their heads. Heck, they may keep a record of it! If their partners give to them, they will give to their partners. And they generally feel that they do all they can to please. These women hate to be lonely so they try to make their partners feel as comfortable as they can. Still, they want to feel comfortable, too. Special holidays are important to them. They expect their partners to remember them on Christmas, Birthdays, and Valentine’s Day. Never forget their anniversary. They like to keep up with their friends’ relationships. If all their friends got something special on Valentine’s Day and they didn’t get anything, they will not be happy. They want partners that care about their reputations to a certain degree. They dislike being embarrassed. They want people to see the good going on in their lives and they hate to air their dirty laundry in public. They hate drama in their relationships. Their problem is they can be flirty and tend to always think the grass is greener on the other side. They can be indecisive when choosing partners as a result. They always think some other person is treating someone better than their partners are. They are the queens of ‘compare and contrast’. This isn’t always bad. Sometimes, they look at other relationships and draw creative inspiration. They may find new ways to show their love for a partner. Still, they may often have a hard time choosing partners. They are often so caught up in the attention and love from all of their suitors, they are not sure which one they like better! But they better make a decision because no one likes to share.

These women are always falling in love with Venus, the planet of love, beauty, and art. They can’t resist Venus’s grace and love of balance and harmony. Everything about Venus seems pleasant and refined. Life with Venus is peaceful and nice all the time. Of course, there’s not much excitement going on. Just a nice easy life, without chaos.

On a usual basis, they dress comfortably and casually. They like to feel comfortable and at ease with themselves. But they do like looking nice sometimes as well. They do everything in moderation. And they love shopping, so they tend to have tons of clothes, shoes, and accessories. For dates, they really make sure they are attractive. They generally don’t like to wear things that are too outrageous, but they make sure every detail is in place. They have a sense of grace about their personal style. Sometimes, they like to match their partners when they go on dates, kind of like prom. They may ask what color their partners are wearing and may find an outfit in the exact same color. They like to look like they are with someone no matter where they go. Most Venus in Libras are natural. They don’t wear a whole lot of make-up. When they do, it’s so subtle, it almost looks like they aren’t wearing any. They mostly like to highlight their natural look. They have so much charm it almost doesn’t matter what they wear! They can wear charm and get away with it. Their personalities make them more attractive than any outfit could. Still, they have a vain side. They still like for people to pay attention to their appearance. They are also trend-setters, wearing all the latest fashions (since they like to shop so much). Some of them are so creative, they are excellent at designing their own fashions. In any case, they have an eye for color. They prefer subtle colors to bold colors. When dressed up, they like for others to pay attention to their back and butt. But they try not to highlight their beauty in an offensive way. They can be indecisive about what to wear, usually having a friend help them decide what’s best.

Their idea of the perfect date is lavish. They want to feel special. They generally like just being with someone, but it’s more impressive when someone adds a sense of luxury to the event. They like to go to the most expensive restaurants. They like to be treated to a lavish breakfast, lunch, or dinner. They like the flowers, candy, and other gifts. They want the night to be something they will never forget. It must be really romantic. They can be idealistic in this way. If it’s not perfect, they will be disappointed. Their idea of the perfect gift is definitely something romantic. They like expensive jewelry, teddy bears with hearts, a dozen roses, sweet cards, or whatever else is sweet and thoughtful. They love compliments. Sweet words work wonders. Still, they don’t like anything too rude. Everything must be said in a sugar-coated way.

These women have a hard time rejecting suitors. When asked out, they try to be considerate. They really don’t know whether they don’t want someone until after that first date, unless that individual has been completely obnoxious. They always give others a chance. If they are dating when asked out by someone else, they try to reject someone as nicely as possible, may try to hook that person up with someone else, or try to avoid them. Some may date two people at once, just to see if they’re missing out on something better in the other. The challenge many suitors face is winning their hearts permanently. It’s hard to get them to focus on one lover because they are always considering whether the grass is greener somewhere else. They expect equality at all times, but this equality depends on their own idea of fairness. Their standards can be high at times because they are easily turned off by crude behavior and ugliness of all kinds. If they like an individual, they will be super flirty and sweet. They may pull out their best manners and charm. They will definitely try to look their best.

What Venus Means in Your Chart

They tend to think all women want to be treated like ladies. They believe that most women care about their appearance, but want to be respected for more than that. They believe most women are softer, more balanced, than men are. They also feel that women are more sensitive to things and more thoughtful. They believe every girl has a feminine side and a masculine side. They would be shocked to find that other women don’t view the world the way they do. In fact, this would make them a little uncomfortable. Still, most women wouldn’t think these ideas are threatening. It would be easy for them to convince other women of their ideas.

Female Sexuality: Venus in Libra see “sex” as a superficial thing. They really like the “look of sex” rather than actually having it. They tend to dress really sexy sometimes (though their idea of sexy is pretty modest) and tend to have a flirty personality. Still, they don’t like being objectified. It may seem a little confusing for some people. How can they both like people paying attention to their appearance and hate being objectified? Does this have to do with their indecision? I think it has more to do with their need for balance and moderation in their lives. They do want to feel sexy to someone, but they don’t want to be treated just as a sex object and not a person who has thoughts, feelings, and the ability to do other things. And really, they aren’t overly sexual. They see sex as a part of love-making rather than focus on the act itself. They often see the actual act as dirty and a little uncomfortable. They don’t really like the wildness and energy that comes with it. They have a hard time focusing on what they desire and have a hard time just releasing their passions. They also focus so much on looking good while doing it, they don’t actually do it. They hate making weird faces during the act as well. These women prefer love to sex. They are really influenced by the need to conform and are far more socialized to translate their erotic yearnings into romantic fantasy. They also care what their friends think of them at the end of the day. I would even say they care how women in the world will view them as they want to be good role models to others. They usually want to wait until marriage to be sexually involved with someone. They believe in doing things “right”. Their elders have a strong influence on them. They keep their legs closed until someone “puts a ring on it”. Or at least they want someone who seems sincerely in love with them before they give up their bodies.

On the other hand, there are the more insecure Venus in Libras that have sex to keep a partner around. If they are in love with someone, they will generally do anything for them. If they feel they are in love, they will be more sexual for that person. Still, they must feel that the person will be loyal to them. They are not the kind of women to like jumping from partner to partner. They are not that loose. Still, they can be a little naive.

In order to arouse these women, their partner must be charming, attractive, smooth, and considerate. A sweet date is likely to arouse them. In the bedroom, they are considerate and soft partners. They like for their partners to pay attention to their bodies. They love all positions, but they aren’t extremely unusual in style.

If you love a woman is charming, graceful, attractive, and modest, you will love these women. If you are crude, rude, not romantic at all, or see women as the inferior gender, look elsewhere. If you have a lot of aspects to Venus, you may relate to this description. Venus in 7th house natives may relate to it a bit as well. Venus is rules Libra. Any planets or house placement cusps in Taurus or Libra will be affected by this planet.

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Venus in Scorpio

Scorpio

Feminine Identity: Venus enters another uncomfortable position when she enters the sign ruled by Mars and Pluto. That sign is Scorpio. Scorpio is a fixed water sign. In the watery depths of Scorpio, Venus feels like she’s suffocating. Though Scorpio is subtle on the outside, Venus can’t help but feel there is something not-so-subtle going on underneath. Underneath the quiet Scorpio is a whole lot of passion and desire. Venus is not comfortable with such an extreme energy. She does everything in moderation. Scorpio, on the other hand, is an all or nothing sign. And when it comes to their own feminine identity, they are no different. They can be powerfully feminine or reject femininity altogether. If they are women who are powerfully feminine, they are all about female empowerment. These women may feel more content being single than being with a male partner. These women are fiercely independent, but they still enjoy all the things that make up a girl. In fact, they may feel that more people should honor femininity. These women may put a lot of emphasis on their own individual charms and beauty. They may reject the idea of women having to live up to “masculine standards” and may feel that men should do more to be like women.

The Venus in Scorpio women that reject femininity mostly reject the social idea of it. These women tend to feel they have more in common with men than other women because they tend to want to try things society doesn’t often feel is “suitable” for women. They may not feel like they fit in with anyone. These women don’t like to be classified or defined. They often dislike having to live up to standards and may do the opposite just to get on social conformists’ nerves. It really stems from a deep insecurity. They feel so strongly about being liked that they feel strong rejection when they aren’t liked. This makes them resentful, so they tend to take their disappointment out on the social world in general. Because of their experiences, they have the ability to see the beautiful in the ugly and the ugly in the beautiful.

Regardless of their stand on feminine issues, they are real fighters for whatever cause they believe in. And they all value inner beauty over outer beauty (even if they are also beautiful on the outside). They are never what they seem and they believe in the saying “Never judge a book by its cover”. They may seem innocent on the outside with dark hidden secrets. They may seem like a wild child and hold some traditional values. They don’t believe that “looks” can define a person. And Venus in Scorpio likes being this complex. They like being “layered” and having “depth”. These women are anything but shallow. They keep an air of mystery and are fierce about their privacy. Really, they fear being judged and controlled by others’ judgments.

Venus in Scorpio women are always rebels. They may not dress odd or act eccentric all the time, but they always hold contrasting views to everyone else’s. They are true rebels inside, not superficially. Really, they see the world much deeper than others and they value this depth in others.

Around their fellow female peers, they are also all or nothing. Women may be fiercely attracted to them at times, finding them strong and charismatic. Other times, women may find them rude, reckless, and to hold opinions that don’t seem “acceptable”. Sometimes, they seem really shy and quiet. These same qualities can be translated as mysterious and suspicious. They are also always transforming themselves, whether it’s their style or ideas. So for a long period of time, they can be one way, and then suddenly change their whole identity. Still, they always remain the same on the inside. They will always be strong-willed and passionate, no matter where they stand. They seem to be hard to predict among their friends. They can be cutting and sarcastic. Sometimes, they can be devious, playing pranks on friends. Not everyone can handle their intensity. They tend to be very picky about the people they choose as company. They can be ice cold to people they don’t like.

Still, women may be magnetically drawn to them because they will do anything for their friends. They are protective and are not afraid to stand up to bullies.

They attract many enemies as well as friends. Women may find themselves really jealous of them because they are so magnetic. Sometimes, they encourage this competitive attitude in women without realizing it. Venus in Scorpio women tend to go after whatever it is they desire, regardless of the toes they step on along the way. They both hate and love their rivals. While their rivals make life more difficult for them, they feel they push them to be even better as well.

These people like to be in control and to have influence. If they end up around other strong-willed people, there will be a power struggle. They often get possessive and controlling of their loved ones, even if they don’t like being controlled themselves. Well, sometimes. If it’s someone they really like, they can be wrapped around that person’s finger, feeling an intense bond. They tend to have a love-hate relationship with everything because they are so intense. They love so hard they end up controlled, at the same time they hate this feeling because they feel so deeply about things. Their partners find them to be intense but magnetic. They can cause a lot of drama, but they are addicting. They make their partners feel a certain rush, a certain purpose, you just can’t feel with the other women of the Zodiac.

To learn more, The Magnetism, Charm, and Attractive Power of Venus is a good article.

These women have a way of reversing the “beauty” roles. What most others consider ugly, scary, forbidden, or mysterious, these women can find the beauty within it. These women have a mysterious, magnetic, dark, and powerful beauty. It can attract both lovers and rivals. Their charms are both subtle and loud. They are quiet, but those who notice can’t resist their aura. They truly feel that beauty is skin-deep and only within. They believe that the prettiest faces could hide the ugliest intentions and shouldn’t always be trusted. Thus, they work on being both physically attractive and a person of substance. These women are always respected as a result.

Relationships: That love-hate thing applies to their romantic relationships. They see relationships as nothing but a bunch of drama at times; other times they see relationships as something deep and meaningful. They are looking for meaningful, passionate partners. They want their relationships to have depth. They just don’t want a superficial affair to make themselves look good in front of others or to fit in with friends. They truly want someone that they connect with on a deeper level. They just don’t want to be around someone that has the same hobbies in common, they want someone that understands their deepest fears, their deepest desires, and they want that person to feel the same way they do. For them, it is all or nothing in relationships. Either their partner is completely compatible with them or they don’t belong together at all. This intense view of relationships can be a lot for potential lovers who are not prepared for it. This is why they only want someone who can see below the surface of things. They absolutely HATE partners who were attracted to them only because they were attractive. They want a partner who is attracted to more than their outer looks. And they can tell when someone isn’t being sincere. These women seek to transform in their relationships. They tend to be drawn to dramatic relationships as a result. When these women get into a relationship, they suddenly seem to “change”. Even their family and friends will notice this. This is because they are looking to bring out hidden or concealed tendencies with a close partner. They want a partner that is intelligent, someone that thinks about the world. They tend to be attracted to taboo love affairs. They often get caught up in encounters with people most would think are not good for them. Overall, they do not want love to be shallow. Therefore, they tend to be drawn to people that are both attractive and intimidating. They love when their partners are jealous because it confirms their partner’s strong love and attraction to them.

These ladies are constantly falling in love with both Mars and Pluto, the planet of action, desire, aggression and the planet of transformation, obsession, and power. Basically, the thrill and intensity blows their minds. The passion that they feel in their relationship with these two planets is so intense, it changes them for life. It’s always a relationship full of power struggles, fighting, and drama…yet, they can’t seem to shake themselves out of it. No other relationship can make them forget it. When pulled away from Mars and Pluto, they desire to return. It has control over them in many ways. Mars and Pluto makes them feel dominated, yet they like it because it makes them feel wanted.

What Venus Means in Your Chart

When it comes to dressing themselves, they can be both casual and girly, but they will always have their own unique style. They want their style to mostly reflect their inner nature. They tend to be drawn to dark colors and dark make-up. Ruby reds and jet blacks tend to appeal to them. They like solids more than anything, but they tend to like outrageous patterns sometimes, too. Some reject the superficial and tend to dress more casually and comfortably all the time. Some can be extremely modest, others can be extreme. But they are always all or nothing. And keep in mind, they are constantly transforming themselves, so they constantly change their look every 5 years or so. When dressing for dates, they know how to be both sexy and modest in their appearance. They tend to be fans of mesh or sheer. They like the subtlety of showing a little skin without giving away too much. They always have a magnetism that is hard to resist no matter what they wear. They have seductive eyes and intelligent personalities. Yet, these women always worry about being attractive enough. Because they have such an all or nothing magnetism, some people either like them strongly or really hate them. So, they end up unsure whether they are attractive enough.

Their idea of the perfect date can’t be generalized. It really depends on the woman and her individual interests. They aren’t really romantics. They just like what they like–strongly. If they have a passion for baking, for example, they may consume themselves with it at times. Therefore, the perfect date may be to a baking show or to a restaurant that specializes in deserts. Another good date could be somewhere mysterious, like to a magic show. They may like quiet places like museums or isolated dinners. Generally, the date must pique their interest in some way. This means they are looking for an intriguing partner, someone who goes beyond the normal, traditional standard date. Sometimes, they may be all-or-nothing regarding partners. Either they are drawn to you or they or not. If they aren’t drawn to you, it doesn’t matter what date you take them, they will never be interested in you. But if they are drawn to you, they can go anywhere with you and be happy. That first impression is everything to them. They’ve already investigated everything about a person long before they were asked out. No amount of charm can replace what they have investigated about a person.

The perfect gift for them varies. They really aren’t impressed by material things. Still, if you give them something they really desire, and you constantly shower them with gifts of the things they desire, they will cave. Compliments do nothing to flatter them unless they are really into you. They prefer others to acknowledge their strengths if anything. They mostly want someone who is honest with them. Cut the crap. Whatever their date says must be sincere and not something that person says to any girl who crosses paths with them.

Either they like you or they don’t. If they don’t, they won’t pull any punches. They can be sharp and cutting when rejecting someone. The challenge suitors face is overcoming this woman’s trust issues. They demand commitment. They really don’t trust love. If they like you, they can become a little obsessed. They are quiet and subtle, so you wouldn’t think their feelings are that deep. They may just wear a little smile and show extreme shyness. Yet, the next moment, they will be jealous of any other girl the individual is around! They may spend a lot of time researching the individual, if they don’t already know them well. But no one will know this. They know how to hide their feelings. They often wait until the object of their affections shows interest in them first before revealing their feelings.

What Venus Means in Your Chart

They feel femininity is a deep and personal feeling that can’t be generalized or defined. Therefore, they feel that each woman experiences things differently from one another. They wouldn’t be shocked to find that people disagree with them, as they meet opposition often, but they still may be surprised that some women really think all women are the same.

Female Sexuality: Venus is in the sign of sexuality. Scorpio is well known for being sexy. But their sexuality is not always totally explored or completely open. It isn’t really defined. It’s not that Venus in Scorpio women are unrestricted sexually. On the contrary, in fact. They are ALWAYS in control of their sexuality. Pluto, their ruler, gives them this power. This means that Venus in Scorpio women will either be openly sexual or completely reserved sexually. These women can be so in control of their sexuality that they can go without it for the rest of their life. They see sexuality as a powerful thing. Giving up their sexuality is like giving up their power and control over themselves. This is because they experience everything completely. When they have sex, their emotions pour over, giving themselves completely to a partner. It is a psychological thing. They always try to keep that part of themselves close. So, when it comes to their sexuality, they tend to keep it concealed and hidden until the right partner comes along. With their reputation for being distrustful, this may take a long time. They have no problem with being a virgin or being celibate. In fact, they value being that way.

Of course, there are Venus in Scorpio women who desire to feel power and control over others. In this case, they may be more promiscuous. They may use sex to dominate others and to feel stronger. They may see sex as a tool to get the things they desire. These women may also just want to anger conformists and they may express their sexuality to make a statement. They also are drawn to taboo sexual practices. Think Fifty Shades of Grey.

Scorpios can be contrasting in their effort to prove you can never judge them by the superficial. They may dress really modest, but live an openly sexual life. They may dress provocative and be a straight up virgin, celibate, abstinent, or asexual.

In order to arouse these women, you must consider whether they want you or not. If they want you, it will be easier to arouse them. If they don’t, you’ll never stand a chance. For those she shows an interest in, you must surrender to her or you must convince her to surrender to you. There is always a wall there. If you can break these defenses, they’re all yours. At some point, she must feel in control. After that, you must prove that you can be trusted. They also feel aroused when there is an air of mystery or tension between themselves and their partners. They also desire their partners more when their partners aren’t interested.

In the bedroom, they are passionate lovers. Once they have decided to give themselves up, they give their all and can wear their partners out. Observe their Mars signs and Pluto signs closely to understand what “all” means for them. They like to have a measure of control. They don’t like to feel vulnerable. At the same time, they may also like being completely dominated. They like the struggle. They may like sex to be a little rough and maybe a little taboo. At all times, though, they want to feel something deep and transforming. They are likely to let sex change them and get obsessed with their sex partners. They must be careful to moderate their tendencies. Scorpio is the sign most associated with sex after all. They often get attached to the rush of an affair. It’s easy for them to seduce others, but it’s just as easy for them to be seduced.

If you love a woman that is unpredictable, deep, powerful, strong-willed, and in control, you will love them. If you have to be the dominant partner, looking for sex to be without restriction or weight, not a fan of emotions, and/or dislike drama, these women are not for you. If you have Venus aspecting Mars or Pluto, you may relate to this description. Venus in 8th house natives may relate to it a bit as well. Scorpio is ruled by Mars traditionally and Pluto, so your Mars and Pluto signs will alter your expression. You can read the description of your Mars and Pluto signs within this page. For example, if you have Venus in Scorpio, Mars and/or Pluto in Sagittarius, you can read Venus in Sagittarius to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Taurus or Libra will be affected by this planet.

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Venus in Sagittarius

Sagittarius

Feminine Identity: When Venus enters Sagittarius, the mutable fire sign, she enters a lucky placement. She doesn’t feel entirely comfortable in Sagittarius, but there are a few things she has in common with the sign. For one, Venus is a benefic planet just like Sagittarius’s ruling planet Jupiter. This makes both energies positive and beneficial all the time. Neither can ever bring too much harm. Of course, too much of a good thing can cause some problems. Still, Venus is different from Sagittarius in many ways. Venus likes that Sagittarius provides a life of ease. With all the luck she gets in this placement, why work? But she may not like the exaggerated nature of Sagittarius. It can cause too much drama.

Venus in Sagittarius women love luxury and beauty. They have a zest for life. These women focus on having a positive view of themselves. Self-esteem is their focus. They work really hard to develop confidence in their own bodies and they encourage other women to love themselves. Sometimes, these women seem a little vain as a result. In the process of loving themselves, they often boast or brag about their “progress”. They try not to let anyone tear them down. Exercising humility is usually the last thing on their minds.

Jupiter is the planet of expansion. Sometimes, this means these women indulge in their pleasures more than the average. They tend to gain a little more weight as a result. Many of them actually look good with weight! Still, they must be careful of this tendency as it can cause health issues in the long run. No matter what, though, they never let anyone shame them.

These women tend to have a strong feminine side, loving all the things girls usually like. They can be into fashion and accessories and also love cooking and taking care of the home. Really, they have the confidence to do anything they put their minds to! However, they are always independent and freedom-loving. They don’t like to be compared to other women or grouped together with others as a result. They always find a way to make themselves more individual, whether it’s through a unique personal style or deviating principles.

These women have strong moral and ethical values. But their idea of right and wrong is based on their own experiences. Sometimes, their view of what’s right isn’t popular with other people. Still, they fight for their beliefs and can be preachy when trying to tell others about it. They have very strong opinions about femininity, and they expect other women to follow their example. They are also blunt and straight-forward, not caring whose feelings they hurt.

On the other hand, they do more talking than walking. Being freedom-loving, they don’t often hold themselves to their own principles. They certainly don’t want anyone judging them and placing standards on them. They want the freedom to have many experiences. Still, no matter how they act, their advice is wise and always steers others in the right direction. They are quite intelligent, thinking on a higher plane than most people. They tend to be broad in their views, viewing things in the context of the world rather than just their own community. This is why they value having as many experiences as possible. They want to continue to expand.

These women can be really sporty. They are lively and playful at times as well. Though they sometimes like primping and being pampered, they aren’t afraid to get rough and dirty. They love the outdoors and have an adventurous side to them. They are open-minded and love exploring various cultural backgrounds.

Among their peers, these women tend to be both likable and obnoxious. They are fun, funny, confident, and strong. Most women enjoy their company. They are out-going and hate to be trapped indoors. They really inspire the best in women and most can’t help but admire them. And just like women admire them, they always have one female heroine that they admire as well. They always have a teacher or guide in their lives. They have the courage to do things other women fear which makes them exciting company. At the same time, some women may find their personalities to be a little arrogant, haughty, preachy, and dramatic. These women don’t really care what other people think. They try to give themselves space from friends and peers anyway. Those who like them will; those who don’t won’t. Partners may find them to be lively and fun, but hard to pin down.

To learn more, The Magnetism, Charm, and Attractive Power of Venus is a good article.

The most beautiful quality about these women is their pure love of life! They embrace life with everything they do. Thus, they radiate positivity and life. These women are lucky. No matter what they wear, how much weight they lose or gain, they will always be attractive. They learned to love themselves early in life and this upbeat outlook inspires others to love themselves, too. It makes them ten times more attractive.

Relationships: They are so freedom-loving, they mostly want a relationship without any strings attached. They prefer to have a relationship where they can grow and learn about life. They want to experience a relationship thoroughly. They really want the dating experience. They put their partners on a pedestal and expect their partners to admire them as well. These women let their beliefs influence their relationships, so they are drawn to partners that share the same beliefs. They want distance and acceptance in their relationships because they like to do what they want to do whenever they want to do it. These women do want to have fun in their relationships. They are likely to run away from a relationship that has too many problems. They want to have many adventures with their lovers. These women value honesty and hate liars. They prefer someone who doesn’t beat around the brush or someone who isn’t afraid to speak their minds.

They are always falling in love with Jupiter, the planet of expansion, optimism, and abundance. He’s a positive influence in this woman’s life. He expands her life and gives her new experiences. Anything she wants, she gets, and as much as she likes! In her life, Jupiter gives her all the benefits and opportunities she’s looking for in life. He pushes her forward and allows her to reach her dreams. With him, she never feels bad.

When dressing, they can be casual and on-the-go types, but they care about their appearance a lot. They are always concerned that they are looking fabulous and attractive. They want people to see them as the best looking woman in the room. When dressing for dates, they tend to be jaw-dropping. Sometimes, they can be a little extravagant or eccentric in their tastes. They love colors and patterns. They tend to be bold and bright. They don’t mind showing off their shapes and body. They are confident in their skin. Even when they aren’t, they learn to love themselves by highlighting what makes them feel beautiful. They love attention from suitors. They may be attracted to exotic attire, wanting to wear a Kimono if they are black or wanting to wear buckskin even though they are white. These women may have been accused of culturally appropriating at some time in their lives. In this case, they should use their desire for knowledge to do more research on the “costumes” they choose to adorn themselves with. They tend to focus on their legs, thighs, and butt. They may like wearing skirts, shorts, or tight-fitting jeans as a result.

Their idea of a date is doing something fun or adventurous. Take them somewhere amazing, almost exclusive. They love V.I.P tickets to special events or reservations to the most expensive restaurants in town. They want to experience something they can tell others about. They like to share their experiences. They want the V.I.P treatment wherever they go. They don’t mind doing an outdoor activity, but it must be wild and fun, like water skiing. The more experiences this woman has had, the harder she will be to impress. Their partners would have to reach for ‘bigger and better’. The perfect gift for them would be something they can easily carry around, something that doesn’t have too much baggage. But they still like items that are expensive and extravagant. Show them how much they mean to you. They like jewelry because they can easily put them on and keep moving. They actually prefer quantity over quality. They like being showered with many gifts even if the gifts themselves mean little to them. The best compliment for them would be to stroke their egos and make them feel amazing. They like compliments. But they prefer people who are honest and straight-forward. So don’t hold back if you think they’re hot or sexy.

These women hardly ever reject suitors. Every chance is a chance for a new experience. But if they really don’t want to date someone, they will be honest about it. They won’t sugar-coat it. The challenge suitors face is trying to catch and tie these women down. They are so tempted to try everything, it’s difficult for them to focus on one partner. If they like someone, they are open, flirty, and spontaneous about jumping into an affair. They tend to go over-board to impress someone. After all, the expansive planet Jupiter is their ruler. Love is more open in this sign, and they show it in grandiose ways.

What Venus Means in Your Chart

These women believe that all women hold themselves to the same moral and ethical values regarding womanhood and relationships. If they don’t, they feel all women should hold themselves to the same values. They can be really preachy about this. They may clash with other women as a result.

Female Sexuality: These women tend to be really comfortable with their sexuality. They believe in being honest and straight-forward. When they desire it, they just go for it! Of course, this depends on their moral and ethical values. As a mutable sign, they tend to have these conflicting views. While they are unrestricted in their idea of exploring sex, if they feel certain sexual actions are wrong, they will not do it. These women focus on strengthening women and this could be sexually as well. They feel that a woman’s sexuality is a powerful thing. Since they are focused on self-esteem and feeling positive, they believe in looking at female sexuality as a positive thing. Of course, these women must be careful of exaggerating their sexuality and boasting that it is more than what it really is.

The easiest way to arouse this women is to tempt them. They must be convinced that they are going to have a fun time. They are also tempted by partners that offer a new bedroom experience. They tend to bring their own experiences to the bedroom. They are fun partners and a little wild. They tend to like outdoor sex or other such adventurous sexual experiences. They tend to over-indulge in sex at times and should learn to moderate their tendencies (considering Venus combines with Jupiter in this position). Too much of a good thing can be bad.

If you want a woman who is fun, lively, adventurous, with high moral and ethical values, she’s the one for you. If you need commitment, want someone more quiet, someone more reserved, and looking for someone submissive, you won’t find it in these women. If you have Venus aspecting Jupiter, you may relate to this description. Venus in 9th house natives may relate to it a bit as well. Sagittarius is ruled by Jupiter, so your Jupiter sign will alter your expression. You can read the description of your Jupiter sign within this page. For example, if you have Venus in Sagittarius, Jupiter in Capricorn, you can read Venus in Capricorn to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Taurus or Libra will be affected by this planet.

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Venus in Capricorn

Capricorn

Feminine Identity: Venus enters the cardinal earthy Capricorn. This sign is ruled by the cold and calculating planet Saturn. There are some things that Venus is comfortable with here, and some things she’s not too keen on. Saturn is exalted in Venus’s own sign, Libra. Therefore, Venus understands Saturn’s need for self-control, modesty, and relationship responsibility. She relates to Capricorn’s reserved nature. But Capricorn can be a little more firm about it.

How these women were raised has a strong influence on the kind of women they are. The lesson in life for most of these women is to learn to love and respect themselves without validation from others.

Venus in Capricorn women are naturally conservative, mature, and sophisticated in their thoughts and ideas. They are cool and try not to make a big deal about too much. They often look really serious and rarely smile. I should say they have that settled sly grin. They are usually very successful and business savvy. They are able to set their feelings aside so that they can accomplish things in the world. This doesn’t mean they are unfeeling, they are just good at channeling their feelings in appropriate ways or saving them for the right time.

As women, they are not afraid of a “man’s world”.

They can be down-to-earth. They are honest and tend to be real about their feelings and thoughts. They can be sarcastic and cutting in their opinions. They don’t have patience for babyish behavior. These women hate arguing, especially over petty things. They especially don’t like cat fights. They really do believe women should learn to respect one another.

They aren’t the kinds of women that expect to be coddled and protected. They are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves.

They may be into feminine activities, but they are never over-done. Though they like pampering themselves and looking pretty, they are generally practical and may not emphasize these things. They have a natural interest in luxury or big-money items. They are generally classy girls. They seem prim and proper. Even if they have a wild streak, there is always a good girl streak within. They were raised to be well-behaved. They were also raised to be responsible and take care of themselves. They are good at taking care of their homes and balancing their careers, though sometimes it leaves them little time for pleasures.

While they may see themselves as mature, others may not see this in them. Some people may think they care too much about their status. Others may see them as attention-whores because they seem to be bent on doing anything for attention and recognition. Respect for their work and gaining recognition are very important to these ladies. No matter how others see them, though, there is always a reason for their behavior. They are capable of being objective and good at seeing things for what they really are. They also know how to sell themselves and tend to be good at the interview process.

Sometimes, though, they feel like the road to success is much harder for them than for other women. They really want to be successful, but it’s hard for them to work their charms the same way other women can, being so honest, reserved, and sarcastic, among other things. But when people finally do respect them, they always respect them for what they do rather than what they look like or rather than for any “charms”.

Among female peers, they seem like loners. They distance themselves from most people. As a result, they are easily misunderstood. They aren’t concerned exactly with other people’s opinions unless absolutely necessary. The opinions must be constructive or useful. However, they like to be at the top of their social game. They dislike feeling like failures and truly want to be admired. They generally tend to be stylish and sophisticated, so women respect and admire them at times. Other times, women find them to be cold, removed from society, sarcastic, and biting. They can be socially competitive and distrustful. Some people may feel Venus in Capricorns are consumed with their careers and reputations. Their friends find them to be cool to hang around but not the easiest to get close to. There is always a wall there. No matter how people see them, they will work hard to earn respect. They have to be careful not to envy other women who have gotten things much easier than they have. Somewhat, they like being around women who aren’t going for the same goals or women who aren’t as successful. They like to be around normal girls who are down-to-earth and easy to talk to. On the other hand, they may only respect women who have made a name for themselves and are successful in their own right. They must be careful of using friends to climb the ladder. Despite this, they are usually actually fun to be around and they have a great sense of humor.

These women carry a certain strength that is hardly found in the world of women. They are capable of conquering the world if they wanted to. These women want to feel worth it in life. They try to develop a substantial life as a result. As strong as they are, they never seem satisfied with where they are. This is why they always remain ambitious and continue challenging themselves. They always create goals for themselves and enjoy accomplishing things. These women will have accomplished a lot in their lifetime. They start moving upward at a very early age. They tend to seem very mature at a young age. As they get older, they seem younger. It’s possibly because they grew up too fast and so it’s hard for others to understand them when they grow up and change. They often already seemed grown-up to most people.

Venus in Capricorns can endure a lot. Because they try not to take things too personal, they don’t let too much shake them. People can talk about them all they want and it will never stop them from doing what they want. Still, they can get pessimistic and get depressed. They don’t mind people’s opinions, but they hate failure. Failure is never an option for them. They are patient about reaching goals and sure-footed. This is because they plan things very well. They are good at planning parties for their friends because they tend to think practically about how this can be accomplished, budget well, and are very good at turning ideas into a reality.

They are strong about boundaries and privacy. They are always aware of the consequences of their actions at all times. This can make them reserved or open. If they are looking for more results, they know just how to get the results they want. If they are trying to avoid the results, they know just how to avoid making mistakes. Everything they do is intentional because they think before they act. Friends may find them to be the “practical one”. Partners find them to be someone they can depend on. They seem truly faithful, though they aren’t too romantic. They respect tradition and tend to be close to people who are older.

To learn more, The Magnetism, Charm, and Attractive Power of Venus is a good article.

The most attractive qualities about these women are their class, their independence, their strength, and their endurance. These women are fully developed and in order. They are capable of taking care of their own lives. They carry a certain “mystery” about them because they are so independent. This is alluring to people who want a real and competent person in their lives. There is a certain luxury that follows these ladies. They seem to be of high esteem, so most people try to step to them right. If you get with them, you will have some serious social and professional connections. They usually are respected in whatever career field they get into. These ladies are cool and in control. Even in the most stressful situations, they know how to remain calm. At the same time, they are honest and straight-forward. These women are purely valuable.

Relationships: They are such busy, busy women that they hardly have time to develop a decent relationship. To add, they are so well-developed on their own, they can make their partners feel a little useless. Their idea of a relationship is something really realistic and practical. A relationship must add to their life rather than hold them back. They tend to be either drawn to partners that boost their status in some way or drawn to partners that aren’t related to their business and are someone they can relax with when the job gets too stressful. They want mature relationships. They tend to want commitment. They don’t have much time for game-playing. They also need a relationship that moves slowly and patiently. They like to take their time getting to know someone before diving in. Of course, once they do dive in, they need a clear direction. They can be really traditional in their idea of relationships. Marriage is usually in the plans in the near future. Of course, they mostly want a chilled relationship where they can relax. They have too much stress in the outer world to be dealing with it in their relationships. They like to enjoy simple luxuries with a partner. These women are not extremely affectionate or flirty. When they like someone, they spend a lot of time with that person and try to be reliable. That’s how they show they care.

They are always concerned about the consequences of their actions. Past relationships really affect their current relationships because they focus on learning from their mistakes. They also try not to let others’ mistakes become their mistakes. If they have friends or family members who have suffered poor relations with partners, they will be distrustful.

These women are constantly falling in love with Saturn, the planet of restriction, pessimism, and structure. His reserve, cool, and detached demeanor makes her feel secure and safe. The restrictions may feel suffocating, but in the end, there are no consequences. Boundaries are respected in this relationship. With him, love takes patience. It’s easy for her to feel relaxed because Saturn has everything under control. He is responsible and knows his limits. It can be a bit chilly and distant here, but always trustworthy. Saturn follows the “rules” of courtship and takes her seriously.

Some are generally conservative in their appearance. Others just like to wear the latest fashions. When dressing for special events, like dates, they vary. Some may be very modest and practical in their attire, not showing an ounce of flesh, wearing dark colors, with simple accessories. They are the classier types. Others may wear more form-fitting attire, showing off their petite figures. They may like leather. All of them look good in suits. If they are more practical, they may have more sensible accessories. If they are more luxurious, they are hardly ever seen without a name-brand item. Gucci, Prada, Calvin Klein, it will have a famous name to it. They generally like to show off their legs and they wear simple make-up that brings out their pretty smiles.

The perfect date for them is going some place that has a sense of luxury and tradition. They wouldn’t mind going to an old-fashioned restaurant that has a sense of history and style. Of course, they also like modern conveniences. The more socially conscious Venus in Caps may like socially prestigious outings, like tickets to the opera or ballet. Rent up that limo or get your car washed and waxed. They like to ride in style. It’s important for their partners to be excellent drivers. They can be very serious about their relationships and may have a long list of “dos and don’ts” when it comes to dates. The simpler girls wouldn’t mind a nice dinner in a comfortable place. They may feel guilty if too much money is spent, especially if it was out of the budget. They also don’t want to feel like they owe anyone anything. Whatever date you plan, make the plans together with them. They don’t mind surprises, but they really need to know what’s going to happen next and need to be able to fit it in their busy schedules. Save the surprises for the actual date, but don’t pop up out of nowhere to take them out. Though they seem capable of paying any bill, if you ask them out, they expect you to pay. Still, they bring their purses just in case. It’s a deal-breaker if they have to pay a large bill, though, especially if it’s because of your irresponsibility. The perfect gift would be something they like, something that matches their taste, something they will actually use, and something that doesn’t wear and tear too quickly. They like flowers, being an earth sign and all, but they don’t have the time to take care of them. Otherwise, they love sensual gifts that smell good and feel good. They really appreciate items that help them reach their goals. Some of them prefer expensive gifts. Whatever gift you give them must reveal your dedication to them. The perfect compliment would be something sincere, yet nothing too elaborate. Just a simple, “You look nice” or “I admire how hard you work”. Too much flattery makes them question your sincerity.

They are honest about everything. They are comfortable rejecting others. But they are always respectful and mature about it.The challenge many suitors face is living up to her high standards for a relationship. She is reserved, cautious, and doesn’t easily express her feelings. It’s hard to break down her wall. If they like you, they are simple and honest about it. They will more than likely just tell you if they are comfortable enough. They don’t smile much, but when they like someone, those lips will widen into a beautiful smile often.

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These women expect all women to be as strong as they are. They believe that all women are capable of taking care of themselves. They don’t have pity on women who act weak (as they think this is just an act for attention). They also don’t believe in the stereotype that all women are emotional. They have strict ideas on women’s behavior in public. They may be surprised to find that some women don’t think the way they do. Of course, they may just see any other ideas as “unrealistic”.

Female Sexuality: There are three types of Venus in Capricorn ladies sexually. There are the more conservative women who believe women should be modest and proper.  Their parents’ influence is strong. They are cautious about their sexual encounters, even when married. These women consider the consequences of everything, including sex and sex appeal. Sometimes, this makes them inexperienced sexually, which also gives them insecurities. They also have a hard time feeling sexy to their partners. They may not admit this, though, as their social reputation is very important. They also want to respect themselves and want others to respect them, too. These women are the types to promote women being more than “sexual”.

The other type of Venus in Capricorn is very experienced sexually and uses sex to gain more prestige or respect. These women seem to care a little less about their reputations, but that’s actually not the case. These women are usually caught between being honest about their sexuality and being respected by others. They may use their material accomplishments to make themselves feel better about their open sexuality, especially if they receive backlash from others. They may also use suitors as a way to boost their self-esteem. They may use their sex appeal to get ahead in their careers or to reach their goals. They may make a career out of sex or their sex appeal. People may think these women lack all self-respect, but it’s actually the opposite. They respect their sexuality so much, they hope to get others to respect their sexuality rather than hide it to gain others’ respect by hiding who they are. These women often encourage other women to love their bodies and own their sexuality. These women hope to gain a sexy reputation.

The last type is open to sexual encounters but only within the context of marriage and commitment. These women may believe in only sex after marriage. Once committed, they may be really open (even taboo) in the bedroom, though they are the types that are private about their sex lives in public. Just like the first types, they care that people respect them in the outside world and care about their public reputations. They are often well-known in their careers or highly respected among their family members, so they feel like people are always watching them. This is mainly the reason why they respond to sex by keeping their sex lives private.

Overall, all of these women associate their sexuality with their reputations. They want people to think they are sexy and pleasing to their partners, at the same time, they don’t want to seem like sluts or desperate women that rely on sex to feed their egos. This is because they really want others to respect them and they want thriving careers. So, yes, they feel the need to conform sexually in some ways (or to at least hide their dirtier streaks). There are a lot of insecurities and guilt-complexes surrounding their sexuality (It doesn’t matter what her Mars sign is). There are plenty of people who make them feel guilty about their sexuality, too.

If you want to arouse them, just be honest and tell them you want to have sex. Communicate with them. They prefer this to you jumping in with physical touch or flirting. Most of them want someone who prepares them for what’s in store. When comfortable, they have a really earthy, simple presence in the bedroom. It’s raw and lusty. They are an earth sign and quite sensual. They like to perfect and improve on their skills. They can actually be open to many different things, no matter how taboo. They like to add to their experience and become “professionals” at whatever they do. Still, they never kiss and tell. What goes on in the bedroom stays there.

If you like a woman that is career-oriented, chilled and unemotional, strong and capable, loyal and committed, you will love these women. If you want to feel needed in your woman’s life, are super affectionate, and/or unconcerned with your reputation, they may not be the one for you. If you have Venus aspecting Saturn, you may relate to this description. Venus in 10th house natives may relate to it a bit as well. Capricorn is ruled by Saturn, so your Saturn sign will alter your expression. You can read the description of your Saturn sign within this page. For example, if you have Venus in Capricorn, Saturn in Aquarius, you can read Venus in Aquarius to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Taurus or Libra will be affected by this planet.

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Venus in Aquarius

Aquarius

Female Identity: Venus enters the erratic and changeable Aquarius, ruled by changeable Uranus and limiting Saturn. Aquarius is a fixed air sign. In this sign, there are some things that are similar to her nature. She’s an air planet; Aquarius is an air sign. Venus is about close social encounters; Aquarius is the sign of friendships and associations. Both Venus and Aquarius are about fairness and justice. But they have some differences. Venus is partner-oriented while Aquarius is independent. Venus is all about physical pleasures and gratification. Aquarius can live without the material and physical world. Venus likes when things are a little more predictable and pleasant. Aquarius sweeps in with it’s changes regardless of who’s ready for them.

Venus in Aquarius women are female rebels. They rebel against any strict ideas about femininity. These women are progressive and are all about the latest ideas on “female improvement”. They are always involved in movements, clubs, groups, organizations, or religions. Feminism is one movement they support. They are strict about their freedom and independence. They may be open-minded regarding other things, but this they are firm about. Venus in Aquarius ladies want to be free to change and try new things.

This doesn’t mean they aren’t interested in feminine activities. They tend to like the latest innovations in fashion, make-up, and accessories. They are either really trendy or one step ahead of them! They are very good at starting trends because they know both how to innovative and how to appeal to the general social consciousness. Still, they don’t think their feminine interests should define them. In fact, they don’t tend to put a “gender” label on “hobbies” or “interests”. They can like skirts and dresses and still be interested in sports and technology. They may like to look nice, but they want to be respected for their brains rather than their looks. They need the freedom to be seen in many different ways.

As rebellious as they are, it’s mostly on the superficial level. In the outside world, they are open to trying new things and developing wacky hobbies. They like their dorky sides. They can be erratic and spontaneous among peers and friends. But on the inside, in the world of emotions, they have a conservative view of the world and prefer to keep things light and airy. They are all about emotional boundaries and tend to be strict about this.

These women are super intelligent and great conversationalists. They are always aware of what’s going on in the world. In fact, they have plenty of ideas on how to improve the world around them. Sometimes, they seem a little eccentric and crazy, other times they seem like geniuses. They are public-oriented and career savvy.

These women naturally care about the state of affairs in the world. They are natural humanitarians and altruistic. They’ve probably donated to more charities and other causes than any other women in the zodiac. They notice the little things that others miss. They are very observant and they are ponderers.

As caring as they are, they tend to be disconnected from others on a personal level. They often leave close intimates for outer, public pursuits. This causes a lot of confusion from people who know them well and require closer connections. They seem to care more about the world than their loved ones. Some may get the impression that their “humanitarian causes” are superficial as a result because they don’t really take the time to get to know people personally. They are very general about the people they help. As much as they hate labels, they tend to group people together in cliques or organizations with labels stamped on them. For them, who you hang with is a reflection of you. This is why they are careful about the people they associate with.

As careful as they are with their associations with others, they tend to be around the oddest people or people you would never expect them to be around. They tend to be open-minded when it comes to picking friends. They only require that their friends be just as open-minded. They don’t like to surround themselves around people that judge others (though they may be guilty of doing this from time to time).

Venus in Aquarius women are also careful about their friends because they generally like their freedom and hate emotional drama. They may be friendly and polite with everyone, but they can’t spend too much time with people who are emotionally dramatic. They are cool and aloof themselves. They keep their feelings inside. They aren’t afraid to express their thoughts and opinions, but they know when and how to keep these things to themselves. They know how to give constructive criticism without losing control of themselves and their tempers.

These girls aren’t physical fighters. They believe in civil disobedience. They believe in changing ideas through influence rather than force. They don’t want to be forced to change, so they certainly won’t try to do this to others! Still, they have an authoritative way about them that makes them seem like “know-it-alls”.

These women are generally good girls. They have a certain innocence about them. They are actually a bit shy. They can be really sweet and adorable. They have a certain beauty about them that is hard to describe.

They are a tad bit awkward in social situations. Their fellow female peers love being around them because they are so fun, funny, and awkward! Ladies feel like they can let go and be themselves in their presence. Many women may admire them and find them to be progressive and forward-thinking. Their independence is one of the most admirable traits. They are never too attached to things. They also prove to women that it is possible to pick up and move on from hurts, as they do this so effortlessly. However, some women find them to be self-righteous and flaky. As much as they have ideas they stand for, they don’t like being predictable or defined. While it’s hard to convince them they are wrong, they will change what they stand for just to be unique or different. Their individuality is very important to them. They may claim to associate with certain groups and organizations, but sometimes act contrary to what they stand for just to maintain their freedom from being labeled.

For example, a Venus in Aquarius woman may be a part of the Feminist Movement, but be a stay-at-home mom. When questioned, they will often respond, “Being a stay-at-home mom doesn’t stop me from wanting to be seen as an equal to a man. My job should be respected just like a man’s.” In this case, though they may support movements, they look at these movements as a way to ensure their freedoms, no matter how they choose to exercise those freedoms. They see freedom in the form of “rights” not “requirements”.

If they were to support female suffrage, they would push for women to have the “right” to vote, not the requirement. Therefore, sometimes, they may not choose to vote at all! And for them, that would be exercising their “rights”.

To learn more, The Magnetism, Charm, and Attractive Power of Venus is a good article.

The most beautiful qualities about this woman is her individuality, her friendliness, her kindness, her intelligence, and her quirkiness. She’s anyone’s friend. She is attractive to people of all backgrounds, creeds, and colors. She’s open-minded and willing to try new things. Her trend-setting ways make her a magnet. People often want to follow along just to see what she will try to pull off next! She’s an oddball but it makes her even cuter. She can get away with things others can’t because she times herself well. After all, she is associated with the sign of genius!

Relationships: Venus in Aquarius women are truly independent creatures with a traditional interest in romance. They love that “puppy love” kind of romance. They are always teenagers at heart. They love long walks on the beach. They like sweet, maybe quirky, little gifts. They actually tend to have an idealistic view of romance. They crush easily. They really do like to receive special attention. They really want to feel special and unique to a partner. They generally tend to like partners that are more like best friends. Friend-zone isn’t quite that bad for them as for other women. Still, they feel they should always have the choice to date someone or not. They don’t quite often think about their partner’s choices or feelings regarding this matter. As much as they love all the ambiance of romance, they would like it to have no strings attached. They still want to maintain their freedom to roam about and be involved in the public world. They don’t want baggage or drama. They don’t want any commitments that prevent them from living a free or independent life. They don’t want to be in a relationship where there are expectations. They want both partners to be equals and to work together on everything. They are generally drawn to partners that are flexible and open-minded. They are progressive, so they need partners that are progressive. They also don’t like feeling “owned” in a relationship. Even with a partner, they still feel entitled to certain rights and freedoms. They don’t like being told what to do or how to think and feel. They really hate being criticized.

These women constantly fall in love with two conflicting energies: Saturn and Uranus. Saturn is the planet of restriction, pessimism, and structure. Uranus is the planet of rebellion, eccentricity, and upheaval. They like an odd mix of both. These women love the respect of boundaries that Saturn offers. There is a cool reserve that keeps their relationship free of emotional baggage. But sometimes, a little rebellion against these rules is nice, too. They eccentric nature of Uranus keeps them free from society’s standards. This lover is never boring. He breaks all the rules. At the same time, Saturn creates some rules that prevent things from getting out of hand. With Uranus around, it can create chaos and instability. Love is full of upheaval with him. With Saturn, love is hardly expressed openly and it takes time. Still, freedom is given.

There are many fashion types coming from this sign. They are unpredictable after all. There are those that have a distinct look. They may be known for wearing jackets all the time or wearing a pink hair bow. They may have an eccentric look, like trying punk or Gothic looks. Their style may be very individual. They may also dress to represent some club or subculture they support. The other type of Venus in Aquarius is always changing their fashion identity. They like trying the latest styles, cosmetics, and accessories before anyone else. Their outfits may seem to come right off the runway! They may even be good at designing their own fashions. The last type may be those that are uninterested in fashion and cosmetics, preferring to express their natural beauty. They may be more conservative and modest, preferring to be known for their brains rather than their bodies. These types reject objectification. When going on a date, expect the unexpected. They may usually look really casual on a day to day basis, and then suddenly look like a bombshell when going on a date. It all depends on the date they go on. If you’re taking them to a ball game, for example, they won’t see the need to wear a dress. They may wear all the sports gear necessary to support their favorite team instead. They are always perfect for the occasion. Still, they always manage to add their own personal touch to everything they wear. They want their partners to think they are both attractive and original.

When it comes to the perfect date…surprise them. They really like to go places at random and spontaneous moments. Kidnapping them from work or school (not literally, but maybe :P) and taking them to the beach or to an amusement park would be the perfect way to woo these ladies. They are okay with the dinner, flowers, and candy, too, but the man that is creative and random will win their heart much faster. They also like to go to new places or events. It’s hard to surprise and impress these ladies. They act like they’ve seen and done everything (some have). The easiest way to get around this is to take them to a newly opened restaurant, a rare event, or some place that is difficult to find. If you aren’t able to take them to any special, new places, it’s up to the partner to make the night full of unexpected surprises! Use your creativity. Even when it comes to gift-giving. Make sure it’s both surprising and romantic. The presentation is probably more important than the actual gift. Placing a diamond necklace in a piece of cake or a surprise visit from a florist with a bouquet of roses from you would be good ideas. They like awkward, cheesy compliments. They like being told they are beautiful and amazing and special. They like when you point out random quirks that you like. They prefer sweet compliments to vulgar compliments. And they like intelligent compliments, too.

If they aren’t interested in a suitor, they will be outspoken but polite. They are generally open-minded, so they may give anyone a chance. But if they’ve observed the individual, and found the person to be obnoxious and mean, they will not hesitate to reject that person. However, it’s not their style to be mean. The challenge potential lovers may face is tying these ladies down and picking the right time to do so. They not only love freedom, they need it. Even if they do like someone, these women are super involved in the world. They have many progressive ideas that they want to implement and don’t really have time for commitment. They are cautious about getting with individuals because they want to be with people who won’t confine them to stereotypical roles. If they like someone, the spontaneous Aquarius suddenly shies away. They have a hard time addressing their feelings. They may spend a lot of time communicating with the individual, trying to drop hints, or slipping in their interests within the conversation. The more outspoken types may find the most random or surprising moments to confess their interest. These girls tend to make friends with those people they are interested in.

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Their beliefs on women are molded by the generation they are raised in. They tend to think that other women are just as progressive as they are. They may feel that all women want the same freedoms and rights. They may not be prepared for women to disagree with them. Still, they believe that eventually, other women will catch up to them in time. They are the outspoken ones that speak out on issues they have. They have to be careful not thinking that their view of the world is for the best of everyone.

Female Sexuality: In idea, Venus in Aquarius women are open to all sorts of sexual experiences and identities. They are open-minded. They have no qualms with trying heterosexuality, homosexuality, or even asexuality. Even if they won’t try it all, they respect others’ stand on sexuality. They aren’t afraid of internet sex or even porn. They may even enjoy erotic literature. But “ideas” and “actions” are two different things. Generally, these women could take or leave sex. They are actually asexual creatures that prefer a good friendship to a romp to romp in the bedroom. They are open to everything when they actually have sex, but they seldom do. If they do have sex, it must have no strings attached. As random as they are in thought, life keeps them conservative in this regard. There are a lot of things about sex that bother them. For one, they hate the emotional attachment some people get after the experience and they are afraid of getting too involved emotionally themselves. They don’t want to feel weighed down with feelings. Second, they hate the idea of getting pregnant when they’re not ready (which is usually never) and they don’t want to feel tied down with a family or extra baggage. Some may believe in sex after marriage, but they also don’t like the idea of marriage too tough unless they are sure the relationship will remain the same it was before marriage (in this way, they hate change just like any other fixed sign). Some may like having a friendship with benefits sort of thing, where both parties agree to stay friends no matter what happens. In this case, they may be very open sexually.

In modern times, Venus in Aquarius women can explore sex without worrying about having children. This is why they love progress! We have more tools to help prevent unwanted pregnancies. Venus in Aquarius women also like homosexuality for this reason as well. They don’t have to worry about pregnancy then. Of course, these women always have to live with the fact that people will not accept their open views on sexuality.

Still, there is always emotional baggage when dealing with sexual encounters. They are particular about their sexual partners as a result. They don’t want anyone possessive or anyone desperate for it all the time. They may like to explore sex in a way that doesn’t involve actual physical penetration. Venus in Aquarius women are not the types to dress overly sexual or exploit their sexuality. They don’t really care for a whole lot of attention in that regard. There are some of them that want to be respected for their brains so much they reject sexual expression. They tend to have a lot of self control regarding this. But they are not afraid to express their sexual ideas or tell others where they stand sexually. Sex is more of a mental thing rather than anything physical. And they really dislike sexual partners that are all about the physical.

These women aren’t easily aroused. Their thoughts must be touched first. They are more aroused by someone with an intelligent mind. Spark up an engaging conversation. Offer to try something new. They will be more aroused by someone who is more like a friend than a lover. They will be aroused in a chilled environment. In the bedroom, they are light, fun, and open to new techniques, but they have a bit of reserve and distance. They aren’t extremely emotional or passionate. Believe it or not, they may have a hard time letting go, being reluctant to tie themselves down to someone else and fearing messy emotions. They may love a good conversation even when making love. They may love to play with “toys”. If you want to get them out of their minds and into their bodies, be creative. Let it happen casually without a big to-do.

If you like women who are independent, good friends, open-minded, both sweet and intellectual, you will love these women. If you get emotionally involved sexually, want a traditional woman, looking for a partner you can spend lots of time with, or looking for stability and consistency, they are not the ones for you. If you have Venus aspecting Saturn or Uranus, you may relate to this description. Venus in 11th house natives may relate to it a bit as well. Aquarius is ruled by Saturn and Uranus, so your Saturn and Uranus signs will alter your expression. You can read the description of your Saturn and Uranus sign within this page. For example, if you have Venus in Aquarius, Saturn or Uranus in Pisces, you can read Venus in Pisces to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Taurus or Libra will be affected by this planet.

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Venus in Pisces

Pisces

Female Identity: Venus enters Neptune’s and Jupiter’s sign, her exalted position, Pisces last. Here, she is at her best. She sheds her physical skin for something more spiritual (or rather translucent). Here, love is boundless (they tend to see friendship, family, and romantic love as equal forms of love and they have no qualms with homosexuality and asexuality, seeing both as acceptable as heterosexuality). Beauty is limitless. Friendship is forever. Anything else you can think of that transcends the boundaries of our normal reality relates to Neptune and the sign of Pisces.  Venus can get a lot accomplished in the realm of dreams. Of course, she’s more at home with physical pleasures usually. Here, she’s reaching places she’s never reached before, but not without sacrifice. With Pisces being ruled by Jupiter, the other benefic planet, Venus sees that nothing but good can come from this sign. There is a strong moral and idealistic lean coming from planet Jupiter which makes love seem far more beautiful than it ever does in her own home. Of course, Jupiter is the planet of exaggeration…

The women of this placement usually fit the feminine ideal. The reason for this is not because they care about their reputation or social status. They are actually recluses and prefer to be isolated from others. They are generally really shy. They fit the feminine ideal because they are easily moved and inspired by the women around them. They are always admiring and looking to someone else as a guide rather than seeing their own potentials. These women always have heroines that they look up to. When they want to be like someone else, they will try to embody the qualities they admire so much. Sometimes, they better see their own potentials through other women, almost projecting their own strengths on others. They don’t often have a whole lot of esteem and look for others to empower them and make them feel stronger.

They definitely feel much stronger in numbers, but they are scared of being hated or judged. They are afraid of stronger personalities because they generally like to go with the flow rather than worry about things. They get easily stressed out around “Type A” personalities. Because of this, they tend to be drawn to more easy-going company.

While they get lonely and lost easily and want to connect with someone, they also need quiet time alone and hate drama. Trying to find a balance can be hard for them and confusing for others.

Venus in Pisces women don’t like showing their vulnerabilities, so they may seem a little cold or distant to mask their weaknesses. But they spend a lot of time with themselves because they are so sensitive. They are so in tune with the vibes around them, they often need to take a step back to really understand their own vibes. They can easily understand how people feel and think. They are excellent listeners and they can definitely keep a secret. They really absorb too much around them. This makes them weak physically at times and they tend to tire easily. They often reflect the ideas of someone else rather than their own. They must be careful of repeating other people’s ideas and passing it off as their own.

Some of these women’s favorite hobbies are sleeping and dreaming. They also enjoy reading, watching movies, and surfing the internet. They love to escape from everyday pressures. They have a large imagination. They can also be a little naive. It’s easy to reach their heart with things that sound too good to be true. They are easily drawn into subcultures that provide an alternative lifestyle. Many of them might be interested in Kpop and have a huge obsession with Korea. Some of them might be fascinated with Frozen and anything associated. Venus in Pisces can be impressionable and can find inspiration for their dreams anywhere!

These women make excellent friends when they’re around their friends, but it’s hard to rely on them to do important things. Again, they get stressed out over little things. They might be late for their best friend’s birthday party or they may cancel dates with friends for no apparent reason. This isn’t because they are phony, but they need a lot of time to themselves to build themselves up. Their moods change from day to day. This may surprise people who don’t understand this side to them. They like to relax and take things easy. They don’t want to be around people who don’t understand them.

These women enjoy all the things that make a girl a girl. They usually tend to have strong artistic, creative leans. They see the art in all kinds of fashion, cosmetics, and accessories. Their vibes are tuned into the latest fashions, even if they don’t particularly care to wear them. Venus in Pisces can appreciate the beauty in others without actually seeing that beauty in themselves. Though these women may be girly, they have many different faces. Being the planet of illusion, they can really be any girl they want to be! They tend to change faces according to who they’re around. Again, this isn’t because they are phony all the time. It’s mostly because they want to get along with everyone, and they easily merge with people of various backgrounds. They must be careful not to get with the wrong types of people. They will easily get caught up doing things that prove detrimental.

Venus in Pisces women are often envious of other women who are able to go after what it is they actually want. These tender-hearted, gentler souls have a hard time standing up for themselves and being noticed. They have a hard time making a move. They tend to admire women who can so easily do things they can’t do. What they may not realize is just how many people actually admire them! They don’t generally think too much of themselves and actually consider themselves underdogs. Other people may find them to be sweet, kind, playful, and easy-going. They may not be the most popular women around, but no one ever says they dislike them.

These women may not seem outgoing, but when alone, they can accomplish anything! Without others pressuring them, they are quite independent. They are capable of taking care of themselves when they don’t have to deal with others.

Of course, some of their peers may find them to be deceptive. Some women may recognize their fickleness and wishy-washy nature. They never seem to stick with anything and seem uncomfortable with everything. They may annoy women who wish they would just speak up and do something. They have too much to consider before they act. They have their own methods of doing things and other women may not understand this. They really can’t tell others “no”. They are so deeply in touch with their own inner feelings, they don’t want to do to others they wouldn’t want done to themselves. They hate hurting others’ feelings and creating bad blood between themselves and others. Sometimes, they can be manipulative or play one against another. They may have secret complaints that they tell to one party but may say something different to someone else. They also try to get friends to speak for them rather than saying what they want confidently. Sometimes, they also will deny they dislike someone or avoid people they don’t like rather than tell them they dislike them. They tend to keep their friendship circle tight.

Despite their tendencies, they are genuinely caring and compassionate. They always try to do the right thing by others. If they do something wrong, it’s easy to make them feel guilty about it. They have strong moral and ethical values. They tend to merge their moral principles with others, seeing how all people share a desire to do the right thing.

With the right support and push, they can become excellent leaders because they are good at uniting others under one goal, idea, or principle. They are open to people’s differences, they are good at sharing ideas, and they are creative about putting their ideas out in the public. Best of all, they are generally humble about it. They may need help making things more concrete, but they are good at inspiring others and making them feel more positive about their goals. They encourage people to dream big.

To learn more, The Magnetism, Charm, and Attractive Power of Venus is a good article.

These women transcend the physical realm when it comes to beauty. Their beauty is on a plane us “lower” folks can’t understand or appreciate. They see beauty in terms of the inner workings of the soul, through a beautiful mindset. In other words, they believe many things can be beautiful besides the outer appearance. They truly believe there is beauty in everything in the universe. These women often have many beautiful qualities themselves, whether on the outside or purely on the inside. Their ideologies translate outward towards others. People often have at least one good thing to say about them. They often absorb their environment so well, they can come off different to many people. They are good at projecting an image of beauty towards others through visual art, like through paintings, film, or photography. They best translate their charms through these mediums because they are actually typically shy around others. Not everyone will notice their charms on a more intimate level, but those who get hold of them will realize their luck! No one is as sweet and demure as these ladies. There is a pure quality about them that seems both enchanting and vulnerable. Others just feel a need to jump to their aid and assist them. Their innocent eyes draw others in all the time. There is also a mysterious air about them. They seem both easy and difficult to really tie down.

Relationships: These women love to dream. They are content with their romantic fantasy rather than a real romantic life. Sometimes, they hope their romantic dreams will come true and will go throughout life looking for the perfect partner to fit their love story. These are the types of women that get caught up in literature like Twilight and hope to find that vampire-like man. Or maybe they are interested in Kpop group EXO, dreaming of meeting one of the members and falling in love. Whatever the love scenario, the idea is usually beautiful and idealistic. In their relationship vision, their partners love them always, no matter what. There are no problems, no arguing. They are always attractive and special. Anything they ask for is done without rejection or complaint. They are soul mates. Their partners are never disappointed. Life is always amazing when with their lovers.

Back to reality and we realize that Venus in Pisces seems to always be in their own romantic world. They are always searching for a “Mr. Right”. They are always trying to set love up like a scene in a play. Unfortunately, we can’t pick and choose who we want to love us (or who we love). Sometimes, love comes in unexpected ways. Their problem is not seeing people for who they really are and seeing a perception or vision of them. The reality will reveal real human imperfections. Not everyone will accept everything these women offer. Venus in Pisces women will continuously have to make sacrifices to really achieve their dream. Sometimes, they end up losing those who are really right for them, all while chasing a “dream”. Even when they do reach that dream, sometimes it’s not all it’s cracked up to be, either. There are always pros and cons to everything. No situation is ideal. They have to learn that it takes work for all of us to make relationships work. They view relationships in the context of love. For them, love is forgiving, acceptance, kindness, and sincerity. Love is pure and innocent. They are therefore looking for partners without standards, partners that don’t cause any problems in their lives, partners that make them feel like they are strong, amazing, courageous, or anything they dream of being. It’s not realistic at all. They may feel ashamed because of this so they might keep these dreams stored at the back of their minds. They don’t want to to be judged or criticized. They know they can’t help desiring their dream-like relationship.

At the root of their dreamy natures are deep insecurities. They don’t feel that unique or special. They don’t feel like they are able to conquer the world the way they want to. They are hoping someone will come and “save them” from themselves and help them escape what they feel is a harsh and unsympathetic world. Instead of having to change, they just finally want to be accepted for who they are. They are truly tired of molding to please. But the issue isn’t that no one accepts them, but that they haven’t learned to accept themselves. Until they do that, they will always feel like something is missing in their relationships and they will feel insecure. Until they do that, they will always feel like to have to make sacrifices in order to please others. These women may have a hard time feeling good enough in a real relationship. In their dreams, they can do anything. In real life, everyone has limitations and they have many. They are hard on themselves because they expect too much of themselves. And when they are hard on themselves, it makes it harder on their partners as well. Their partners may not be alone, but they may still end up feeling lonely. These women may often feel this way at times, too.

In an actual relationship, these women are playful and sweet and flirty (in a subtle way), but a little distant. They may like to chill with their partners and do quiet activities. Still, they need some time alone with their thoughts. They have a hard time with commitment and are really freedom-loving at heart. Too much pressure is sure to make them run away. They are too sensitive to be criticized. Whatever you have to say, say it honestly but gently.

These ladies are constantly falling in love with Jupiter and Neptune. Jupiter is the planet of expansion, optimism, and abundance. Neptune is the planet of imagination, dreams, and delusions. These women are in love with the Neptune the most. He’s dreamy! Everything about him seems to have stepped out of her favorite movie, book, and/or music video. He’s everything she imagined a lover would be. He whisks her away from this harsh world. Neptune isn’t always understood by everyone else, but this lady understands him, no matter what anyone thinks. Jupiter makes a great lover as well. His positive spirit keeps her in bliss. There is never anything going wrong in her love affair with Jupiter. He only sees the good in her. He adds so much to her life, expanding her world beyond normal, everyday thinking. He’s her savior. There is much wealth and happiness with Jupiter. They both live happily ever after.

As far as fashion goes, they are actually not superficial women. They tend to dress comfortably majority of the time. But they look amazing in everything! They honestly wouldn’t mind someone picking their clothes out for them. When going on dates, they are usually unsure about what to wear overall. They tend to have a creative and artistic mind, but they have a hard time translating that in their actual wardrobe. Some of them have such abstract visions, they look really eclectic sometimes. Often times, they settle with something feminine and something that may be generally attractive to most people. They especially sacrifice their personal style to be more attractive to someone they really like. Other women influence their viewpoint on clothing, too. If they are currently inspired by women who encourage being modest, they will choose modest looks. If they are currently inspired by a rock star, they may wear punk attire. Whoever inspires their look will have the most influence on their style. Depends on when you catch them. They are generally shy, so they never wear anything too revealing. They tend to be colorful. They have clothes in many colors, patterns, or designs.

Their idea of a perfect date is something that sets them in their favorite scenario. They love just spending time with someone they love. Treat them gently. Care for them. They can go on any date as long as their partners are romantic and sweet. They are not about the money. In fact, they see love as something that goes beyond the material world. Material things do not necessarily impress them. They appreciate anything you give them, but it’s never the fancy gifts you give them or the fancy places you take them. They are just happy to be on their partners’ minds. If they feel that soul connection, like they were meant to be with you, everything will feel right to them. They usually use their vibes to determine whether someone is right for them. They often tend to see things others miss. In this case, they must be careful of seeing things that aren’t there. They may see someone as sweet when they are really evil. They generally want to see the good in everyone, but not everyone deserves their kindness. They must be careful of being used and abused.

As far as compliments, they can take them or leave them. They want to know they are loved more than anything. The most important words for them are “I love you”. They want to feel like their partners have eyes only for them. They want to feel that their partners love being around them. That three letter word is worth more than any compliments. Most compliments just make them shy.

If the person that asked them out seemed really nice and sweet, even if they don’t like them, they will feel bad about rejecting the person. They can easily put themselves in someone else’s shoes. They try to be nice. They may avoid the person or date the person just so they won’t hurt the person’s feelings. If they’ve observed an individual, and found the person to be mean and rude to others, they will definitely reject the person without looking back. They may not be rude, but they will be honest. The challenge many potential lovers face is actually tying them down to a relationship and then trying to live up to their ideal  expectations. They really assume the best in people and see what they want to see in others. It’s hard for individuals to live up to their “perfect visions”. Staying on their good side can seem hard because they are so sensitive to any negativity. While it’s easy to land a date with these ladies, it’s difficult to get theAside from this, they dislike duty and routine, believe it or not. They like to go with the flow and may not be reliable in a stable relationship. They don’t like hurting feelings, so they may not always make a definite choice in love. It’s hard to get them to commit. If they like someone, they are super shy about showing it. They may act more sweet, demure, and nicer than normal. They have a soft flirting style. They may show more of an interest in everything the individual does, asking questions or observing. They tend to dress to impress the object of their affections. They may be a little moody, playing the role of “hopeless romantic”. It’s hard for these shy souls to get their feelings across because they are so often misunderstood.

These women tend to feel that all women are sensitive and more caring than men. They generally do feel that all women have a need to feel understood. But they can understand that not every woman will see things the way they do. In fact, they are capable of adapting new ideas into their own minds.

Female Sexuality: These women aim to please, but they are generally shy of the whole sexual experience. They need a gentle, considerate, and attentive partner until they become more comfortable with their own sexuality. They are more open to alternative sexual practices like phone sex or porn. The actual act is something a little deeper for them. At the end of their fantasies, they are often giving their bodies to their lovers. Many of them fear the experience will not be as they dreamed. They are also afraid for the dream to be over. Sometimes, they feel confusion over their sexuality, not sure what they desire. Many of them enjoy a pure relationship, released from the chains of the physical. If only we could procreate without intercourse! Venus in Pisces women would be all aboard.

Their moral and ethical beliefs influence their sexuality as well. They are usually tuned into current trends regarding female sexuality. They actually like to read books regarding relationships and sex. They often seek advice. Depending on their stand, they may or may not be open to everything. It’s best to discuss this woman’s ideas. Partners may have to help her reveal and overcome her insecurities. No matter how open she is sexually, these women never feel good enough because they are always searching for the ideal sexual situation rather than just letting go and releasing their inner desires. More than likely sex will be pure and looked at in the context of love-making.

Venus in Pisces women can be alluring. They usually give themselves completely to their lovers and let their partners take the lead. Some Venus in Pisces women may act fragile and innocent to entice their lovers. They need to be careful of allowing partners to just do anything to them sexually, even things that are dangerous. When they let down their defenses, they can be extremely vulnerable. These women may secretly like “humiliation” in sex. They may love wearing costumes as a form of foreplay (their ruling planet, Neptune, is associated with illusion). Still, most need to know they are loved. The easiest way to arouse their sexual desire is to keep telling them how much you love them, how much they complete your life, and how much you appreciate all they have done for you. Really boost their esteem as much as you can. Create a romantic scenario.

If you love a woman who is sweet, accepting, forgiving, and dreamy, this is the woman for you. If you’re more physical, realistic, impatient with passive people, and/or looking for someone more open and confident, she may not be the one for you. If you have Venus aspecting Jupiter or Neptune, you may relate to this description. Venus in 12th house natives may relate to it a bit as well. Pisces is ruled by Jupiter traditionally and Neptune, so your Jupiter and Neptune signs will alter your expression. You can read the description of your Jupiter and Neptune signs within this page. For example, if you have Venus in Pisces, Jupiter or Neptune in Aries, you can read Venus in Aries to see if it sounds more familiar to you. Any planets or house placement cusps in Taurus or Libra will be affected by this planet.

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I hope you enjoyed this article. Sorry for the length. :/ But I hope you’re able to understand women and their feminine energy a little more. Leave me a comment and let me know what you think! Share your Venus sign!

Venus the goddess is everywhere there is love, peace after war, beauty and style, comfort and pleasure

Venus the goddess is everywhere there is love, peace after war, beauty and style, comfort and pleasure

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